The sadness of being single and virgin at 23

[Journeytoletgo]

In my opinion companionship is more fulfilling than sex. If I could go back in time I would never had experienced sex until marriage, it hurt me more being emotionally unstable as is now I have too much to sort through however for you it could be different experience, it's good to be in a good mental state before sex.

 

[SadLoser]

Sorry, but if you're a woman then you're a virgin voluntarily.

 

[LADY007]

Be glad you didn't lose your virginity in high school. High school boys are the worst when it comes to airing that shit out. Also a lot of mind games. And most relationships in highschool don't last. Only a few actually marry their high school sweet hearts.

btw,this is not me just shitting on high school boys, high school girls are just as immature not to mention catty af.

Please stop looking at instagram, twitter, and other social media sites to what a perfect couple looks like. Most of these couples only put what they want people to see and not the nitty gritty of their relationship. And although attraction does play a role in the dating area I don't think it plays much of a role to how a man will treat you in the end. Even the most gorgeous women get cheated on or treated like crap in general. Hollywood couples is a perfect example of that.

If you want to lose your virginity then that should be easy in todays hook up culture. However love I admit will be much harder. But that's true for almost everyone.

The view point that blues eyes, fair skin, and blond hair is superior to all other hair colors, skin colors, and eyes colors is so distorted. Beauty comes in all colors. It'd be boring af if everyone in the world looked like hitler's wet dream.

You're 23-24, that's still young by most ppls definition. A lot of women aren't getting married/having kids until 30 anyway since the economy is shit atm.

Anyone who shits on someone for being a virgin will always be pathetic in my eyes. Why should one care if someone is having sex or not. That just seems creepy and invasive.

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

I will be 24 next month and still be single. There is so much sadness in being single nobody ever talks about. If i am still single in my 30s and failed to create the life i have always wanted i will definitely kill myself. The older i get men will no longer find me attractive and society sees 30 as old in women.

When I was a teenager at school I was never the pretty girl at school the boys wanted and the girls wanted to be friends with. Most of the girls in the school had a boyfriend and had close friends throughout. .

I was just the weird kid who frequently got builled and not attractive as the others girls in the school.

All I ever wanted was a man who loved me for me. I give my love to men and they never return it. I ask guys out, I compliment them and take a genuine interest in thier lives but they never do the same for me and just reject me always. People have told me I should let guys chase me as that is the role of a man.

Being in virgin and single in your 20s is absolutely awful and extremely difficult to cope with because I have missed out on so much. The valentines flowers i never got to have, never being told i am beautiful by a man, never being called someone's girlfriend, never holding someone hand in public and never doing fun things couples do .

Everyone losess thier virginity in thier teens i feel like a freak for still being one. Adult virginity is mocked and rarely talked about. When I was a teenager I made of fun by other the teeange girls for being a virgin and people would look at me weirdly for being one.

Before covid19 I used to go the park and other places i would see couple holding hands and kissing all i am reminded of what i dont have in my life. It is constant reminder how i was never the pretty girl at school that the boys wanted and the rejection over the years i experienced from guys i liked.

I know it sounds pathetic this what being single for so long does it becomes unbearable. During the 3rd national lockdown in the UK there were stories about couples in the newspapers and magazines talking about thier sadness about not seeing thier partner because of lockdowns. These were same couples who mocked people like me and many others for being single, constantly flaunted thier relationships on social media and vlogs now they want to talk about loneliness . I hate them i really do

Men want the perfect attractive women. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and prefer doing fun activities which dont involve partying willl never be enough. We live in a shallow world which cares about looks and beauty. Sometimes i wish i had blonde hair and blue eyes men will find me attractive as this standard of beauty is promoted in society. I am a brown skinned woman with brown eyes i hate it because these features i find are dull.

Being single in my 20s has made be bitter and angry men never loved me back and envious of women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Men want the perfect attractive women like we see on Instagram, love island and celebrity culture. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and doing fun activities willl never be enough.

There so many reasons why i want kill myself.

Knowing everything I know now I would have killed myself 10 years ago.

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

Hey there, I'm a 28 year old woman in the same boat. It's pretty terrible coming up on thirty like this.

Hey there, I'm a 28 year old woman in the same boat. It's pretty terrible coming up on thirty like this.

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

I will be 24 next month and still be single. There is so much sadness in being single nobody ever talks about. If i am still single in my 30s and failed to create the life i have always wanted i will definitely kill myself. The older i get men will no longer find me attractive and society sees 30 as old in women.

