suicide when youre needed by another

[Life_and_Death]

i have a friend. we met on a suicide forum (not this one). we dont talk about much. i dont talk about much. but she messages me whenever she has a problem. im fairly confident im the only one here for her. her life has been absolutely horrible. and i honestly worry about where her life would go without me. i help her as much as i can and i wish i could help her more.

knowing youre extremely needed could you end your life? should you? this isnt just a family member/friend being upset
edit: should probably add im just looking for your opinion.

 

[Smart No More]

I have this predicament too. In a different way but same difference. Honestly I'm still torn. For now I'm sticking around for those I car about but really I feel my suffering is somewhat unfair but I can't bring myself to do it to them. I'm not sure at what point that will change but I feel the point exists. I think it's something we can only decide for ourselves because everything is relative.

 

[a_lesser_moon]

I'd say yes, you're living your life for you and nobody else. If you're ready to ctb then it's fair to make that decision. It's okay to put your own needs before others. I think it would be a different story if it was a child who's reliant on you or someone you're a sole caregiver for.

edit: personally I would even have a hard time to ctb with leaving my friends and family behind, who have others around them. Just because of the hurt I will cause.

 

[houseofleaves]

Maybe invite her to SS? She can always find some additional support here

 

[Life_and_Death]

Maybe invite her to SS? She can always find some additional support here

lol no. shes an adult and i understand the decision is completely up to her, but if she killed herself because i basically showed her ways to do id hate myself. if she messages me one day saying she cant do it ill accept her choice and be there for her as much as i can...but i cant help her in that way

 

[FuneralCry]

I could never stay alive only for others personally, as after all suicide is a human right and I never asked to endure all this suffering, but I do think that only the individual can make the decision if they should ctb or not. It does sound like a difficult situation to be in.

 

[Fktw0rld]

I could never stay alive only for others personally, as after all suicide is a human right and I never asked to endure all this suffering, but I do think that only the individual can make the decision if they should ctb or not. It does sound like a difficult situation to be in.

I agree with @FuneralCry. Very tough situation and your conscious can play a heavy role in your decision making process. I once heard a quote, "attachment is the root of all suffering." I guess that would apply here. Simply being attached to those you care about and willing to suffer by prolonging your own metal anguish so they don't lose you. But yes, without a doubt, I will still make my exit. I'm not willing to suffer for others anymore. I've done it for 35 years and always ended up getting stabbed in the back at the end. No human being in today's society is worth enduring further pain and sacrifice for. Just my opinion. A dog, yes. A human, absolutely not.

 

[hamvil]

Nobody needs me in this world. I have a wife that loves me (no idea why), but besides that there is nobody. In my current state I do not think I could be of any help to anybody anyway

 

[outatime_85]

While I recognize the importance of living one's life for oneself and owing no one any answers.

There is a flip side to that coin when factoring in deep emotional bonds with individual people.

There is always the possibility that when one checks out, the person with whom they have that extraordinary bond may miss them so much that they check out as well.

Now, I am not suggesting people need to stay miserable in order to prevent someone else from checking out, but it is a possible side effect to think about.

 

[Tiberius85]

No, you shouldn't, in my view. Because: on one hand there is little meaning to human life. No deeper sense. Yet, there is one thing that can give meaning to life: helping others. As long as one can make a difference/positive contribution toward someone else's life, there is a reason to live and fulfil this role.

 

[chloramine]

It depends. I don't know your situations or why you want to die. If you can stick around for them, then that's a good, selfless act that you can be proud of. If you can, I think you should. I would never fault someone for not being able to do that. It's a lot to take on and there's no shame in it being too much.