Some people need a reality check

[foxslaugh]

Our problems are just society's burdens, our friends' or family's burdens, we're not supposed to feel hopeless or sad. I hate how everything has to be fake. I hate how people hate me when i say what i'm feeling. They like you just when you're mirroring them. Some of my acquantainces are probably feeling and thinking the same things as me but they will keep being delusional about their fake happiness and get angry when I try to make them notice that they're just working their asses off like slaves for nothing. I'm glad that I can talk about these topics with this community. Sometimes I just feel like it makes no sense to post my thoughts but I like hearing other people's responses.

 

[SecretDissociation]

I feel exactly this. I'm not able to form close relationships because I am not keen on being optimistic all the time. If something is shit, it's shit. I'm tired of the idea that integrating into society is helpful to you and itself. But just like you said, people only like it when you mirror them. I get a long better when I indulge in their happy-go-luckiness or their interests. It's not like I want to be a downer but sometimes the conversation of reality and working for life has to be addressed, and I wish it was okay to talk about being miserable because of it. <3

 

[casual_existence]

It honestly sucks to be around miserable, hopeless people. People can only feel compassion for so long before it becomes a chore. Of course things suck. It's hard to move society in a way that makes sense unless you use unconventional means to do so but how many people are willing to go through hell for something they may never see. And somebody will still be unhappy.

 

[Abyssal]

Exactly. I wish people would just be honest with themselves or others. Fuck politeness, fuck kindness, fuck maintaining the suffocating positivity in the room.

Yet it is us who dare to go against society who are outcast, but not upfront. We get shunned naturally without much of a mention because it is seen is a fitting punishment for those who go against the positive norm. How cruel.

 

[Argo]

Our problems are just society's burdens, our friends' or family's burdens, we're not supposed to feel hopeless or sad. I hate how everything has to be fake. I hate how people hate me when i say what i'm feeling. They like you just when you're mirroring them. Some of my acquantainces are probably feeling and thinking the same things as me but they will keep being delusional about their fake happiness and get angry when I try to make them notice that they're just working their asses off like slaves for nothing. I'm glad that I can talk about these topics with this community. Sometimes I just feel like it makes no sense to post my thoughts but I like hearing other people's responses.

Reality is a bummer , so naturally, when you're real, you will struggle to find people who want to listen in most parts of the world. Most people live by managing illusions and by distracting themselves, it's why humor is such a powerful and attractive quality. If you said something dark directly, it would be awkward and taboo and depressing. But if you made it presentable, said the same thing under the pretense of it not being serious, then we could all just play with the idea, express our pleasure at it, express an attitude that sounds like, "This is no big deal", and move on with the fantasy narrative. I don't think jokes exist, they're just acceptable ways to state an uncomfortable truth. It's not a grain of truth in every joke, but a grain of joke in every joke.

@casual_existence makes a good point too though. Even though the dark truths of reality(or just our own personal misery) can be validating, people who suffer do cause those around them to suffer. That's just the mechanics of suffering, it breeds more of itself. That's somewhat balanced around how supportive this community can be.