To girls of this site: do you hate it when guys treat you differently just because you're a girl?

[Kain10th]

And conversely do you think you'd also hate it if guys treated you like another guy?

 

[Aurora]

I don't find guys treat me any differently online. The internet is faceless and no one knows whether the person they're talking to is legit male or female anyway.

 

[liluglibih]

I don't find guys treat me any differently online. The internet is faceless and no one knows whether the person they're talking to is legit male or female anyway.

Yh same. In real life though? It sucks. I find that I can vibe better with guys sometimes but it never works because they usually go and try something that makes the relationship weird. Also a lot of the time if a guy doesn't think you are fuckable they won't really give you the time of day. Same with some girls actually(if they don't think you are pretty.. or if they DO think you are pretty, then you're some kind of a threat), I wish people weren't so preoccupied with that shit and focused on the person in front of them

 

[Kain10th]

I don't find guys treat me any differently online. The internet is faceless and no one knows whether the person they're talking to is legit male or female anyway.

What about in real life?

 

[hoping to lose hope]

I am not like the other girls

 

[Weary Soul]

No, not really, but it depends on what you mean by differently.

For eg,

My body, by nature IS different from males (eg., I am not as physically strong as most males or as tall) to dislike this just because I am female seems futile.

On the other hand, if a male has a misogynistic view of women and treats me with that kind of mind set - imma walk away without looking back (been there done that - never going there again).

<3

 

[summers]

I am not like the other girls

I find your posts to be very gender-neutral. You have a fantastic way of writing.

When you say you are not like the other girls, is that specifically online, or in person as well?

 

[degeneratewaste]

@Kain10th, I feel like this question is pretty broad.

what do you mean by 'differently'? any elaboration there at all?

 

[hoping to lose hope]

When you say you are not like the other girls, is that specifically online, or in person as well?

Well idk I just do not like to see as gender being relevant yah know unless it relates to the context of a situation.
I think that is the only time it even matters at all because online we should treat everyone genderless within reason...

 

[goodbyebunny]

The negatives outweigh the positives.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

The negatives outweigh the positives.

this so much..
Like you have to be weary as guysfor whatever reason can be creepy or treat you different so not genuine :(
I think best not to reveal gender usually

 

[KleinerWolf]

Not related to this site but still:

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I'm a guy,
And once I catfished on a fake money gambling ios app

With pretty picture like this one,


and I had a middle aged taxi-driver from Uk,
Sending me in-game free gifts

lol...
I find it sad and funny at the same time.


P.s. shoutout to people who know her.
Although I don't think u will.


also, shoutout to all the ladies in this thread since I'm probably the only guy commenting here.

 

[cii]

Ehh, I don't mind either, like I've noticed some guys are a little more polite. Only time I get rattled is when they treat me as inferior or below them in any way, be it in gaming, school, work life etc cuz of my gender.

 

[everydayiloveyou]

I don't think boys treat me any differently just because I'm a girl. However, I do feel like some boys act very differently towards girls they find available & attractive vs. girls they don't feel attracted to. This seems to extend to how they treat other boys too. Girls do the same thing I guess but I've always felt like girls are better at pretending to put up with you. It's more embarrassing to them to be the obvious villain.

Ultimately though I'd prefer for them to treat me with respect. Whether that means being treated like a "boy" or "girl" doesn't matter. Regardless of gender, we're all people with feelings, dreams, and interests. Gender should hardly affect these things because most of us have the same reactions to general situations. We feel sad and frustrated when we're being bullied, we feel happy when we get a compliment, frustrated when we can't get something right, etc.

 

[JustABunchOfAtoms]

I get mistaken for a guy on this forum

 

[Disappointered]

There is always something that will go wrong in male and female friendships. It's sad but true.

Edit: just realized the title asks girls and i'm not one so feel free to delete this if you wish.

 

[LastFlowers]

Most people don't know who is what on here unless they make it abundantly clear.
One way to get treated differently (aka get attention) is to have an avatar of an attractive person, a lot of the community is just as superficial as the outside world unfortunately. There are also those who use such pictures to scam vulnerable and desperate members who succumb to treating this site like a dating app. I encountered one such individual-not from a scam but from them being a general ass to me on public threads-and they have since been banned. I'm sure they are back in another form however, with many others like them.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I hope there aren't any girls on this site.

 

[summers]

Most people don't know who is what on here unless they make it abundantly clear.
One way to get treated differently (aka get attention) is to have an avatar of an attractive person, a lot of the community is just as superficial as the outside world unfortunately. There are also those who use such pictures to scam vulnerable and desperate members who succumb to treating this site like a dating app. I encountered one such individual-not from a scam but from them being a general ass to me on public threads-and they have since been banned. I'm sure they are back in another form however, with many others like them.

I think, maybe, some people could make a connection on here as more than friends. But this really, really is not the place to try to hook up with people. If anything, I think you can make genuine friends on ss because the majority of people on here are open minded, and may be the only people who understand what you're going through.

