captivebutterfly
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- Aug 9, 2023
- 21
I've spent the last year in and out of psych wards due to failed attempts and here I am writing from one again. I'm here voluntarily this time though in a last ditch attempt to give life a chance but the thoughts of dying are consuming me more than ever. And the one thing I can think about right now is how good I am at masking.
I am autistic so masking comes easily to me. Despite literally being in a psych ward, I have been asked by both patients and staff "Why are you here? You seem so normal". I may seem normal on the outside, or at least in comparison to other patients; my hair looks okay, I wear the same clothes every day but they look fine, I don't smell, I smile when other people smile at me, I keep to myself in my room and abide by the rules. But all it takes is a close look at me to see the cracks beneath the surface. The matting in the back of my hair, the discoloured teeth from not brushing enough, the stains on my clothes I scrub at with a cloth because I can't bring myself to change, the dirt scuffs on my arms from not showering. It's all there but nobody cares enough to take the time to look.
The problem with masking is people are too quick to look on the outside and assume your mental state and capabilities without digging deeper. I am lucky I'm a very open person and I tell the truth about how I feel which is what landed me here in the first place, other people are not so lucky…
Anyway, that's just what I've been thinking about while I'm here. Would love to hear your thoughts.
I am autistic so masking comes easily to me. Despite literally being in a psych ward, I have been asked by both patients and staff "Why are you here? You seem so normal". I may seem normal on the outside, or at least in comparison to other patients; my hair looks okay, I wear the same clothes every day but they look fine, I don't smell, I smile when other people smile at me, I keep to myself in my room and abide by the rules. But all it takes is a close look at me to see the cracks beneath the surface. The matting in the back of my hair, the discoloured teeth from not brushing enough, the stains on my clothes I scrub at with a cloth because I can't bring myself to change, the dirt scuffs on my arms from not showering. It's all there but nobody cares enough to take the time to look.
The problem with masking is people are too quick to look on the outside and assume your mental state and capabilities without digging deeper. I am lucky I'm a very open person and I tell the truth about how I feel which is what landed me here in the first place, other people are not so lucky…
Anyway, that's just what I've been thinking about while I'm here. Would love to hear your thoughts.