The worst thing about being ugly, is the lifestyle you're forced to live

[death137]

I found it on reddit.


I wish I could translate this into my native language and send it to all the ppl that are close to me irl. I'm decaying at home because I've no choice.

 

[Blue Rose]

Not only the world discriminates the ugly but also the fat.

I was told that most of the fat hadn't choiced their body condition.
Most of them hadn't had enough money, so they had been forced into buying and eating junk foods,etc.

In case of my country, They discriminate the overweight too. It makes me sad.

 

[death137]

Not only the world discriminates the ugly but also the fat.

I was told that most of the fat hadn't choiced their body condition.
Most of them hadn't had enough money, so they had been forced into buying and eating junk foods,etc.

In case of my country, They discriminate the overweight too. It makes me sad.

Yeah that's sad. Short ppl also face discrimination. I'm both ugly and short. Everyday is torture.

 

[coppervomit]

Thank you for sharing this with us.

 

[Deformationalplagio]

Im deformed on my skull and face. Man i dont even get why i they didnt put me to sleep right away. In my opinion nobody deserves to live like this. Its a very sad life. All i can do is play video games. But sometimes there arent even good video games so i have litterly nothing to do. My life is boring. Im constantly looking at my deformed face in the mirror hoping it can be fixes in the future. But it will never be fixed because its to hard to fix an entire skull. Doctors dont really care saying its about the inside. Im even forced to go out and work like this but im simply to anxious because people well.. They look at me like im a monster. Its fucked up i just want to die but i dont even believe that sn is totally painless unlike N. And i can never afford that. I even went so far as making a fund me for my condition and i had 0 support. Meanwhile an other go fund me for a car for some chick reached there goal in 5 days. This is exactly whats wrong in this world fuckd up.

 

[Wrennie]

As someone who used to be considered attractive in my teens/early twenties and is now irreparably ugly due to drug-induced disease & injury I can 100% attest that my quality of life rapidly spiraled downhill as soon as that transition happened. Like that one Reddit user mentioned, I rarely have any desire whatsoever to leave the house. Social interaction is now a chore at best, and one I want to end as soon as possible. The entire time my mind is fixated on how the other party is internally judging me (which is as exhausting as it sounds).

The body is the only vessel with which you can navigate this world. People cannot read your thoughts or see you for the contents inside your head. They only perceive what's directly in front of them. Thus, their opinions of you are merely formed from surface level observations. Random people from your everyday interactions know next to nothing about you aside from your outward appearance, so they'll subconsciously base their treatment of you solely on that.

One of the things I miss about being attractive is that a lot of people would get a look on their face that could best be described as awe or reverence when speaking to you. They'd also automatically assume I was intelligent despite me not saying much of anything. At the time I thought it was the weirdest thing and I never thought I'd grow to miss it. The only looks I get now are those borne of pity. People intuitively know I'm damaged goods and it shows. I now am confronted with how much of a luxury it was to navigate the outside world without having to constantly fret over how my physical form was interpreted by others. It's a circumstance you'll never truly understand until it's thrust upon you. I grieve for the life I once had but know it's an unattainable dream that's forever out of my grasp.

I guess I can just become full-on hikikomori and rot. My body is deteriorating so rapidly I doubt I'll make it to forty, so it looks like this is how my final years will be spent. I desperately feel for anyone who has had to endure this anguish their entire lives... I've only had to for two and a half years so far and it's already reached peak unbearability.

 

[Life sucks]

Life is superficial. My problem isn't being ugly but how looks and what other people perceive is different from my perception which is an inherent wrong in life itself.

The core of the problem is how people look at the outside of others but never the inside. I'm sorry that everyone suffer because of this badly designed game.

 

[Chronicillness]

I've noticed Reddit as a whole, has a omnipresent hive-mentality for blaming the ugly person anytime they create a thread that involves "complaining" about how their ugliness has somehow stunted their ability to acquire happiness and social success. Every single time one of these threads that involve something to do with ugliness equaling a terrible life, there's always some smug Redditor that gets upvoted to the top of the comment thread, saying something like, "Well if my fat, broke, and ugly ass can get a wife then so can anyone else, therefore your excuses and experiences are null." As if being ugly only means you miss out on love. As another poster in this thread has already mentioned: your body is your vessel. You are forced to walk through space and time with this vessel, and the world around you, will react accordingly to how your vessel appears on the surface. If you look damaged, broken, deformed, unattractive, etc. the world will, at all times, react accordingly.