 

[Disappointered]

Technically that means they're not adults but the way the word is used doesn't mean they have to be underage or treated in a patronizing manner. People use that word to refer to others who are in their twenties as the opposite of guys.

 

[CoalmineCanary]

Depends on the context.
Mansplaining doesn't help your case.
Treat me like a human being as you wish to be treated in friendship and in jest.
It's really simple. Talk and treat me like a human and I'll feel like a human and do the same for you.

 

[peacechoice]

Yeah, I guess I always get ignored cuz I'm ugly.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

One way to get treated differently (aka get attention) is to have an avatar of an attractive person, a lot of the community is just as superficial as the outside world unfortunately.

Why people use an image of people including themselves on the internet as an avatar is beyond my understanding.
People on here are just as human as anywhere else though... I hate when people treat me superficially for silly reasons... gahhh

Mansplaining doesn't help your case.

It would be best not to add gender to non gender specific things like complaining...

 

[MindFrog]

It does break my heart when i expected friendship but some guys treat it like a stepping stone for dating. Kinda made me feel like i got lied to.

It gets worse because i cant properly detect social ques. So i dont know if someone's flirting or just being friendly.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

It does break my heart when i expected friendship but some guys treat it like a stepping stone for dating. Kinda made me feel like i got lied to.

And the worst thing is that it makes you feel that they were never genuine with you from the moment they realized you are a girl.
You can be talking to a guy online for literally a year and be friends and discover they had other intentions from the get go when you made it CLEAR you are not looking to be in a relationship with anyone...
Why do men flirt with woman online? is this normal and accepted at all? I would not know.

 

[raindrops]

but we are different. okay, this will probably sound awful to some...
i wish i could go back in time to the 1930's/40's/50's but with some of the changes we have today.
im grateful for the rights us women have today, dont get me wrong here. women should always of been able to read and write for example, and anyone in the right mind wouldnt hit a woman, or a man of course, see i had to say "or a man" today is so over opinionated, ugh i wont get into it but men are considerably stronger than women, but yes an abuser is an abuser, regardless of sex. anyway thats not what im talking about...

i just love the idea of looking after a husband, being the one who cleans, cooks, house proud, you know all of those "stereotypical" things.
if you think of these marriages that have lasted 50+ years its because the woman knew her role, thats right i said role. women should be kind, caring, considerate, somewhat feminine and dare i say obedient too, im right, i sound wrong because its 2020 and i should be more PC, well no, i wont be. like i say if you look at older, elderly couples they have lasted because i bet 9 out of 10 of these women were what i described. the man went to work, the woman usually stayed at home and looked after the children or house, cooked dinner, cleaned, all of those things and with those things being done, kept a man happy. all of that and the fact a man wanted to provide for his wife, that made them i suppose feel manly, oops i said manly, ffs. and yes it shown independence, a woman was not inferior because she did/does these things, not at all. anyway, those times have gone.

i love it when a man says " back to the kitchen" im like yeah i will thanks, i cook well, clean well too actually. shame some of those ignorant men wont have someone to do them things for them. but yeah, i like being , can i say...weaker one, you know, feminine, all those stereotypical things ;D shame i cant stay at home all day while a man works and i clean, cook. i wish i lived in the 30's/40's/50's....

 

[peacechoice]

Well, I should clarify. In real life, I wouldn't really get treated any way because I'm ugly. On this site, people sometime don't really know what you are, which is great.

 

[hoping to lose hope]

if you think of these marriages that have lasted 50+ years its because the woman knew her role, thats right i said role.

Largely agree with your post and perspective and I will not go into the societal impact that normalizing divorce has had for example destruction of the nuclear family but I will say that woman then did not have the ability to leave a loveless marriage as they can today.
It is great you embrace your gender role and seek to nurture and care for a man while he provides. I hope you are able to find a man to be a traditional wife for.
Sadly men these days are pretty much entirely addicted to porn so finding a traditional man may be hard.

 

[MindFrog]

i just love the idea of looking after a husband, being the one who cleans, cooks, house proud, you know all of those "stereotypical" things.
if you think of these marriages that have lasted 50+ years its because the woman knew her role, thats right i said role.

I think there's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife. But we should also consider the women who wants a different role, even the ones who are not even heterosexual in the first place.

I also want to point out that some older couples last longer, because divorce wasnt even an option. You never know who's suffering behind the happy faces of a couple.

Just my two cents on the topic.

 

[raindrops]

It would be best not to add gender to non gender specific things like complaining...

my problem with 2020 is just this.
like seriously? i cant say mansplaining, cant say manly, cant say get back to the kitchen, cant say women are the weaker one, physically, unless you bloody powerlift daily, even then a man who powerlifts daily will still be stronger.
what happened to logic, what happened to freedom of speech, why was i born in this era, why, why, why is santa not real.
its all gender this, dont say this, dont say that. if its racist or flat out bang derogatory what is wrong with saying mansplaining... oh wait there is nothing.