Tired of navigating the world as a woman

[bluville]

Won't get into specifics but it's just exhausting especially in Andrew Tate era, it feels like every week in looking at a rape case or whatever and reading people debate on if it's the woman's fault she got raped for whatever reason. Or there's the deep fake drama and the amount of men I see trying to defend that shit is enough for me to CTB. I hate how in 2023 we're at the point where posting your photos online is enough to justify men sexualizing you lmao. I hope I don't get banned for this but it's stuff like this that makes it really hard for my to give a fuck about men's rights. Like bro you expect me to care about you being lonely while you're arguing for unconsenting deepfake porn? And why whoevers me too case is trending is actually the womens fault or whatever.

My narcissistic ex used being misogyny to completely slander me, I don't even care much about the people who hate me now but still it fucking sucks. Even my previous ex listened to him and I tried to be a cool girlfriend but fuck that holy shit. Fuck all of this, I don't really hold misanthropic but thinking about this shit really makes me hate the world. I can't imagine raising a daughter to live through this or a son only for them to become like the rest, it hurts to think about.


Im really exhausted and tipsy so if this is jumbled and makes no sense that's why

 

[nikaido]

i feel you omg! i feel the exact same, i just wish people looked at me as a human being, not just a woman...

 

[hellispink]

It is very hard to live in this world as a woman or as even a plant. It is hurtful to be blame, to be expected this and that. I am so tired of being sexualized too. It is like people do not care about anything but what they have as genitals. It is indeed a sad society.
Out of topic, I really like Ayaka's pic. Are a you a player of GI?

 

[HayBunny23]

Lots of men, especially American men, seem to be very scared and isolated. I can't speak for every man but from what I've seen, this is the general feeling of those men you're referring to. They only get worse as before they were "guaranteed" an outlet by forcing women to be reliant on them financially. Now that this isn't the case, they are more and more isolated and they get more and more angry about it.
Their anger has made them lose lots of control over themselves, and the isolation makes them seek community like Andrew Tate.
Men need to learn how to be friends with each other in a good way. Men need to learn how to value communication and support each other in a positive way. Positive gym bros are my favorite type of men to watch interact, because they just hype each other up so much. Gets me hyped too.
Once they learn how friendship works around other men, then they can try it with women. I just don't think they are ready to be friend with women before they learn how to be a friend before they deal with sensitive beings like women. It's a fact that lots of men need to face: women's baseline existence is fear. They need to learn how to be less aggressive overall to make women less fearful, but so far thru history, they haven't done very well with that one.
I try my best to be sympathetic to most people, but I do tend to agree with some of your sentiments.. its really hard to give an Eff about someone when their reply to your feelings or worries is dismissive, if not straight out aggressively fighting you about it.
Hell, I'll even go on sites to chat with these guys who claim they are so lonely, no friends, ect. I figured, I'm depressed and lonely, they are too, let's chat and make friends! Nope, they don't care about my doggo pics, only want kitty pics, if you get my drift. Oh well, you can watch p@rn then and I'll talk to a wall naked, accomplishes about the same thing.

 

[littlelady774]

One of my friends is a huge Andrew Tate fan and he always interrupts or talks over me. It's very frustrating

 

[VioletNight]

There's a ton of creepy men who claim they want a relationship but really just want someone to clean up after them and have sex when they want it. It's much harder to accept that women don't want you because of your behavior than it is to blame it on all women just being "bitches" and such.

Also screw your ex, I'm sorry you had to go through that. You deserve better.

 

[aticeret]

Hope Tate rots in cold dirty prison cell until death and his fans gain some basic human empathy. I remember reading a thread here with a guy defending the bastard regarding criminal accusations. A sorry sight.

 

[immrw]

Yep. I don't feel safe anywhere. Tired of men looking at me like a piece of meat. Can't even count the number of times a guy "friend" has touched me inappropriately without asking if it's okay. Tired of men arguing that they have it just as bad as women. They're mad at women because they're lonely and no one will fuck them? I'm mad at men because they violently attack women on a daily basis. Maybe I could empathize if they all weren't huge misogynists. The worst are the guys who just laugh at what Tate is saying. No, tell your homies his view is fucked up before they're radicalized and hurt more women--because ain't no fucking way they'll listen to me, a dumb woman, about it.

