Discussion Time heals?

[orlandom]

Time heals?

 

[motel rooms]

Yes, but only because we eventually die

 

[WornOutLife]

It heals some stuff but not everything.

 

[Rn110bg101]

Depends on your situation. If it's nothing big, it can, but if there are a lot of things, it's basically a single bucket of water against a forest fire

 

[GenesAndEnvironment]

Patches up poorly*.

 

[orlandom]

The worst part is that I start to forget the days when I was so happy. The brain gradually overwrites them. I forget those incredible days. I forget her. I forget the best part of life. The brain is slowly rewriting it. 0.2% every day. But it erases.

Now I feel like I just exist. I became like a robot. As if there were simply no emotions.

Time heals. But how he heals does not suit me. And I just want to give up such treatment.

 

[Morituri_Te_Salutant]

If time is supposed to heal, then I probably have an aversive effect to it; as it did the exact opposite... to my mental health at least :upside-down-smiley:

But, I guess it did help with my traumatic past; allowed me to move on... even though I feel as if I'm experiencing them again every now and then...

 

[JustAMatterOfTime]

It does, things that made me very sad in the past don't feel as bad anymore but that is only traumatic sudden events not a natural healing of every pain.

 

[RedHarlequin]

Not if you're clinically depressed. In that case time just takes everything away from you slowly.

 

[Moose.000]

I started dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts at 20. I'm going on 44 now and just as bad, if not worse. I'm in a great relationship, I'm always surrounded by a shitload of friends, I make great money and have savings to do anything I want. I have a nice house, dogs and all the material things most strive to get.

Time is the slowest, most tortuous suicide method available to us.

 

[motel rooms]

I'm in a great relationship, I'm always surrounded by a shitload of friends, I make great money and have savings to do anything I want.

May I ask why you're suicidal?

 

[Moose.000]

May I ask why you're suicidal?

Of course. PTSD, major depressive disorder and dissociative identity disorder.

Basically my subconscious controls my conscious mind and no matter how good of a life I consciously know I have (depending on what personality is taking the wheel that day) my subconscious mind tells me life sucks and everything sucks. It calls the shots and I have zero control over it. Major chemical imbalances.

 

[Morituri_Te_Salutant]

Of course. PTSD, major depressive disorder and dissociative identity disorder.

Basically my subconscious controls my conscious mind and no matter how good of a life I consciously know I have (depending on what personality is taking the wheel that day) my subconscious mind tells me life sucks and everything sucks. It calls the shots and I have zero control over it. Major chemical imbalances.

in that case, i'm wondering; since you make great money - how come you haven't seen a top-grade psychiatrist/therapist yet? you should be able to afford one if you were making lots of money...

 

[motel rooms]

Of course. PTSD, major depressive disorder and dissociative identity disorder.

Basically my subconscious controls my conscious mind and no matter how good of a life I consciously know I have (depending on what personality is taking the wheel that day) my subconscious mind tells me life sucks and everything sucks. It calls the shots and I have zero control over it. Major chemical imbalances.

I see...

 

[Moose.000]

in that case, i'm wondering; since you make great money - how come you haven't seen a top-grade psychiatrist/therapist yet? you should be able to afford one if you were making lots of money...

Already have, twice. Yet here I am.

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

I forget her. I forget the best part of life. The brain is slowly rewriting it. 0.2% every day. But it erases.

if what broke your heart was a break up, making new connections/ falling in love with another woman may probably accelerate the healing process. I've been there, broken because of a break up thinking I'll never find someone who is as amazing and magical as this person and then I fall in love again, and it helps me heal from the past break up and feel amazing again. As sad as it sounds love is just a chemical reaction in the brain so it hurts and causes withdrawal when it's no longer there. Withdrawal from a romantic relationship can be really painful. I obviously can't know how hard it is because every one has different situations but I think that if your issue is a break up, you can heal. Feel what you have to feel now and then looking to make other connections may accelerate the process. Just my two cents.

 

[Pharmaruined]

 

[FuneralCry]

I do believe this is true to an extent but some memories/events can be permanently imprinted into our subconscious mind and we can be forced to recall them. I think this is seen in dreams in particular.

 

[noname223]

Depends on your problem. If you want to ctb due to an ex-partner. I am pretty sure time will heal...

 

[Alec]

I never liked that saying, it never made sense to me. I think time only numbs us to that something that hurt us in the past or maybe it's that we learn to live with the pain and it becomes a new normal for us. Or maybe it is true and time does heal but it makes no logical sense to me and it never healed me of anything so I personally don't have a reason to believe that it heals.

 

[motel rooms]

If you want to ctb due to an ex-partner. I am pretty sure time will heal...

2 people in a romantic relationship can do horrifying things to each other...

 

[disfiguredone]

I've been thinking that at a certain point, if enough mental or physical trauma (horribly abusive life circumstances/brain injury from psychiatric meds/physical injury or illness) has been sustained, it is like having open wounds all over your body that are in various stages of infection and healing. In time some will scar over, and some will be close to feeling healed then flare up suddenly. Others though are treatment-resistant massive raging infections, the drugs have failed, and all there is to be done is drain the puss...and focus on the day the disease overcomes us - or we overcome SI.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Not true. Time can't heal rejection and heartbreak. Each incident is like a crack in a cup or bowl. No matter how much glue you use, those fractures are still there and they can only grow until the whole thing falls apart. I hate when people use this horrible cliche.

Even if it does take time, I'm running out of it and refuse to wait any longer. I'd rather die than continue to mope for the next few decades knowing I can't be truly fixed.