 

[Spiral]

The worst part is how everyone think they need to tell us like we don't already know what we look like. It gets on my nerves a lot, I'm like "yes I do have a mirror thanks and I have been looking at this reflection for more than 30 years, do you think I need you to tell me what I look like?" Personally I don't think it's important what I look like but other peoples obsession with it does get on my nerves. They seem to think I am intentionally offending their eyes with my face lol. I will agree that being nice to look at and attractive is an advantage and being unattractive is a disadvantage but the more we hide away, the more others like us will look around the crowd when they are out in public and feel like they are the only ugly person alive and they will eventually also retreat and hide so we are our own worst enemy in a way. Hiding is not helping it's just making us seems like even bigger freaks of nature because we are so rarely seen :/

 

[death137]

The worst part is how everyone think they need to tell us like we don't already know what we look like. It gets on my nerves a lot, I'm like "yes I do have a mirror thanks and I have been looking at this reflection for more than 30 years, do you think I need you to tell me what I look like?" Personally I don't think it's important what I look like but other peoples obsession with it does get on my nerves. They seem to think I am intentionally offending their eyes with my face lol. I will agree that being nice to look at and attractive is an advantage and being unattractive is a disadvantage but the more we hide away, the more others like us will look around the crowd when they are out in public and feel like they are the only ugly person alive and they will eventually also retreat and hide so we are our own worst enemy in a way. Hiding is not helping it's just making us seems like even bigger freaks of nature because we are so rarely seen :/

I get your concern but I don't think its our fault because some of us are in serious mental pain and don't have the motivation to leave the house.

 

[Shero]

I have a progressive genetic condition that has certain facial and body features that can be defined as ugly.
I was made fun of a lot, which definitely hurt when I was a teenager. Still, it has helped me mature and see other perspectives that I didn't see.
Don't misunderstand me. I hate suffering from a disease, but I am grateful for one of the consequences of this condition, and that is being ugly.
It shields me from all the superficial people I meet and makes it easier to approach people who are kind-hearted and intellectually captivating.

 

[Spiral]

I get your concern but I don't think its our fault because some of us are in serious mental pain and don't have the motivation to leave the house.

I don't think it's our fault either. I was just kinda saying it in a "what if" way.
It's the only thing I could thing of that might help *shrugs*

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Yeah I'm similar except I drink heavily so have lived the partying life. So for me I'm surprised other ugly people don't just turn to drink or drugs. But then again I guess I'm just wired that way, not cos I'm ugly.

 

[WornOutLife]

Not only the world discriminates the ugly but also the fat.

I was told that most of the fat hadn't choiced their body condition.
Most of them hadn't had enough money, so they had been forced into buying and eating junk foods,etc.

In case of my country, They discriminate the overweight too. It makes me sad.

Same here. "Ugly" or fat, you'll find a hard time looking for a decent job, dating, etc.
Since I'm overweight, life has become tougher but I'm somehow dealing with it and trying to lose some pounds.
The thing is, it's very hard to be motivated 100%. Yesterday, I was so depressed that I even thought about ctb. Hardest recovery ever.

 

[magick'sgone]

Yeah, it sucks. This may be a controversial view but I feel like being ugly is more unfortunate than being overweight. Due to the nature of calories and weight loss, very few people are unable to improve their physical fitness if they apply themselves. It won't be easy or quick, but with serious dedication and effort, some incredible results can be achieved. There are exceptions of course. But when it comes to ugliness of a certain type, what the fuck can you do? Sure, If you have bad skin you can try improving your diet and use products. Okay, If you have shit hair, get it styled or shave it off. Even if you have bad teeth you can get the whitened, straightened, or even veneers. But what about those of us who, through shitty genetics, environmental factors, or trauma, ended up with fucked bone structure? We need to rely on professional surgeons (often charlatans or outright incompetent egomaniacs/psychopaths) to attempt to fix us for extortionate fees with enormous risk of making our health or appearance worse. There is no amount of personal effort we can make that will improve our situations. If running would put my jaw where it was supposed to be, I'd be sprinting 10 miles per day before breakfast. If sit-ups could fix my displaced orbital, I'd do 500 before bed every night. If pull ups could fix my.......you get the idea. Effort is the one thing I'm capable of but I have no where to aim it so it releases in frustrating, negative, self destructive ways. Sure, there's a million platitudes about how it's what's inside that matters, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, bla bla bla, but they only sustain you for a while. It is important to be a good person but it's still disheartening to be a good person who looks like shit for no fault of their own. Plus the people who placate you with their hollow words will probably never have to live by them. Don't know why I just ranted this out. Probably a catharsis or maybe I was just bored while taking a crap.

 

[Neowise]

To be honest the reddit post sounds a bit exaggerated, not to say like bullshit.
I'm not saying being ugly is not worse than being beautiful, our society surely puts more focus on looks than it should. But I don't think you become an introvert just by being ugly. There is beautiful people who are introverted, there is beautiful people with no self esteem etc. See this part for example:

"I never got to decide if I wanted to get married, have children.
No one wants to date/sleep with someone ugly.
I never got to decide if I wanted to go to parties.
No one wants to be friends with an ugly person."

This person is 21 years old and says they never had a chance to decide whether they want to get married? At 21???
I asked a rather ugly guy out on a date because he has a lovely personality.
No one invites people to a party based on how attractive they are???
No one picks friends based on how attractive they are???

Again, I am not saying that one shouldn't be upset about being ugly. I'm saying that that guy on reddit has got a few things wrong.

 

[Symbiote]

 

[it's_all_a_game]

Yeah, me being unattractive is a major cause of my suicide. I have never had real friends or a boyfriend because of how I look. It causes me extreme mental anguish.