When I was a teenager at school I was never the pretty girl at school the boys wanted and the girls wanted to be friends with. Most of the girls in the school had a boyfriend and had close friends throughout. .

I was just the weird kid who frequently got builled and not attractive as the others girls in the school.

All I ever wanted was a man who loved me for me. I give my love to men and they never return it. I ask guys out, I compliment them and take a genuine interest in thier lives but they never do the same for me and just reject me always. People have told me I should let guys chase me as that is the role of a man.

Being in virgin and single in your 20s is absolutely awful and extremely difficult to cope with because I have missed out on so much. The valentines flowers i never got to have, never being told i am beautiful by a man, never being called someone's girlfriend, never holding someone hand in public and never doing fun things couples do .

Everyone losess thier virginity in thier teens i feel like a freak for still being one. Adult virginity is mocked and rarely talked about. When I was a teenager I made of fun by other the teeange girls for being a virgin and people would look at me weirdly for being one.

Before covid19 I used to go the park and other places i would see couple holding hands and kissing all i am reminded of what i dont have in my life. It is constant reminder how i was never the pretty girl at school that the boys wanted and the rejection over the years i experienced from guys i liked.

I know it sounds pathetic this what being single for so long does it becomes unbearable. During the 3rd national lockdown in the UK there were stories about couples in the newspapers and magazines talking about thier sadness about not seeing thier partner because of lockdowns. These were same couples who mocked people like me and many others for being single, constantly flaunted thier relationships on social media and vlogs now they want to talk about loneliness . I hate them i really do

Men want the perfect attractive women. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and prefer doing fun activities which dont involve partying willl never be enough. We live in a shallow world which cares about looks and beauty. Sometimes i wish i had blonde hair and blue eyes men will find me attractive as this standard of beauty is promoted in society. I am a brown skinned woman with brown eyes i hate it because these features i find are dull.

Being single in my 20s has made be bitter and angry men never loved me back and envious of women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Men want the perfect attractive women like we see on Instagram, love island and celebrity culture. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and doing fun activities willl never be enough.

There so many reasons why i want kill myself.

Knowing everything I know now I would have killed myself 10 years ago.

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

 

[Hurt]

"No one dies virgin, life fucks us all" Kurt Cobain

 

[FireFox]

"No one dies virgin, life fucks us all" Kurt Cobain

I was not even born when Kurt cobain died. I read the stories about him. He was so talented, very handsome and just cool. He saw how deeply corrupt life truly is. There not many people like that in our world who can see real the poison of life.

Depression is an evil illness that torments the mind in which the individual never is free.
Rest in Peace Kurt Cobain

 

[Darkover]

most things in the world are hype. most things in the world are oversold. but, in my experience, sex, music is as central to understanding your humanness, we have these sexual urges but they are repressed.

 

[Brayu]

I will be 24 next month and still be single. There is so much sadness in being single nobody ever talks about. If i am still single in my 30s and failed to create the life i have always wanted i will definitely kill myself. The older i get men will no longer find me attractive and society sees 30 as old in women.

When I was a teenager at school I was never the pretty girl at school the boys wanted and the girls wanted to be friends with. Most of the girls in the school had a boyfriend and had close friends throughout. .

I was just the weird kid who frequently got builled and not attractive as the others girls in the school.

All I ever wanted was a man who loved me for me. I give my love to men and they never return it. I ask guys out, I compliment them and take a genuine interest in thier lives but they never do the same for me and just reject me always. People have told me I should let guys chase me as that is the role of a man.

Being in virgin and single in your 20s is absolutely awful and extremely difficult to cope with because I have missed out on so much. The valentines flowers i never got to have, never being told i am beautiful by a man, never being called someone's girlfriend, never holding someone hand in public and never doing fun things couples do .

Everyone losess thier virginity in thier teens i feel like a freak for still being one. Adult virginity is mocked and rarely talked about. When I was a teenager I made of fun by other the teeange girls for being a virgin and people would look at me weirdly for being one.

Before covid19 I used to go the park and other places i would see couple holding hands and kissing all i am reminded of what i dont have in my life. It is constant reminder how i was never the pretty girl at school that the boys wanted and the rejection over the years i experienced from guys i liked.

