Stupid things that people say

[BipolarGuy]

"Your life can't be all that bad. Just take a look in the mirror, for instance you're wearing a nice coat" - somebody from the crisis team earlier this year.

 

[Gamja]

"Stop feeling sorry for yourself."

ouch, that kind of hurt but I can see how tiring I am to have around. I won't let anyone get close to me again so they won't have to deal with a lost cause.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

"You need help".

Usually this comes off as so disingenuous whenever anyone says it because they're basically just refusing to admit that they're powerless to help me yet they think just telling me to get help will make it go away. They just don't care enough to consider what if I can't be helped. Did they ever consider that?

 

[mapletree]

"calm down" NO I WILL NOT CALM DOWN >:-[

ok as a serious response though I hate it when people say "seek help" yeah ok dude that'll be super easy thanks for doing your part im sure it'll all work out now

 

[BipolarGuy]

The best one has to be "You should speak to someone" .... I'm speaking to you right now, bitch!

 

[Wayfaerer]

"I know how you feel"

bitch please, you know nothing about that I can assure you.

"Stop feeling sorry for yourself."

ouch, that kind of hurt but I can see how tiring I am to have around. I won't let anyone get close to me again so they won't have to deal with a lost cause.

That one is great because I have given up on all earthly ambitions and have accepted my fate. I mean, what's the point of living with shitty chronic illness and a ruined body? What else am I suppose to do if not feel sorry for myself? Granted, there is a point there somewhere and I'm really trying to make the most of what I have left. Maybe not what they meant by that but oh well.

 

[BetterInthanOut]

As we all know, depression isn't caused by a failure to lay there for 3 hours on a daily basis with cucumber over your face, while an orange woman massages your feet.
But what stupid things do people suggest as a way to feel better?

I'll kick it off:

- "You need to look at it from a different perspective".
Ok Julia, I'm facing homelessness, have no money or job despite trying, and have been clinically depressed for years and am not getting any help. What perspective would you like me to look at this from?

- "You just need to stop thinking so negatively".
My life is making me feel negative.
My life isn't the way it is because I'm having 'the wrong thoughts'.

"I used to be suicidal and now I'm happy, so I can tell you- it does get better"
Yay, you got better. That does IN NO WAY mean that I will, you have no idea of my circumstances

 

[BipolarGuy]

"I used to be suicidal and now I'm happy, so I can tell you- it does get better"
Yay, you got better. That does IN NO WAY mean that I will, you have no idea of my circumstances

Them:
"You're at rock bottom, which means the only way forward now is UP".

Me:
"Oh don't give me that bullshit!"

 

[Panna]

My mother loves to say "get a wife get a life!" Oh boy, I have trouble talking to anyone, even family, and the only enjoyment I get is from being alone, having someone chasing me around for attention when even that isnt enough anymore would be a delightful idea. Then the other one is having folks say that god will make it better. Oh boy, follow the teachings that even more devout people than I follow and enjoy the hypocrites ostracizing me for not living the same life style as them to the tee even though they are supposed to be these kind benevolent people.

 

[BetterInthanOut]

Them:
"You're at rock bottom, which means the only way forward now is UP".

Me:
"Oh don't give me that bullshit!"

So true! Can't tell you how many times I thought I was at rock bottom then oh no my mistake, it does get worse lol

 

[Wayfaerer]

Them:
"You're at rock bottom, which means the only way forward now is UP".

Me:
"Oh don't give me that bullshit!"

For me the only way is down. Six-feet down

 

[Blueman]

There are no end of dumb things said and I've only been depressed 4 months due to unemployment after stupidly travelling last year.
I've had enjoy the freedom of unemployment while it lasts, go for a massage, join the ramblers, you need a job so you can have a structure to your day,.
The list is endless

 

[BipolarGuy]

Just seen this brilliant one on Facebook:




Oh I'm feeling less depressed already, aren't you?

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I just logged into facebook to contact a company on messenger and saw a post from someone in a medications group saying he was suicidal. Another member agreed he was too. Roll on all the platitudes. FFS. Some people were genuinely listening and trying to be supportive. I contributed what I could, but it's hard to talk through all the nonsense.

 

[freefrommybody]

"Suicide is wrong because things can always get better."

There's no way of knowing that, especially because there are people who we know from documentation never got a happy ending. This is one of those beliefs that is only allowed to solidify in a mind that refuses to fully think it through.

 

[Broken Chimera]

"It's not that bad." Really? Okay. Let's trade places for a week. Let's see if you feel the same afterwards.

 

[Sherri]

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem "
Bitch my problem is permanent!

"Others have it worse"
Never knew it was a competition Karen

Someone told me those exact words yesterday, and plus life is beautiful.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

"Please do not end your life. You are so loved and wanted so much!"

Oh really - then where is everyone? For most of life I have (and still am) a background character to others; we are background characters to each other. Now that someone has ended their life, or is about to, you wish to come out of the woodwork and say that you care? You see this type of phrase used online, but from personal experience it is rarely actually practiced in reality.

 

[Symbiote]

"Men don't have mental illness, they're just lazy"
"You don't have depression, you're just lazy"
"Doctors only diagnosed you that way so they can get more money from you"
"People that talk to themselves, homeless on the street corner, are the ones that have real mental illness"
"Aren't you a bit too old to be having mood phases?"
"How much did you pay the doctor to put you in ICU to make me look bad?"

A therapist told me, "You choose to be depressed, just like you can choose to be happy, all you have to do is flip a switch"

Me: My switch must be broken, because I can't tell if banging my head on the wall turns it on or off.

 

[NeverGoodEnuff]

"Cheer up, things could be worse. So I cheered up, and sure enoigh, things got worse" An oldie.

 

[BipolarGuy]

"Please do not end your life. You are so loved and wanted so much!"

Oh really - then where is everyone? For most of life I have (and still am) a background character to others; we are background characters to each other. Now that someone has ended their life, or is about to, you wish to come out of the woodwork and say that you care? You see this type of phrase used online, but from personal experience it is rarely actually practiced in reality.

This for god sake !!!

 

[Cherrypea]

"Please do not end your life. You are so loved and wanted so much!"

Oh really - then where is everyone? For most of life I have (and still am) a background character to others; we are background characters to each other. Now that someone has ended their life, or is about to, you wish to come out of the woodwork and say that you care? You see this type of phrase used online, but from personal experience it is rarely actually practiced in reality.

Exactly. My brother has phoned me once since the beginning of July since I told him how I was feeling and my sister sends me little cards full of useless platitudes. Yet I know if I ctb they'd be asking why would I do it and why didn't I reach out. Yeah I did, they didn't listen.