Discussion Sick of this

[HeyWatchThis]

A bit scattered.
Want to cry but can't.
9 months sober, want to drink.
Rushed into an unexpected relationship and she may be pregnant, realizing we won't be able to raise kid together, I don't know if I can live with that.
She's financially stable enough to raise child on her own and was looking to do so anyway by other means before me.
I love her and she tells me she loves me but I don't think I believe her. If she isn't pregnant I think I'll be ok and we may go our separate ways, if she is and we can't be together, I think I rather check out. The reason I'm considering checking out is because she may not want me in the babies life, not because I want to runout on them, I grew up with no dad and we discussed I have to be in the child's life and now that may have changed. I'll be dammed if the kid is gonna call some other dude dad.

 

[Holu]

Hmm… I'm happy I'm here first, and I hope people think before they write something cruel cuz I can already see the responses.

I hear you bro, it's not something you wanted, and mistakes happen. Also, Ik it's not easy being sober, and your very strong going 9 months.

I think you need to confess and have a discussion with her. You absolutely owe it to her.

Also, I'm just saying this out of concer for your well being, but it's possible this community doesn't take this post well. Most of us are anti-natalist, and there are a good amount of people who have had parents commit suicide or just outright bail on them.

Again, Ik it's painful, but you need to muster the energy to discuss this with your partner. If at that point she decides to continue on, you can at least rest easier.

Anyways, I'm proud that you came here instead of the bottle. That's incredibly difficult. Hope people aren't too mean.

 

[lavendermeadows]

Oh my Gosh. To a certain extent I can relate to this post. I have two children and me and their father didn't work out. I had my first psychotic episode after having my second and he took the kids… I understand wanting to "check out" in these circumstances but I hope that things work out for you

Hmm… I'm happy I'm here first, and I hope people think before they write something cruel cuz I can already see the responses.

I hear you bro, it's not something you wanted, and mistakes happen. Also, Ik it's not easy being sober, and your very strong going 9 months.

I think you need to confess and have a discussion with her. You absolutely owe it to her.

Also, I'm just saying this out of concer for your well being, but it's possible this community doesn't take this post well. Most of us are anti-natalist, and there are a good amount of people who have had parents commit suicide or just outright bail on them.

Again, Ik it's painful, but you need to muster the energy to discuss this with your partner. If at that point she decides to continue on, you can at least rest easier.

Anyways, I'm proud that you came here instead of the bottle. That's incredibly difficult. Hope people aren't too mean.

I'm new to the forum and didn't know that people losing their parents to suicide was a common thing here. I lost my mom to suicide and I feel completely alone in that. I have kids so I was able to take what you said to heart… thank you for being understanding towards us who didn't know any better

 

[Holu]

Oh my Gosh. To a certain extent I can relate to this post. I have two children and me and their father didn't work out. I had my first psychotic episode after having my second and he took the kids… I understand wanting to "check out" in these circumstances but I hope that things work out for you

You aren't the first mother I've seen discuss the hardships of raising a child. Hehe I remember seeing a post where the mom called them evil.

Regardless, I'm sorry he took the kids(unless it's what you wanted). We are all human, and depending on if you have a connection with them, then I'm hoping for the best now and in the future.

 

[lavendermeadows]

You aren't the first mother I've seen discuss the hardships of raising a child. Hehe I remember seeing a post where the mom called them evil.

Regardless, I'm sorry he took the kids(unless it's what you wanted). We are all human, and depending on if you have a connection with them, then I'm hoping for the best now and in the future.

Unfortunately, it's not only not what I wanted, but he is in control of it all and I don't get to contact my kids. His new girlfriend…. My kids call her mom. I have no reason to continue. I hope they have a happy life. They are young enough to where they will not remember me.

 

[Holu]

Unfortunately, it's not only not what I wanted, but he is in control of it all and I don't get to contact my kids. His new girlfriend…. My kids call her mom. I have no reason to continue. I hope they have a happy life. They are young enough to where they will not remember me.

Noooooooooo. I didn't mean to bring up any pain I'm sorryy. Omgf. I'm a child with divorced parents, never really got along with my father, cut contact and lived with my mom since a young kid, and even I would never call my stepfather "dad", regardless of whether or not he's good to me or a father figure. I'm really really sorry, and yes, whilst it hurts maybe it's for the best. Should they ever figure out I do hope they at least understand you.

Also, I hate to say this, but we are hijacking OPs post. If you want to write a response please just dm me. I don't want to interfere any more with OP

 

[lavendermeadows]

Noooooooooo. I didn't mean to bring up any pain I'm sorryy. Omgf. I'm a child with divorced parents, never really got along with my father, cut contact and lived with my mom since a young kid, and even I would never call my stepfather "dad", regardless of whether or not he's good to me or a father figure. I'm really really sorry, and yes, whilst it hurts maybe it's for the best. Should they ever figure out I do hope they at least understand you.

Nooo don't feel sorry. The pain of losing my kids Carrie's with me no matter what. Thank you for the compassion and understanding. No one in real life gets it. They just see me as a bottom of the barrel loser who doesn't have custody of her kids.

 

[HeyWatchThis]

Hmm… I'm happy I'm here first, and I hope people think before they write something cruel cuz I can already see the responses.

I hear you bro, it's not something you wanted, and mistakes happen. Also, Ik it's not easy being sober, and your very strong going 9 months.

I think you need to confess and have a discussion with her. You absolutely owe it to her.

Also, I'm just saying this out of concer for your well being, but it's possible this community doesn't take this post well. Most of us are anti-natalist, and there are a good amount of people who have had parents commit suicide or just outright bail on them.

Again, Ik it's painful, but you need to muster the energy to discuss this with your partner. If at that point she decides to continue on, you can at least rest easier.

Anyways, I'm proud that you came here instead of the bottle. That's incredibly difficult. Hope people aren't too mean.

Thank you for input, The reason I'm considering checking out is because she may not want me in the babies life, not because I want to runout on them, I grew up with no dad and we discussed I have to be in the child's life and now that may have changed.

 

[Holu]

Thank you for input, The reason I'm considering checking out is because she may not want me in the babies life, not because I want to runout on them, I grew up with no dad and we discussed I have to be in the child's life and now that may have changed.

Ohhh. My bad for misunderstanding.

That's also truly terrible that she wouldn't want you in the child's life. Many moms would kill for their babydaddy to be there.