Help Thinking about telling my family

[k!tten2423]

I'm really thinking of telling my family about my suicidal thoughts. Im sure they'll take me to the ER and based on what all I say to them I'll be admitted. I throughly believe I'll tell them everything. From my thoughts on which methods I've chosen, to my daily and nightly thoughts of constant suicide. To not being able to cope in life anymore. Not being able to sleep. As well as my alcohol addiction. I've only ever been admitted once but only for a night and I went in drunk. Woke up and they discharged me when I sobered up. I'm really nervous to do this mostly because I have two kids and I'm not sure how that is going to go. Their dad works weekends. My parents work during the week. I think their dad is gonna be even more mad at me than he is now. He doesn't take my suicidal thoughts seriously at all. The other day he told me I'm just trying to get away from having to take care of my kids -.- idk I'm just scared and need advice….and if you've ever been. How was it.?
Thank you.

 

[Looking]

In my personal experience, a lot of my family has been mentally ill a majority of their lives - So everyone in general kind of hated the concept of forced inpatient treatment. So I wasn't super worried about me being admitted because of that reason mainly.

With that being said, I think if you're wanting to recover, you should clarify that to them. "I want to talk to you guys about my mindset for the past [so-and-so] months. The reason why I'm being open and vulnerable about this is because I want to seek treatment, but I don't want forced treatment. I ask for your patience as I explain everything in detail - but please understand that I'm wanting help for this, and I'm asking that nothing is forced upon me, but rather have a discussion of what the appropriate steps I/we should take is." (Or something similar.)

In general, the main reason why people force people into inpatient treatment / hospitalization is because they're scared and nervous, and they don't know how to cope with the thought or stress of the situation, and their instinct is to kind of push it onto a professional instantly so they don't have to stress out about it to that same degree. If that's the reason why it happens (most of the time anyways), then reassuring them that that's not something that needs to be done, because you're not forcing the stress onto them but rather trying to seek advice moreso than asking them to take action. Does that make sense?

 

[k!tten2423]

In my personal experience, a lot of my family has been mentally ill a majority of their lives - So everyone in general kind of hated the concept of forced inpatient treatment. So I wasn't super worried about me being admitted because of that reason mainly.

With that being said, I think if you're wanting to recover, you should clarify that to them. "I want to talk to you guys about my mindset for the past [so-and-so] months. The reason why I'm being open and vulnerable about this is because I want to seek treatment, but I don't want forced treatment. I ask for your patience as I explain everything in detail - but please understand that I'm wanting help for this, and I'm asking that nothing is forced upon me, but rather have a discussion of what the appropriate steps I/we should take is." (Or something similar.)

In general, the main reason why people force people into inpatient treatment / hospitalization is because they're scared and nervous, and they don't know how to cope with the thought or stress of the situation, and their instinct is to kind of push it onto a professional instantly so they don't have to stress out about it to that same degree. If that's the reason why it happens (most of the time anyways), then reassuring them that that's not something that needs to be done, because you're not forcing the stress onto them but rather trying to seek advice moreso than asking them to take action. Does that make sense?

Yes. Thank you

 

[Thisisme373]

My family are not supportive, they actually distance from me since I've been mega depressed where I struggle to hide it. They are repulsed by it. They don't say that but it shows in their body language and how they just leave me to fight this on my own.
If you have a supportive family I'd imagine it's quite a big help in not feeling so alone.

 

[BBBB]

Yes, you should tell them. When I was younger I did. I was so incredibly scared, nervous, sick to my stomach, etc. BUT in the end it was helpful!

 

[k!tten2423]

My family are not supportive, they actually distance from me since I've been mega depressed where I struggle to hide it. They are repulsed by it. They don't say that but it shows in their body language and how they just leave me to fight this on my own.
If you have a supportive family I'd imagine it's quite a big help in not feeling so alone.

My family is very supportive. My bf not very much lately when it comes to this. Like I said I'm mostly worried what will happen with my kids and if it'll make my relationship with my bf worse if I do this and have to stay a long period of time.

Yes, you should tell them. When I was younger I did. I was so incredibly scared, nervous, sick to my stomach, etc. BUT in the end it was helpful!

Thank you

 

[wantittoendsoon]

From what I can see you probably want to get help with your Alcohol abuse and mental issues before deciding to CTB. I have been in your situation and those things helped me to cope and get back to a happy life, unfortunately I now have a terminal illness so that is a game changer and why I am here. Once you have done what you can to recover, if you still feel suicidal then do what you must. Best of luck finding peace regardless of how you manage to accomplish it. Feel free to contact me or one of the other caring people here if you need to talk.

 

[k!tten2423]

From what I can see you probably want to get help with your Alcohol abuse and mental issues before deciding to CTB. I have been in your situation and those things helped me to cope and get back to a happy life, unfortunately I now have a terminal illness so that is a game changer and why I am here. Once you have done what you can to recover, if you still feel suicidal then do what you must. Best of luck finding peace regardless of how you manage to accomplish it. Feel free to contact me or one of the other caring people here if you need to talk.

That's true. Alcohol has ruined me….I've tried many times to get help, even intensive outpatient care for about 9 months but nothing is working…. I'm trying….I want to. Thank you.