The Official 2020 Everything But The Kitchen Sink Post

[Carina]

Well... just asked riskiest question that may be too risky and could be a slightly screwing self (trying to find way to get mom out of house overnight sometime whenever I want). This could so backfire..... hope not....

 

[BlueWidow]

I did fall asleep. Cat nap. I'm signing off :)

I hope you have a good night @Jean4. I actually dozed off myself a little bit. LOL!

Well... just asked riskiest question that may be too risky and could be a slightly screwing self (trying to find way to get mom out of house overnight sometime whenever I want). This could so backfire..... hope not....

I hope it goes well. My fingers are crossed for you.

 

[Carina]

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I hope you have a good night @Jean4. I actually dozed off myself a little bit. LOL!

I hope it goes well. My fingers are crossed for you.

Thanks... I have a feeling the answer will be "he doesn't because it's too noisy" and my reply will be "that's why I was going to get you two a room so you could be there at night or day"...

Don't think it will work... but... she's yet to answer (sent message over asking so he doesn't hear--so it doesn't influence her response).

 

[LegaliseIt!]

I thought he was leaving to get help? Or is it she?

Oh! I don't know. I just saw that their name was crossed out. Anyone?

 

[Carina]

Oh! I don't know. I just saw that their name was crossed out. Anyone?

I clicked the username and it appears like help? but not sure 100% like the profile page posts

 

[LegaliseIt!]

That's funny!

We had a psychotic Sia-Manx that loathed human touch. One day, after 6 years, I was sitting on the Chesterfield, and he came and plunked himself on my lap! I was astonished! I petted him tentatively, trying to imitate a mom cat grooming a baby (without the tongue!)

 

[BlueWidow]

I clicked the username and it appears like help? but not sure 100% like the profile page posts

Hmmmm. . . . I just remember them saying that they were going to have to do something to themselves in order to get checked in to a hospital. Or something to that effect. They said if they didn't do something to themselves first, they most likely wouldn't be able to get any help.

 

[Squiddy]

I think I'll go to sleep myself. Fingers crossed that the Doomsday clock reaches midnight and a nuke vaporizes me

 

[LegaliseIt!]

We had a psychotic Sia-Manx that loathed human touch. One day, after 6 years, I was sitting on the Chesterfield, and he came and plunked himself on my lap! I was astonished! I petted him tentatively, trying to imitate a mom cat grooming a baby (without the tongue!) View attachment 25585

 

[Carina]

Hmmmm. . . . I just remember them saying that they were going to have to do something to themselves in order to get checked in to a hospital. Or something to that effect. They said if they didn't do something to themselves first, they most likely wouldn't be able to get any help.

yeah, like a "this will give me a reason to get admitted" right? with a "worst case it works?"

I think I'll go to sleep myself. Fingers crossed that the Doomsday clock reaches midnight and a nuke vaporizes me

night ! sleep well

 

[BlueWidow]

We had a psychotic Sia-Manx that loathed human touch. One day, after 6 years, I was sitting on the Chesterfield, and he came and plunked himself on my lap! I was astonished! I petted him tentatively, trying to imitate a mom cat grooming a baby (without the tongue!) View attachment 25585

Look at those beautiful eyes!

 

[Backwood_tilt]

Thanks... I have a feeling the answer will be "he doesn't because it's too noisy" and my reply will be "that's why I was going to get you two a room so you could be there at night or day"...

Don't think it will work... but... she's yet to answer (sent message over asking so he doesn't hear--so it doesn't influence her response).

Hope it goes well. Is that the opening you are looking for?

 

[BlueWidow]

I think I'll go to sleep myself. Fingers crossed that the Doomsday clock reaches midnight and a nuke vaporizes me

Good night @Squiddy!

 

[Carina]

Hope it goes well. Is that the opening you are looking for?

well it'd be a controlled, more or less one, as oppopsed to a rushed, out of the blue one if she 'forgot' to tell me, that could happen when I still have to wait for something else.

 

[Squiddy]

Good night @Squiddy!

Night :)

 

[BlueWidow]

 

[Squiddy]

Almost forgot to take my night meds

 

[Carina]

Almost forgot to take my night meds

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At least you remembered them!

 

[Brick In The Wall]

I tried to sleep most of the day hoping I'd feel better. End up having intense nightmares and rolling around the entire time instead fml.

 

[Backwood_tilt]

End up having intense nightmares and rolling around the entire time instead fml.

Hate when that happens to me, which is pretty much every day. Do any medications help you?