I know it sounds pathetic this what being single for so long does it becomes unbearable. During the 3rd national lockdown in the UK there were stories about couples in the newspapers and magazines talking about thier sadness about not seeing thier partner because of lockdowns. These were same couples who mocked people like me and many others for being single, constantly flaunted thier relationships on social media and vlogs now they want to talk about loneliness . I hate them i really do

Os homens querem as mulheres atraentes perfeitas. O fato de eu ser carinhosa, gostar de conversas significativas e preferir atividades divertidas que não envolvam festas, nunca será o suficiente. Vivemos em um mundo superficial que se preocupa com a aparência e a beleza. Às vezes eu gostaria de ter cabelos loiros e olhos azuis, os homens me acharão atraente, já que esse padrão de beleza é promovido na sociedade. Eu sou uma mulher de pele morena com olhos castanhos, eu odeio porque essas características que eu acho são maçantes.

Estar solteira na casa dos 20 anos fez com que os homens ficassem amargos e zangados nunca me amado de volta e com inveja das mulheres que têm namorados e maridos.

Os homens querem as mulheres atraentes perfeitas como vemos no Instagram, na ilha do amor e na cultura das celebridades. O fato de eu ser atencioso, gosto de conversas significativas e atividades divertidas nunca será suficiente.

Existem tantas razões pelas quais eu quero me matar.

Knowing everything I know now I would have killed myself 10 years ago.

I'm a man, a virgin (23 years old too)

And to make matters worse, I lost this year the only person I liked and who liked me... I hope one day to find her on the other side.

I couldn't do anything... I'm so insufficient and a failure

 

[FireFox]

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!


Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

Lofticries is darn right...I am 70 years old and used to be a model. Before that ..I was Bucky Beaver at 20 years old...needed front teeth capped (which I did)..Listen to what I learned through experience. Virginity means nothing to a man who was married to a spend-thrift. My husband was divorced from one when I met him (I was 34 years old) What he loved was I didn't have kids of my own, I was a tremendous money saver and (listen carefully to the next one)...I purposely said yes to dancing with him because he didn't look like a model. He was very average. And he adores me. You don't have to be real pretty...just work at being sexy and fun. If it will get the bullies off your case..allude to the fact that you did have sex to shut them up.....the handsome guys have lived with attention from pretty women and miss it when they marry. Average guys appreciate being accepted ( and are usually smarter than the pretty ones). Think about it..you are in a perfect position and age to listen and learn here...HUGS!

Lady007 Thank you so much for sharing. I love your reply

It bothers me I have gone through my entire life never being loved and wanted by a man. I grew up with no father then I go through teenage years being rejected by guys and adulthood is an extention of this again. I am the invisible girl who never got asked out to prom, never had that boy classmate chase after her or been someone's crush. I take interest in what the guys I like are interested and care to know them but I always get rejected.

Being in virgin and single in your 20s is absolutely awful because I have missed out on absolutely everything every woman has experienced. The valentines flowers i never got to have, never being told i am beautiful by a man, never being called someone's girlfriend, never having someone hold my hand in public and never experiencimg all fun things couples do but take granted. Everyone has all cool stories of their first teenage love and I have none. When I watch a Netflix teen drama involving a teenage romance story line with my teenage sister I am just reminded of how I have missed out on everything.

I some times feel like maybe there really is something wrong with me. Maybe I am not meant to loved by anyone. I have been single forever. I am 24 but I feel have been single for a lifetime.

 

[chocolatebar]

Everyone has all cool stories of their first teenage love and I have none

Oh... this hurts me so badly...
Sorry to know that you feel that way too
what's left in life for us?

 

[FireFox]

I'm a man, a virgin (23 years old too)

And to make matters worse, I lost this year the only person I liked and who liked me... I hope one day to find her on the other side.

I couldn't do anything... I'm so insufficient and a failure

@Brayu Rest in Peace to your friend I am so sorry for your loss. You finally found some one who liked you and only for them to be taken away.

The beautiful future you would have had with her you will never have, life is just so cruel.

Being a virgin is difficult because we live in a world which people having relationships young is the norm whereas people like us we are the exception.

Couples who say " you are not missing much being single " i find this pharse so annoying because these couples will never understand how lonely it is never having a relationship or going through your entire life being the invisible woman or man.

I was never the pretty and popular girl at school which the boys were interested in.As a teenager I was confident in my personality however I still was the invisible girl

I was the invisible girl who never got asked out on a date, never had that boy classmate chase after her or been someone's crush , never called been pretty by the boys. In adulthood I am going through the same thing.

