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Jay_AU
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- Mar 13, 2025
- 5
Well, I've screwed up again. After a commitment to beating my demons, and an incredible amount of additional recent support from by Psychologist of almost six years, I fell into an aggressive and angry tirade (about two weeks into severe withdrawals from cannabis), and she terminated all services. It's one month as of this week, and I'm in such a dark place of self-loathing and shame about this uncharacteristic behavior. It should go without saying that NOBODY deserves to be treated like that, and least of all the very person who has been helping me. But it does shock me that she took a 'zero tolerance' decision, considering the small wins we were working towards, and that inly a week prior, I inferred that she had SAVED my life, which she understood.
I don't want to hurt anyone (emotionally or otherwise), but this unacceptable behavior cannot be remedied. Since the termination, NOBODY has reached out to me, and this just reinforces the miserable life I endure. And surprisingly, I can't get over the pain of being abandoned at a critical time. Therapist is (I thought) a very compassionate caring person, but that clearly doesn't extend to being verbally abused. Frighteningly, the person I was, in this period of rage (which she was suggesting psychosis), brought up a lot of repressed trauma about my own father. That's a heavy burden that I also can't shake since then. Ironically, we hadn't been able to get far with that in the past few years, and now I'm flying solo, it's appearing in my consciousness.
So this is the last straw, and I don't have any more courage to keep trying. I've already determined an exit strategy, and all that's left to do is wait out the passing of my cat, who may need to be euthanized soon. Animal lovers, don't jump to conclusions – he has been my only companion for 15 years, and has always been my responsibility. I 'love' the little guy as much as one can for a non-human sentient being. Actually have said to my therapist several times that self-harm is not an option while I have that responsibility – and I had already started making inquiries with the Vet before this latest incident.
The question… and one that I can't really ask ANYONE else but people here… my 'episode' from recently resulted in Ambulance / Police being coordinated to take me to hospital, and that's not the place for me… how much time might be reasonable between therapist termination and my exit ? I certainly don't want her to be held responsible in any way. Realistically if I can make the hard decision with my little buddy, get stuff in order and whatever else, late April seems likely.
Maybe I should be clear, I'm not walking towards the exit door because of my Therapist specifically, rather because it just represents another period of self-sabotage and hurting others. In my early 50's, I am alone with no friends, social network, money or hopes for the future. All I am is a burden.
I don't want to hurt anyone (emotionally or otherwise), but this unacceptable behavior cannot be remedied. Since the termination, NOBODY has reached out to me, and this just reinforces the miserable life I endure. And surprisingly, I can't get over the pain of being abandoned at a critical time. Therapist is (I thought) a very compassionate caring person, but that clearly doesn't extend to being verbally abused. Frighteningly, the person I was, in this period of rage (which she was suggesting psychosis), brought up a lot of repressed trauma about my own father. That's a heavy burden that I also can't shake since then. Ironically, we hadn't been able to get far with that in the past few years, and now I'm flying solo, it's appearing in my consciousness.
So this is the last straw, and I don't have any more courage to keep trying. I've already determined an exit strategy, and all that's left to do is wait out the passing of my cat, who may need to be euthanized soon. Animal lovers, don't jump to conclusions – he has been my only companion for 15 years, and has always been my responsibility. I 'love' the little guy as much as one can for a non-human sentient being. Actually have said to my therapist several times that self-harm is not an option while I have that responsibility – and I had already started making inquiries with the Vet before this latest incident.
The question… and one that I can't really ask ANYONE else but people here… my 'episode' from recently resulted in Ambulance / Police being coordinated to take me to hospital, and that's not the place for me… how much time might be reasonable between therapist termination and my exit ? I certainly don't want her to be held responsible in any way. Realistically if I can make the hard decision with my little buddy, get stuff in order and whatever else, late April seems likely.
Maybe I should be clear, I'm not walking towards the exit door because of my Therapist specifically, rather because it just represents another period of self-sabotage and hurting others. In my early 50's, I am alone with no friends, social network, money or hopes for the future. All I am is a burden.