 

[littlelady774]

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that Andrew Tate encourages young men to embrace their masculinity and better themselves by being physically healthy and fit, but encouraging violence against women? Fuck that

 

[releasespieces]

Sucks that most men are like that, a lot of their behaviors are hardwired into them for reproductive purposes. I don't see myself that way at all, but I'm definitely a strange anomaly who doesn't really fit in anywhere.

My ex girlfriends cat would hump my leg at night while I was sleeping . It was the most violating feeling and ever since then I felt like I had a better idea about how women feel in regards to being dominated, objectified. I think the cat was seriously jealous about my presence and was naturally trying to dominate me. There weren't enough showers in the world to make me feel better about it, I'm still scarred from it.

Seriously though, I wish men weren't naturally this way, but regardless of what most, if not all, men say they have one thing on their minds biologically. Some will try to convince women they aren't like that, but it's clearly a ploy to get what they want. There really isn't an answer or a legit excuse for their behaviors, they're nasty and only want to dominate and screw as many women as possible to spread their genetics.

I think there is a spectrum to how scummy men can be though and the key is to try and find the least creepiest ones.

 

[SamTam33]

I'm tired of feeling scared, angry and hopeless when I see all the news stories each day and men are the primary perpetrators.

I hate how I can't go out for late night drives or grocery runs because of what could happen.

It's been like this since the beginning of time and it's not going to change.

The ratio of men to women in prison for violent crimes is staggering in how lopsided it is.

I no longer have the mental capacity or desire to date, but if I did - I'd be petrified with having to reject someone because there's no telling how they'll respond.

I read about how men in some countries will disfigure women and girls with acid if she rejects his advances. She did nothing to him, just decided she didn't want to be with him and he destroys her body in retaliation. I'm nauseous just writing about it.

All the dictators and world leaders throughout history who've hoarded resources for themselves and let their people starve and live in poverty. It's 99% men.

You can probably count on two hands the number of serial killers and school shooters who have been women. I looked up the statistics, and they literally have to go back to the 1800s to find enough data on women to even have a comparable discussion.

All you need is data from in 2023 to compile a lengthy list of male mass shooters.

If there was a god, it'd make so much sense that he would be a man.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Margaret Atwood — 'Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.'

I remember once I was sat on a bus in front of this really attractive teenage girl. This other young guy was trying to chat her up and get her to give him her number. She was polite but it was clear she didn't want to. The guy eventually got off but then this older guy- in his 30's started having a go at her- saying she ought to have given him a chance- think about his feelings etc. I was SO cross because she honestly hadn't been rude. She just wasn't interested. It didn't look like she knew him. Why should she give some random guy her phone number- just to be 'nice'? I really wish I'd said something to this older guy at the time but I was young and too timid really. It REALLY annoyed me though.

I do feel bad for guys. It likely IS the behaviour of a minority that makes it so difficult for the rest. Still- I heard a statistic that 1 in 4 relationships in young people could be considered abusive. That terrified me! Of course- it could be women being abusive too I guess but I expect that happens less.

I just don't think young women especially should be expected to be 'generous'- as in- compliant- just so as not to hurt the feelings of young men who might or might not turn out to be abusive. It's not to say they should be rude but if they don't want to do something- they shouldn't feel pressured to.

 

[FadingFast2023]

Get off social media, you will be happier.

 

[Mthom2]

I was forced to stay with my sister for about 10 months and just got out about a week ago. The entire time I was, her husband sexually harassed me. He would go as far as grabbing my breasts and bottom. I would tell him no multiple times, but he ignored it and continued.

Finally, I got up the courage to tell my sister. Bet none of you can guess how she responded...

She believed him when he claimed all the multiple gropes were accidents and that every thing he said verbally were jokes. I was blamed and she told me that if I left it would fix the problem. Sorry but me leaving won't make your husband faithful.