I take interest in what the guys I like and care to know them but I always get rejected. I have asked guys out but at the last minute they dump me. I was even told by my family that I shouldn't ask a guy our as it is a role for a man to chase a woman.

 

[Brayu]

@Brayu Rest in Peace to your friend I am so sorry for your loss. You finally found some one who liked you and only for them to be taken away.

The beautiful future you would have had with her you will never have, life is just so cruel.

Being a virgin is difficult because we live in a world which people having relationships young is the norm whereas people like us we are the exception.

Couples who say " you are not missing much being single " i find this pharse so annoying because these couples will never understand how lonely it is never having a relationship or going through your entire life being the invisible woman or man.

I was never the pretty and popular girl at school which the boys were interested in.As a teenager I was confident in my personality however I still was the invisible girl

I was the invisible girl who never got asked out on a date, never had that boy classmate chase after her or been someone's crush , never called been pretty by the boys. In adulthood I am going through the same thing.

I take interest in what the guys I like and care to know them but I always get rejected. I have asked guys out but at the last minute they dump me. I was even told by my family that I shouldn't ask a guy our as it is a role for a man to chase a woman.

Just about her... Well I still believe I'll find her (and I hope it doesn't take long).

As for you, I'm sorry that this is the case, I too feel like an "ugly duckling" to others and WORSE an unwanted pariah. I don't feel welcome here!

But if you want to talk about something, know that I'm available (we're from different countries, so don't worry)

 

[Scribble Fan]

Same. I'm not too concerned about the virgin thing though... I have PTSD and I'm uncomfortable with being touched. That would make it a bit hard to have sex lol!

Being single at 23 and having never had a girlfriend makes me feel kinda lonely though. Makes me wonder what I've missed out on.

 

[lonerclown666]

i will die virgin at 24 or 25

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I don't know why but I feel like 23/24 is still young enough but then again I remember feeling the same way when I was that age…

I'm only 27 now and still a virgin but that somehow feels even worse…

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I wish I stayed a virgin the two men I slept with played me :( I was delusional and got heart broken. Also low self esteem. I'd rather be ugly and a virgin at least I die knowing I wasn't used for sex. Now I will die depressed ugly and not a virgin because I was desperate and didn't understand social aspects. I think I'm borderline autistic as I didn't understand this until late now I'm pissed.

 

[drune11]

Not trying to diminish how you feel because I know the feeling (losing mine at 26) but I might be helpful for you to know that being a woman and a virgin is infinitely better than being a man. Again, I'm not trying to trivialize your feelings but if a guy is an older virgin, he's seen as weird and people would wonder why he can't find someone to have sex with him. As a woman, people would see it as you having restraint and morals, and honestly MOST guys, despite what some may say, always want a girl with a low number of partners. Fair or not, it's just the way we're wired.

I know the feeling of hopeless loneliness - I think the term incel has been unjustifiably turned into a slur, and while I think it's always a little corny to label yourself with things, it is a reality for some people, and we need help and compassion. I'm sorry you're going through this. As a guy that used to be an oblivious nice guy, it's frustrating still not being able to find a woman even though I'm aware that I'm caring, funny, mildly attractive, and family-oriented.

I know the hatred and melancholy of seeing other couples - I had to leave a wedding last week because I had a breakdown and could not stop crying.

 

[Manaaja]

I don't mind being a sex virgin since I'm asexual, but I do wish I wasn't a hand-holding virgin and a kissing virgin and a cuddling virgin and a romantic dinner virgin.

 

[marinekiwi]

I read here about loneliness, the endless search for a partner.
Well, I've had my share of relationships at my 30 years.
I'd give out my 2 cents: do not rush on relationships. Most of my bitterness and hate for my life comes from failed relationships.

I'm also a nice, caring and loving partner. But ended up with the wrong men all the time. They abused, insulted and even outright beaten me up.
Heartbreaks are for sure one of the most painful things you can endure in this world. Moreso when I'd give all my best to my partner, only for they to just treat me like the runt of the litter.
I'd strongly recommend for lonely folks to wait for the right one, and don't fall in love with the first one that seems to care.

 

[Nolife33]

I'm a vrigin 33 years old, who cares it's all bout the love

 

[Ch92921]

I'm a 27 years old manchild and I sympathize with you. Although being a kissless incel but I don't crave for relationship, I actually want to avoid it.
From the bottom of my heart, I know relationship is difficult and full of dramas. It will be even more difficult for people who are highly sensitive or people who have personality disorders.

