Should I just castrate myself?

[SadLoser]

I'm so sick of getting emotionally attached to every girl that shows interest in me. When it doesn't work out I can't get out of bed. My heart constantly aches and I have to curl up in a ball for some relief.

I hate it. The anger, the jealousy, the feelings of inadequacy, the bittersweet nostalgia.
I'm too broken to ever be in a relationship and I want to just live the rest of my life on my own.

How can I ever achieve this as a broken little loser constantly in need of attention and reassurance?

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Oh, my poor honey pot, you seem to be in such a struggle. It's painful when we are emotionally sensitive like that. It's like a feeling of loss every time, is it not? Mama bear's so sorry...here, come into my lap, little cub. *pats lap* There, no need to worry, it's okay to be who you are. Someday someone that loves you for what you are may appear, and you'll see how much you're wanted, just like mama wants you to be yourself. You're important to me, sweetheart, and you are safe here.

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

I honestly think mutilating your own body should be the lastest last option you should ever consider in this case...but you do you. I've had these feelings earlier in my youth and they have eventually gone away. Try doing erotic RPs and indulging yourself in masturbation. There are other ways to satiate your libido if you want. Hell, I can even RP with you right now if you want! Just don't do something that will ruin your genitals...

 

[Forever Sleep]

I went through several bouts of limerence in my youth- obsessive crushes on guys and, it was a very turbulent and unpleasant stage for me. I eventually reached a point where I knew I needed to put a stop to it. I would find myself fantasizing about some guy and, force myself to stop. Remind myself how painful it will be when they (inevitably) get a girlfriend. I shifted those feelings on to fictional characters/ actors etc. for somewhere to put them but, I'm so much more comfortable not being so hampered by all that.

I think castration is way too excessive. It's not at all easy but I think you can move beyond this by being super disciplined and pulling yourself up each time you find yourself obsessing. I've been free of it for well over a decade but it dominated my life for a good (well, bad) 13+ years. I'm sorry though. I know how horrible it felt.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

It's ok to decide you don't want the painful rollercoaster. It might take awhile but people can make peace with themselves and live without relationships. The irony is, that mindset of independence and being at peace with oneself, sets up a person to be an excellent partner if the time comes. Less drama, more stability, a stronger person. If you're hating it, don't feel pressured to keep pursuing it.

 

[SVEN]

I'm not at all sure that removing the means of satisfying lust or desire will remove the desire itself. Just the means of satisfying it.

 

[usernamesarehard]

I wish I had this option. I'm sick of having crushes, I'm sick of having a sex drive, I'm sick or wanting a relationship.

If I was aro/ace I wouldn't even be back here.

Luckily my meds help me have energy and motivation. And as long as I'm focused on school work I essentially become aro/ace. I don't think about relationships or sex.

I'm only really here because I'm hurting myself by writing down my diary into a physical diary from my computer. So I can't stop thinking about my ex. I'll be ok once that is done and I can focus on school. Or at least I hope.

 

[Pure Vanilla]

It's an option

I dont really think it is an option, most people here dont get off to the most painful things imaginable or theyd just slit their wrists, theres a reason some people think its excessive even to do to rapists, its not much of an option

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Love and lust can occur independently of each other and likely stem from different neurobiological processes, at least from my limited understanding of them. I would imagine that castration probably wouldn't do much to address your issues with emotional attachment since castration mainly tends to impact sex drive. Of course, I might be wrong here (there's probably a pretty good chance that I am), but at the same time I feel like the best way to stop getting emotionally attached to every girl that gives you attention would be through actually addressing the issue itself rather than getting castrated...