Anyways, I finally got a car and am currently living in it. It's 100% better than being both groped by her husband and called a liar by my own sister.

I realize that not all men are like that, but I can tell you one thing right now: I never want anything to do with another man again, in a romantic sense.

 

[NHLTradeRumor]

Obligatory: I'm a trans woman
God I can really relate to that. Even as a trans woman, a lot of men will always talk over me, believe that they're better than me, are sexually suggestive around me for no reason, and shit like that. That is, until they find out that I'm a transsexual, then 9 times out of 10 they treat me not like a man or a woman, but as subhuman scum; I have been called a tr*nny more times than I can count. This combination of misogyny and transphobia really affects me...

Before I knew I was trans, I was around all of my friends, who also were like this, and I hated it. I always told them "hey, be nice" and they would usually say something misogynistic. I always tried to be the voice of reason, but they started to make me this way too, fortunatly I came out quickly after this (at 18). Fast forward 3 years, and even now that I pass as a woman quite well, there are still 'remnants' of my past of being a boy, so sometimes I have to catch myself being misogynistic to myself.

I know that I'll never truly be the same as a cis woman, especially because I was raised a boy, but nowadays I face many of the same issues that cis women do, so I'm sorry.

 

[Outsidelessness]

Won't get into specifics but it's just exhausting especially in Andrew Tate era, it feels like every week in looking at a rape case or whatever and reading people debate on if it's the woman's fault she got raped for whatever reason. Or there's the deep fake drama and the amount of men I see trying to defend that shit is enough for me to CTB. I hate how in 2023 we're at the point where posting your photos online is enough to justify men sexualizing you lmao. I hope I don't get banned for this but it's stuff like this that makes it really hard for my to give a fuck about men's rights. Like bro you expect me to care about you being lonely while you're arguing for unconsenting deepfake porn? And why whoevers me too case is trending is actually the womens fault or whatever.

My narcissistic ex used being misogyny to completely slander me, I don't even care much about the people who hate me now but still it fucking sucks. Even my previous ex listened to him and I tried to be a cool girlfriend but fuck that holy shit. Fuck all of this, I don't really hold misanthropic but thinking about this shit really makes me hate the world. I can't imagine raising a daughter to live through this or a son only for them to become like the rest, it hurts to think about.


Im really exhausted and tipsy so if this is jumbled and makes no sense that's why

When artificial intelligence comes in more, everyone will start being able to create whatever they want in this world. It was already happening to celebrities, and as technology progresses it's going to end up taking less popular people victim to it. I've heard of someone online who even wanted to replicate their enemy's AI voice and leave their father a horrid voicemail with it, which is so fucking absurd. But all in all, if you post images or information about yourself in the roaring 20s especially, then be prepared your information to echo onto AI and become replicated. IT doesn't care about what people think of it, it will replicate inevitably. The more wide use of AI, the less moral it will be. Unfortunately, things like deepfakes are going to absolutely get better and outlawing it will never work in the long run.

 

[krxbs]

i can't remember where i heard this quote but i really like it as a rebuttal to when men inevitably say the thing: "not all men, but somehow always a man."
i'm honestly just shocked and appalled at how it seems like the majority of men are awful. i'm studying compsci at university and there are only a handful of women in my entire class... most of my classmates are men, and they're kinda gross. i feel like i can't trust any of the men in my life, and it's made me really lonely IRL.
my heart goes out to y'all. stay safe out there, and take care.

oh, also, i like the ayaka profile picture ^^

 

[OutOfTheVoid]

yeah i straight up dont trust men anymore, i feel like i cant even trust men im friends with (my friends are chill to be clear, its just past trauma from men in my life and knowing how awful so many men are). its especially difficult being a trans girl cuz i have to deal with transmisogny on top of everything else

 

[immrw]

@FadingFast2023 Why are you yaying all these sad stories bro...

 

[LittleBlackCat]

It's infuriating. Sadly after being sexually harassed recently I no longer trust men .. sad because I was hoping I might have another relationship sometime in the future.

I wish he realised what he's done to me.