 

[Futile]

Life never happens when you're ugly. It's an endless race for something that will never come

 

[aneurysm]

One thing I noticed and that I find strange is that discrimination due to attractiveness level is not "officially " recodnized as discrimination (like racism, sexism, bigotry etc).

I wonder why, why is it?

 

[Amumu]

One thing I noticed and that I find strange is that discrimination due to attractiveness level is not "officially " recodnized as discrimination (like racism, sexism, bigotry etc).

I wonder why, why is it?

Because it has never been written in the law, contrary to racism, sexism and bigotry.
Yet it definitely exists unofficially.

 

[aneurysm]

Because it has never been written in the law, contrary to racism, sexism and bigotry.
Yet it definitely exists unofficially.

but why hasn't it been written in the law? what makes it different from other forms of discrimination? why is it treated differently?

 

[Amumu]

but why hasn't it been written in the law? what makes it different from other forms of discrimination? why is it treated differently?

You have the answer for the last two questions (previous post), and for the first one, I don't really know.
I know why racism used to be written in the law (slavery all around the world) and sexism (unsecular)

 

[booray]

One thing I noticed and that I find strange is that discrimination due to attractiveness level is not "officially " recodnized as discrimination (like racism, sexism, bigotry etc).

I wonder why, why is it?

Probably because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one person might consider attractive, another person might find repulsive.

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

As someone who used to be considered attractive in my teens/early twenties and is now irreparably ugly due to drug-induced disease & injury I can 100% attest that my quality of life rapidly spiraled downhill as soon as that transition happened. Like that one Reddit user mentioned, I rarely have any desire whatsoever to leave the house. Social interaction is now a chore at best, and one I want to end as soon as possible. The entire time my mind is fixated on how the other party is internally judging me (which is as exhausting as it sounds).

The body is the only vessel with which you can navigate this world. People cannot read your thoughts or see you for the contents inside your head. They only perceive what's directly in front of them. Thus, their opinions of you are merely formed from surface level observations. Random people from your everyday interactions know next to nothing about you aside from your outward appearance, so they'll subconsciously base their treatment of you solely on that.

One of the things I miss about being attractive is that a lot of people would get a look on their face that could best be described as awe or reverence when speaking to you. They'd also automatically assume I was intelligent despite me not saying much of anything. At the time I thought it was the weirdest thing and I never thought I'd grow to miss it. The only looks I get now are those borne of pity. People intuitively know I'm damaged goods and it shows. I now am confronted with how much of a luxury it was to navigate the outside world without having to constantly fret over how my physical form was interpreted by others. It's a circumstance you'll never truly understand until it's thrust upon you. I grieve for the life I once had but know it's an unattainable dream that's forever out of my grasp.

I guess I can just become full-on hikikomori and rot. My body is deteriorating so rapidly I doubt I'll make it to forty, so it looks like this is how my final years will be spent. I desperately feel for anyone who has had to endure this anguish their entire lives... I've only had to for two and a half years so far and it's already reached peak unbearability.

100% relate to this Wrennie... drugs also changed my appearance and people started treating me so different instantly... I no longer leave the house because I am ashamed of how much I've changed in so little and because I know others will judge me. And yes, the grief is immense... I'm so so sorry you where also harmed by stupid abusive psychiatry! :( Makes me so angry!

 

[Lost Magic]

Yeah, we are all born prejudice in some form or other. Society favours the charismatic, rich, intelligent, good looking etc... Know wonder people are depressed and anxious in this crazy world.

 

[autisticalex]

agreed being born ugly should be viewed as a disability like being born with autism or being born without legs are....
I get angry when goodlooking ppl kill themselves, obviously everyone has problems, but they will never find it hard to be in relationships, make friends etc.... they get given a great gift and throw it away...

 

[Lost Magic]

agreed being born ugly should be viewed as a disability like being born with autism or being born without legs are....
I get angry when goodlooking ppl kill themselves, obviously everyone has problems, but they will never find it hard to be in relationships, make friends etc.... they get given a great gift and throw it away...

Looks don't guarantee anything. Many good looking and talented celebrities have ended it. Marylin Monroe for example, had a history of severe depression which she went public with. She ended up taking nembutal in the end, however, many conspiracies exist on the contrary. Point is: surface level stuff can't cure deep rooted problems within.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

This is so true and it's unfair really it's based on genetic chance . Looks is the first thing people see. It's how one will be socialized irrespective of the input their parents, community and culture plays. Everyone sees your face and body first.

it's how we navigate the world with our appearance, it's all they see. I hate being here

as someone who caught the ugly around age 13-14 when acne took over my life. I became so miserable, lost social skills and felt so disconnected, lonely and just empty and miserable as life progressed I haven't been the same. Acne ruined my life. I was never asked out by guys in middle school and high school for school dances. I was always second choice by others, just the most miserable years and I barely talked. I can't wait to leave this miserable existence I never asked for and I will argue 100+ pages plus as to why CTB is the solution for me. I'm not staying here contained, nor should I be guilted or forced to continue when I no longer desire to.

 

[nopointofliving]

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