Therapy is so stupid

[kunikuzushi]

All the therapists I've talked to never view suicide as an option. They act like it simply can never happen. So there's no point talking about my problems because they offer solutions with the assumption that life is inherently valuable and that I have to stay alive no matter what. Whenever I say I can't do something, they say yes you can. And I say no I will kill myself if I try to. And they just say no you can't because staying alive is the most important thing.

What a waste of time. I'm trying to decide if I should continue going.

 

[Freedomm]

They should at least respect my opinion, no matter how gloomy it is. But they just work like my brain - to survive at any cost, life is the most valuable thing there is, there is no other.

 

[iamanavalanche]

its taken absolutely forever to find a therapist that views suicide as an option. im so used to being told by everyone that it should never ever be considered. i find it seriously ignorant of anyone to assume that being alive, despite intense suffering of life, is the most important thing.

 

[kunikuzushi]

They should at least respect my opinion, no matter how gloomy it is. But they just work like my brain - to survive at any cost, life is the most valuable thing there is, there is no other.

Agree

its taken absolutely forever to find a therapist that views suicide as an option. im so used to being told by everyone that it should never ever be considered. i find it seriously ignorant of anyone to assume that being alive, despite intense suffering of life, is the most important thing.

I'm glad you found someone. It seems really nice to be able to talk to someone who doesn't immediately dismiss suicide

 

[AnimeSlayersFan]

What scares me is the fact that they dodge every responsibility they have as a therapist and just go call a psychiatrist to give you the
ANTI SUICIDE PILLS! ™

You fucker, you are supposed to be a psychologist, not a friend that gets scared that I have to tiptoe around.

 

[kunikuzushi]

What scares me is the fact that they dodge every responsibility they have as a therapist and just go call a psychiatrist to give you the
ANTI SUICIDE PILLS! ™

You fucker, you are supposed to be a psychologist, not a friend that gets scared that I have to tiptoe around.

For real this happens every time. The fact that they think medication is gonna "help" my reasonable thoughts about suicide is insane. And yeah pushing the responsibility onto psychiatrists just feels like an easy cop out for them to do as little work as possible

 

[SilentSadness]

I agree. They're just so obnoxious and mean. They hand out antidepressants like gold stars which is absurdly irresponsible, and they simply refuse to acknowledge that living situations can be bad rather than someone's "mental state". They need to stop being recommended as the solution to problems, sadly they never will because they are an easy virtue signal.

 

[Vivissa]

All the therapists I've talked to never view suicide as an option. They act like it simply can never happen. So there's no point talking about my problems because they offer solutions with the assumption that life is inherently valuable and that I have to stay alive no matter what. Whenever I say I can't do something, they say yes you can. And I say no I will kill myself if I try to. And they just say no you can't because staying alive is the most important thing.

What a waste of time. I'm trying to decide if I should continue going.

From a POV of therapist there are 2 cases, your lying or not. They wont risk getting "blackmailed" by you. For that reason the most clever is assume you are lying. However to be honest, there is almost impossible to therapist empathize with you. Because is really exhausting for a therapist empatize with all their consultants. If a therapist emapthize with you consider a lucky strike. Being honest, they dont have to emaptyhize with you. Their simple need your money and attaching to a professional script and requieremtns. They are required to "care" about your suiciding because is what sociaty push them, maybe in their personal thoughts they could agree suiciding is valid. However their profession by definition must always contradict that. The thruth is they are not affected for the killing of their consultant (but only losing a short income for your sessions).
Consider this: only a few decades ago, society classified being trans as a mental illness. That example shows how therapy is less about "helping" people and more about mastering a culturally approved framework of what counts as mental wellness. In my view, the concept of "mental health" is bullshit (at least regarding on suicidal)—it's really about getting society to accept you, not about any objective measure of health. That's why I see suicide as a fundamentally political issue: it's judged "wrong" not on medical grounds, but because it violates prevailing norms of what is politically acceptable.