The incident involving my birthday

[Life_and_Death]

Talk to yourself. Be outside.

You were dealing with abuse.
You were dealing with unknown mental disorders.
You thought it was more than what it was.
He bugged you about things he shouldnt have bothered with.
Who the fuck suggests such a thing on your birthday.
Who the hell says you were bad at it expecially when it was both your first times.
Who the hell suggests doing something for the first time on your birthday.

Nothing about the situation was right.....
And it wasnt your fault....
(Idky but typing those last 2 sentences makes me want to cry)

 

[timf]

There are people who are insensitive. If someone is insensitive most of the time, they can be toxic.

Birthdays can amplify emotional vulnerability. It sounds like you lowered your guard and got hurt.

Performance accusations for the first time of anything (from badminton to intimacy) are poison to a relationship. There are certain things in which inexperience is and advantage. For example, a marriage based on the inexperience of two people allows them to build a foundation of exploration and even humor that can be something solid for a lifetime.

 

[Life_and_Death]

There are people who are insensitive. If someone is insensitive most of the time, they can be toxic.

Birthdays can amplify emotional vulnerability. It sounds like you lowered your guard and got hurt.

Performance accusations for the first time of anything (from badminton to intimacy) are poison to a relationship. There are certain things in which inexperience is and advantage. For example, a marriage based on the inexperience of two people allows them to build a foundation of exploration and even humor that can be something solid for a lifetime.

im starting to feel sick but my friend agrees
"he is largely at fault for basically peer pressuring you"

 

[Huntfish34]

I'm sorry that happened to you,. sadly our world is filled with insensitive dickheads like that.

It doesn't really matter but I was just curious, what did he suggest for you both to do that it was your 1st time ?

Hope you're feeling better,. Take care of yourself.

 

[Life_and_Death]

It doesn't really matter but I was just curious, what did he suggest for you both to do that it was your 1st time ?

Id rather not go into it. i will say that its most likely not what youre thinking but youre probably not far off. It was onesided though and not in my favor.

 

[abandonedSheep]

sometimes events happen that you'll never forget, and they make you sick to your stomach to remember them. i remember when i was treated insensitively in the emergency ward by hospital workers. it sounds like this event haunts you, and somehow you think you are to blame, and somehow you also think you weren't to blame, and it's very confusing.