Venting Suicide prevention month

[madbananas]

"You are not alone"
ugh. I'm sorry but some people are alone. I could have the most helpful mental health professional ever and STILL basically be alone because everybody in my personal life just leaves.

 

[EmbraceOfTheVoid]

People just repeat the same drivel like sheep to make themselves feel better; it's rarely about the actual suicidal person.

 

[Life_and_Death]

I personally hate it. They "care" but only when they remember too. And there has to be specific things to remind them. Like seems very caring. Which point it just looks they want to say theyre "helping" even though they arent.

 

[timetofly]

Yay!

 

[madbananas]

I genuinely think people just say it to make them appear good. I'd be all for it if it actually involved changing things which lead to people being suicidal. But it's really just about throwing phone numbers at people.

 

[Sarahlynn]

I feel like the whole suicide awareness thing is mostly targeted towards the "easy" ones. The ones who have a good life but feel very down after some life event like a breakup or losing their job. Sure, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" for those kind of people.

But for those of us with more deep-rooted issues, having people going around claiming suicide is bad, isn't going to help at all. The only way to fix suicide is to actually take health, whether it is mental or physical, seriously. But that takes more of an effort than to repost a silly Facebook post, or wear a ribbon or bracelet. So ain't gonna happen.

 

[miguel6565]

the same month as my ctb date!

 

[VIBRITANNIA]

suicide "prevention" month is bullshit. you want to know how to really prevent people from committing suicide? stop being a deplorable piece of shit to other people.

 

[Blueman]

I feel like the whole suicide awareness thing is mostly targeted towards the "easy" ones. The ones who have a good life but feel very down after some life event like a breakup or losing their job. Sure, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" for those kind of people.

But for those of us with more deep-rooted issues, having people going around claiming suicide is bad, isn't going to help at all. The only way to fix suicide is to actually take health, whether it is mental or physical, seriously. But that takes more of an effort than to repost a silly Facebook post, or wear a ribbon or bracelet. So ain't gonna happen.

This is a very good point.
I fall into the 'permanent solution to a temporary problem' category due to being unemployed.
But the longer I'm out of work the more down I get and it ceases to be a temporary problem

 

[XYZ]

You are not alone. Demodex is always with you.

"Demodex mites are microscopic parasites that live on eyelids and other parts of the face. One of the two species, Demodex folliculorum, buries itself face down near the roots of eyelashes. It uses a seven-clawed organ (a "palpus") to grab hold of cells. Then it feasts on the cells that line the follicle, sucking out their innards with a retractable needle in the middle of a round mouth."

Friends forever

 

[albino_elk]

Good luck with that prevention lol

 

[Thinking]

Finally someone addressing this. I see people posting on social media reminding ppl to check up on friends, etc, and you never know who in your life is suicidal bla bla bla. Not once have any of these people tried to check up on me

 

[XYZ]

At the end of every article, or piece of news about someone who ctb-dd there is this message written in bold: IF YOU OR ANYONE YOU KNOW IS THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE CALL THIS NUMBER.

Face palm! No, man, calling that number will not help me! Stop wasting digital space!

 

[Deleted member 10475]

The irony about this stuff is that people will post how they're here for people with depression, but will have no issue ignoring their friend or loved one in need. It's all so fake, people trying to gain internet points and to look like a good person.

 

[SipSop]

"You are not alone"
ugh. I'm sorry but some people are alone. I could have the most helpful mental health professional ever and STILL basically be alone because everybody in my personal life just leaves.

This makes me feel quite sad.
Because perhaps if we were better integrated in society by looks or character perhaps we wouldn't be here now.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

"It will get better"

 

[PJFord]

These soundbite-style phrases are a convenient way to get a message across, but for those who are far down the path they are just words in my opinion. Back in the 80s in the United States Nancy Reagan led her "Just Say No" campaign to get kids to avoid drugs. Drugs coupled with peer pressure can be incredibly hard to resist and it takes more than a few words to sway kids.

A couple years ago we had the "It Gets Better" campaign to stop suicide among gay teens. I do agree that as an older gay man I did eventually gain a sense of self worth, that I wasn't bad or inferior solely because of my sexual orientation. However, speaking of suicide in general, no, sometimes it does NOT get better. There are small changes we can make in our lives, but I equate the larger driving factors to a sleeping giant: he's always inside me, sometimes sleeping, sometimes active, but always there and always will be.

