Tips on sending a final message

[Nowilltolive90]

I'm trying to finalise my plans for when I ctb, no one is suspicious of me being suicidal and I need probably 10 - 15 minutes to make sure I'm gone before anyone finds out.

I'm alone in my house so there's no danger of someone finding me unless I tell them which I won't until I know it's too late. I don't want to worry anyone as to where I am if they think I've gone missing or something. I just want someone to call the police to come find me and take my body away I can't bring myself to let my parents be the ones to have to do that but my ex is a possibility, I was thinking of messaging her to call the police and doing the act early hours of the morning so she doesn't see it until she wakes up giving me plenty of time

 

[MachinaArcana]

What if she somehow sees the message the very moment you send it?
You might be better off using something like gmail's Delay Send feature...

 

[Nowilltolive90]

What if she somehow sees the message the very moment you send it?
You might be better off using something like gmail's Delay Send feature...

That is a place potential risk, I didn't know you could do that with Gmail, that's helpful thank you

 

[Onlyborrowedtime]

Do you have a mailman/anyone likely to pass your house in the morning?

You could always stick a note on your door saying "the person in this house has committed suicide please contact the police asap"

 

[Nowilltolive90]

Possibly I have neighbours but it's a gamble if they notice or not, it's a good idea though it's only inevitable before someone notices

 

[mcmileable]

Look to see if the police in your area have an email address. You can schedule an email to be sent to them at some point in the future with Gmail. Can't guarantee that they'll respond quickly though.

 

[TAW122]

Some phone mobile phone carriers have a delay sending SMS option and you could schedule to send a text that way. As far as gmail is concerned, the thing about Google is that it tracks your information and what you do so I am a bit leary of posting CTB related or anything that could hit at self-harm or suicide on there. I just don't know who is monitoring it or whether their AI will pick up on certain things and tip off authorities and medical professionals... I would also consider LetterMeLater as a delayed email service (it costs money but I think if you are going to CTB, then the money afterwards is irrelevant (unless of course you want to gift it to other people).).

 

[ctbUniquectb]

I've said it before. I'll say it again.

If you are worried about how the world looks once you are no longer in it, then stay in it.

 

[Deleted member 15021]

Some phone mobile phone carriers have a delay sending SMS option and you could schedule to send a text that way. As far as gmail is concerned, the thing about Google is that it tracks your information and what you do so I am a bit leary of posting CTB related or anything that could hit at self-harm or suicide on there. I just don't know who is monitoring it or whether their AI will pick up on certain things and tip off authorities and medical professionals... I would also consider LetterMeLater as a delayed email service (it costs money but I think if you are going to CTB, then the money afterwards is irrelevant (unless of course you want to gift it to other people).).

Futureme is a good, free version of the service you mentioned. I haven't used it for a CTB message, but I did use it a few years ago when the "letter to my future self" stuff was popular.

 

[HadEnough1974]

I've said it before. I'll say it again.

If you are worried about how the world looks once you are no longer in it, then stay in it.

I hear what you're saying with that statement @ctbUniquectb , but it's much easier said than done.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

I hear what you're saying with that statement @ctbUniquectb , but it's much easier said than done.

Sure, but look at your username

I've had enough and have multiple attempts. I've selected method (since forever), location recently and location VERY recently. Impulsivity of suicide is a direct marker of (for want of a more nuanced description) the person having a life that they should've stayed around for

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

You live alone and you said there's no chance of discovery. If your parents don't have a key, they're not likely to discover your body unless they get no responses from you and they break in.

I think notifying your ex is a bad idea tbh. The relationship is over, s/he has no responsibility to you, at least not in this way, and if s/he still cares (or even not), such a message will be a huge emotional burden.

10-15 min is just way too small of a window, you could be discovered. Why the rush? You have the luxury of a couple days after to ensure you're not rescued should the attempt fail. If it's an attempt that makes noise such as a gunshot, or if you're in an apartment and neighbors hear you thrashing around, they might call emergency services anyway.

If it were me, I would give myself the cushion of sending a delayed email to the police for 1-2 full days after the attempt, depending on how often people check in on you and anticipate a response.

There just seems to be a lot of circular thinking in your OP, it seems like there's something you haven't yet worked out, whether logistics, method, relationships, I don't know. Perhaps step back and look at other issues about your ctb, then revisit this part of the plan.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

The relationship is over, s/he has no responsibility to you ... and ... such a message will be a huge emotional burden.

Some people entered romances from friendships, and afterwards, the ex was concerned for them. There's something to be said for giving a heads up to people you're long out of touch with - but care about - that you were going to CTB either way and to chill and and live their lives. That said, I've know assholes/idiots who used successfully catching the bus as emotional leverage on exes.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Some people entered romances from friendships, and afterwards, the ex was concerned for them. There's something to be said for giving a heads up to people you're long out of touch with - but care about - that you were going to CTB either way and to chill and and live their lives. That said, I've know assholes/idiots who used successfully catching the bus as emotional leverage on exes.

I hear you, but the OP wanted someone to take responsibility for contacting the police, not giving him/her a heads-up.

 

[ctbUniquectb]

I hear you, but the OP wanted someone to take responsibility for contacting the police, not giving him/her a heads-up.

Oof yeah I should've read that OP

Jesus that's a brutal plan

OP, look, the cops are trained and have a good retirement plan for exactly the sort of shit you want to pull. Your ex didn't sign on for "gruesome body recovery," just from being horny one night.

 

[rntmss]

Do you have a job? If you don't show up for a couple days, any responsible employer would call the police and have them do a wellness check or report you missing.

 

[Secrets1]

You live alone and you said there's no chance of discovery. If your parents don't have a key, they're not likely to discover your body unless they get no responses from you and they break in.

I think notifying your ex is a bad idea tbh. The relationship is over, s/he has no responsibility to you, at least not in this way, and if s/he still cares (or even not), such a message will be a huge emotional burden.

10-15 min is just way too small of a window, you could be discovered. Why the rush? You have the luxury of a couple days after to ensure you're not rescued should the attempt fail. If it's an attempt that makes noise such as a gunshot, or if you're in an apartment and neighbors hear you thrashing around, they might call emergency services anyway.

If it were me, I would give myself the cushion of sending a delayed email to the police for 1-2 full days after the attempt, depending on how often people check in on you and anticipate a response.

There just seems to be a lot of circular thinking in your OP, it seems like there's something you haven't yet worked out, whether logistics, method, relationships, I don't know. Perhaps step back and look at other issues about your ctb, then revisit this part of the plan.

this is well thought out I like it. Thank you