 

[BlueWidow]

I tried to sleep most of the day hoping I'd feel better. End up having intense nightmares and rolling around the entire time instead fml.

That sucks!

 

[Carina]

I tried to sleep most of the day hoping I'd feel better. End up having intense nightmares and rolling around the entire time instead fml.

I'm sorry :(

 

[Squiddy]

I tried to sleep most of the day hoping I'd feel better. End up having intense nightmares and rolling around the entire time instead fml.

Damn :( I hope you can have sleep with good dreams

 

[Brick In The Wall]

Hate when that happens to me, which is pretty much every day. Do any medications help you?

That sucks!

I'm sorry :(

Damn :( I hope you can have sleep with good dreams

Thanks for the support, I love you guys!

 

[BlueWidow]

 

[Carina]

Asked question.... mom's instant reacion: Why?

instant had to make it sound nice and innocent...

and of course he can't be around smokers and they allow smoking.... well.... onto maybe getting her to go with her other friend when that friend moves up I guess... ....

Mother is also suspecious of everything I do for no reason:

at least she seems to have bought my cover of just trying to be nice lol

 

[BlueWidow]

Asked question.... mom's instant reacion: Why?

instant had to make it sound nice and innocent...

and of course he can't be around smokers and they allow smoking.... well.... onto maybe getting her to go with her other friend when that friend moves up I guess... ....

Mother is also suspecious of everything I do for no reason:
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at least she seems to have bought my cover of just trying to be nice lol

I'm sorry they're making it so hard. It's not like it's hard enough without other people making it even more difficult. I'll keep hoping everything goes well for you.

 

[Carina]

I'm sorry they're making it so hard. It's not like it's hard enough without other people making it even more difficult. I'll keep hoping everything goes well for you.

yeah... I mean she wants the main car that's basically mine... but she never wants to leave for anything. boyfriend always comes over, even if she ISN'T HERE . And if she leaves, she takes the car with the car keys to the other one I can't drive well. and he drives by as house checks if she's not home.

ugh. And she won't drive into the city. hmm....

 

[BlueWidow]

yeah... I mean she wants the main car that's basically mine... but she never wants to leave for anything. boyfriend always comes over, even if she ISN'T HERE . And if she leaves, she takes the car with the car keys to the other one I can't drive well. and he drives by as house checks if she's not home.

ugh. And she won't drive into the city. hmm....

She seems very controlling and manipulative.

Her bf drives by and checks on you when she isn't there?! What do they think you're going to do? Does she just want to keep you there so you'll continue to keep paying for everything? Does she have a job or pay for anything? Do you share any of the expenses, or do you pay for everything?
I don't even know what to say. That sounds a lot like my dad. He was very paranoid and was always coming home unannounced and so on thinking he was going to catch me doing something, though I never figured out what it was that he thought I was doing. He always accused me of plotting against him. It made no sense. But then again he was an alcoholic and I think he was paranoid because of that.

 

[Carina]

She seems very controlling and manipulative.

Her bf drives by and checks on you when she isn't there?! What do they think you're going to do? Does she just want to keep you there so you'll continue to keep paying for everything? Does she have a job or pay for anything? Do you share any of the expenses, or do you pay for everything?
I don't even know what to say. That sounds a lot like my dad. He was very paranoid and was always coming home unannounced and so on thinking he was going to catch me doing something, though I never figured out what it was that he thought I was doing. He always accused me of plotting against him. It made no sense. But then again he was an alcoholic and I think he was paranoid because of that.

I think he checks to make sure the house is ok... as it's on the way to the post office that he goes to... and he doesn't have internet at home (and he won't just take my username/password for free wifi so he can use at his place because updates would take too long) so he stops by to check messages.

Some are shared, although a lot like anything of importance are mine... or she pays and then is like "I need money in my account" or I look and her account is overdrawn, so I put money in her account just so it's not an overdraft fee that would just be more than not.

She's been on disability for 10 years now? it's been a while. so her income is set. it's the only reason I've just been wanting a single payment worthwhile so she can survive for a while, and even though the boyfriend annoys me--he can at least move in and together they'd be comfortable.

And while I know he can show up or drive by at random times, he wouldn't come inside except in the daytime. He has a key to the house.

So like when she does possibly with little notice go with her friends overnight, I know I"d be able to do something, and he wouldn't come in, it provides a window of 10:30-6am where there's basically 0% chance of anyone showing up shy of emergency (literal emergency--like her or her friend going to ER)
So... basically a clear window... just... semi rushed if not given warning... and it could be canceled at last minute, whereas if I could've scheduled things--it would've been set in stone basically