 

[rt1989526]

Load of crap, just a tax write-off and good PR for organizations. Nobody gives a fuck about the people suffering. If they did euthanasia would be a legal option.

 

[XYZ]

"It will get better"

It just did. Thx.

(Double Face Palm he he he)

 

[Emily_Numb]

I've had to delete my social media today because I am absolutely sick to the false platitudes people have been spouting this month about mental health and suicide awareness, when it fact most of them don't give a shit, even people in your life who are supposed to.

People just like to virtue signal and make them feel good about being an advocate (which they aren't). Fake words, fake care from fake people.

 

[Mm80]

I feel like the whole suicide awareness thing is mostly targeted towards the "easy" ones. The ones who have a good life but feel very down after some life event like a breakup or losing their job. Sure, "suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" for those kind of people.

But for those of us with more deep-rooted issues, having people going around claiming suicide is bad, isn't going to help at all. The only way to fix suicide is to actually take health, whether it is mental or physical, seriously. But that takes more of an effort than to repost a silly Facebook post, or wear a ribbon or bracelet. So ain't gonna happen.

Im sorry but im gonna have to totally agree with you again lol.
I used to have a saying, its only ok to talk about suicide if your not really gonna do it. That to me explains the people you describe, good lives but a bout of depression due to a breakup or something. They are in despair, but talking to someone helps or a course of antidepressants or some other support.
As for fb, what a load of bollocks. Heres how that tends to work...
So, im gonna spend 99 percent of my time on their trying to show how much better my life is than everyone elses, be super positive about everything. This will alienate lonely depressed people and make them think their life is really shit. But every so often ill post some token suicide awareness slogan so that people think i care.

"You are not alone"
ugh. I'm sorry but some people are alone. I could have the most helpful mental health professional ever and STILL basically be alone because everybody in my personal life just leaves.

The question is are we doing anything to celebrate it as a community? I think it would be funny if the website had a slogan or banner at the top of the page for it. I do have an odd sense of humour though.
Approx 20 people a day take their own lives in the uk alone. Thats more deaths than covid at the moment.
Covid is considered a crisis. Suicide is not.

 

[Ghost2211]

There is a portion of the population prevention tactics work for, but we are not that portion.

 

[Deleted member 10475]

"It will get better"

I wonder how many people who have said have actually dealt with clinical depression or any type of mental illness.

I mean I love hearing from people who managed to beat their long term battle, but from my experience, this always seems to come from people who were sad for a couple of days and not months or years.

 

[lostangel]

I've heard people talk about how people are posting and pretending to care but I haven't seen much posting about it.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I wonder how many people who have said have actually dealt with clinical depression or any type of mental illness.

I mean I love hearing from people who managed to beat their long term battle, but from my experience, this always seems to come from people who were sad for a couple of days and not months or years.

Well. I'm battling with this for almost a year and it hasn't got better. I'm just dealing with it. It's not the same having a bad day and being sad for it. My situation can only become worse and I'm trying to avoid that. If that happens I'm more prone to ctb.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

So... let's take the next step. Let's make October Suicide Advocacy Month. We can engage people in discussions about suicide and argue our point. They've probably never heard anyone argue against them in the matter. They'd probably be ill-prepared. Let's change some minds, people!

*sigh* If only we could. :-(

 

[Hydration]

I just wish "You are not alone." could make me feel better like it clearly does for some people.

 

[muffin222]

Suicide prevention month is a bandaid. The real way to prevent suicide is to actually take action to repair the underlying societal and economical structures that offer little to no safety net and push people into feeling hopeless about life.

That being said, as was mentioned above, suicide prevention tactics do work on a specific segment of the population who are suicidal due to short-term circumstantial issues and who are at risk of acting on impulse. I suppose that's the main purpose of it all

 

[Nymph]

I feel like the (whatever)-month are kinda just trends so people post about it and get the word going but it doesn't do much. They usually just promote help lines which most people know about and some have bad experiences with them

 

[Brick In The Wall]

"Call this number so we can have you sectioned and make a ton of money doing it!"