The only thing I wanna try out is the sexual pleasure. I don't think I can connect deeply with anyone in this world. People say that there is someone for everyone. I think that's bullshit.

If I had a relationship I would be good guy.

Sex<<romantic, partership

 

[motel rooms]

Maybe try to love that wilhelp

Love is for me the answer

I'm a vrigin 33 years old, who cares it's all bout the love

Lay off the coke.

 

[FireFox]

Just about her... Well I still believe I'll find her (and I hope it doesn't take long).

As for you, I'm sorry that this is the case, I too feel like an "ugly duckling" to others and WORSE an unwanted pariah. I don't feel welcome here!

But if you want to talk about something, know that I'm available (we're from different countries, so don't worry)

Please take care of yourself and keep safe my friend. I hope you do see her again.

If I had a relationship I would be good guy.

Sex<<romantic, partership

That is how it should be. Your such a kind soul and any woman would be lucky to have you as a boyfriend
If I had an relationship I would be a deeply loving partner who just wants her boyfriend to happy and free to be himself :)

 

[drune11]

"No one dies virgin, life fucks us all" Kurt Cobain

Wow how deep...

 

[FireFox]

Same. I'm not too concerned about the virgin thing though... I have PTSD and I'm uncomfortable with being touched. That would make it a bit hard to have sex lol!

Being single at 23 and having never had a girlfriend makes me feel kinda lonely though. Makes me wonder what I've missed out on.

I am sorry to hear that you suffer from PTSD. PTSD is such a cruel illnes.

It is so lonely going through your teens and 20s never having a relationship because we in a society in which relationships are the norm. I feel like I have missed out on absolutely everything. When I see couples in public most people see a happy couple but all I see is what never got experience and what could have been . That is what kills me the most.

As I grow older it gets harder and I fear I will never find anyone.

 

[stellabelle]

I will be 24 next month and still be single. There is so much sadness in being single nobody ever talks about. If i am still single in my 30s and failed to create the life i have always wanted i will definitely kill myself. The older i get men will no longer find me attractive and society sees 30 as old in women.

When I was a teenager at school I was never the pretty girl at school the boys wanted and the girls wanted to be friends with. Most of the girls in the school had a boyfriend and had close friends throughout. .

I was just the weird kid who frequently got builled and not attractive as the others girls in the school.

All I ever wanted was a man who loved me for me. I give my love to men and they never return it. I ask guys out, I compliment them and take a genuine interest in thier lives but they never do the same for me and just reject me always. People have told me I should let guys chase me as that is the role of a man.

Being in virgin and single in your 20s is absolutely awful and extremely difficult to cope with because I have missed out on so much. The valentines flowers i never got to have, never being told i am beautiful by a man, never being called someone's girlfriend, never holding someone hand in public and never doing fun things couples do .

Everyone losess thier virginity in thier teens i feel like a freak for still being one. Adult virginity is mocked and rarely talked about. When I was a teenager I made of fun by other the teeange girls for being a virgin and people would look at me weirdly for being one.

Before covid19 I used to go the park and other places i would see couple holding hands and kissing all i am reminded of what i dont have in my life. It is constant reminder how i was never the pretty girl at school that the boys wanted and the rejection over the years i experienced from guys i liked.

I know it sounds pathetic this what being single for so long does it becomes unbearable. During the 3rd national lockdown in the UK there were stories about couples in the newspapers and magazines talking about thier sadness about not seeing thier partner because of lockdowns. These were same couples who mocked people like me and many others for being single, constantly flaunted thier relationships on social media and vlogs now they want to talk about loneliness . I hate them i really do

Men want the perfect attractive women. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and prefer doing fun activities which dont involve partying willl never be enough. We live in a shallow world which cares about looks and beauty. Sometimes i wish i had blonde hair and blue eyes men will find me attractive as this standard of beauty is promoted in society. I am a brown skinned woman with brown eyes i hate it because these features i find are dull.

Being single in my 20s has made be bitter and angry men never loved me back and envious of women who have boyfriends and husbands.

Men want the perfect attractive women like we see on Instagram, love island and celebrity culture. The fact that I am caring, like meaningful conversations and doing fun activities willl never be enough.

There so many reasons why i want kill myself.

Knowing everything I know now I would have killed myself 10 years ago.

You know, it's incredibly frustrating to wish you were loved in a romantic way and that you feel like you were missing out.

I think often times people "play games" and decide to date and date and date and date but toss their partners away as if they are disposable rather than appreciate the one that they have.

This has been my opinion for many years.
That it's futile.

The glamor of relationships in photographs are not always what they seem and it's just a scratch on the surface.

Everyone is an "actor" and it's "funny" - they're all so perfect right?

You missed nothing.
I think everyone in life wants to be loved, loved by relatives, loved by peers, loved by a partner (someday) and that unhealthy relationships, bad influences, and a careless society has created unrealistic views of sex, relationships, and family.

People are selfish. They are shallow. They are cruel. They are controlling. They are difficult even when things can be so very simple.

Being sexually inexperienced is not a bad thing. People brag about "friends with benefits" - who is it benefiting? People brag about multiple partners - is everyone in the relationship happy? People brag about "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" but most of all I think the "pressure" in a sexualized society is romanticized from a very early age (depending on exposure to inappropriate content, behaviors, shaming, blaming, and pretending like it's cool.)

There are people in this world that believe pornography is real. It is acting.

What you see in public is not always what is happening behind closed doors. What you see in movies or on the internet is not always the truth of everything.

The ideas about genitalia are so diverse and vary greatly. Secrecy and blabbing about what people do behind closed doors and using it as a means of psychological harm is all too common. Too many bad men, too many heartbroken women, too many cheaters, too many liars, and too many "fantasies." It happens in every community regardless of sexual preferences.

If I could make one "suggestion" for any woman struggling with self esteem and a desire to be in a relationship, it would be to go take a shower, brush your hair and teeth, if you enjoy a little bit of makeup, on and decide to go somewhere public.

Hold up a sign that says "Single?" And see what people say or do.

Someone might walk past you, several people might, someone may stop and say hey, what's up? Want to go grab some food? People might ignore you. But you know. You could people watch and if they laugh, don't be discouraged, just laugh too.

Just be cautious.

 

[GeorgeEastman]

It would just be more people to disappoint when I finally lose it and have to get this over with.

Glad more than ever now that it never worked out with anyone. At this point, I would have just run them off. I'm paranoid about everything so I would have accused them of cheating. Then when they said they didn't do it, I'd say they were lying.

I trust nothing and nobody. So it's constant nerves and being on edge. Part of the reason getting out will be so great.

 

[FireFox]

I read here about loneliness, the endless search for a partner.
Well, I've had my share of relationships at my 30 years.
I'd give out my 2 cents: do not rush on relationships. Most of my bitterness and hate for my life comes from failed relationships.

I'm also a nice, caring and loving partner. But ended up with the wrong men all the time. They abused, insulted and even outright beaten me up.
Heartbreaks are for sure one of the most painful things you can endure in this world. Moreso when I'd give all my best to my partner, only for they to just treat me like the runt of the litter.
I'd strongly recommend for lonely folks to wait for the right one, and don't fall in love with the first one that seems to care.

I am so sorry for all hurt and pain you have experienced in your relationships. You are a beautiful and loving soul who deserved so much better.

I hope you find peace and happiness in your life because you deserve it

 

[SuicideBoys93]

I've essentially fucked myself into being asexual. I was married, and was cheated on multiple times. The first weekend of leaving my ex-wife I hooked up with my aunts friend who is only a few years older than me. The feeling sparked a tinder binder that I'm actually quite surprised didn't end up in an STD. Now the idea of relationships and sex in general is not appealing. I'm to the point where I'm just like ohh she's pretty and move on with my life. Sacrificed my mental health for my ex-wife, now there's a void in my life that'll never been filled having lost my family. No kids involved, but the house and dogs felt right. Now it's just walking around life with headphones in to avoid social interaction. I've created a social-anxiety monster that has consumed my life. My day simply consists of day trading and lifting. It's actually crazy how long I can go without talking to other humans.

 

[$nowLeopard]

Getting laid as a teen (as a guy) is a requirement for proper psychological development

 

[stellabelle]

Getting laid as a teen (as a guy) is a requirement for proper psychological development

Wrong,
"Getting laid as a teen male" is not a requirement for proper psychological development.
Nor is it a requirement for the opposite gender.

Proper psychological development would be realistic expectations of sex, sexual intercourse, and consensual sexual intercourse.

Sex is not owed, nor is it "required."

Is it a "normal" age range to experience it?
Yes, it can be, however it is discouraged.