Scars On Face -Worst Issue To Have, No Support Or Representation

[BruceWayne]

hi everyone

this is my first post.

i want to talk about the lack of support for facial scarring. people do not see you as human, they treat you like you're a leper and there is no support or representation for people who have facial scarring. we seem to have representation for obese people as calvin klein models and all sorts of absurd genders and sexualities in video games etc

i am 28, this time last year i had no issues other than a scar from my time as a fireman when i was younger. i was happy, going out,, women loved me and i was the type of person you wanted to be around.

november 2022 i caught chickenpox from a child which left me a few pitted scars that look like holes, the main issue was it left small red broken veins all over my face.it was absoloutely devastating and nothing has ever been the same. last month i had a laser treatment to remove the vessels which ended up blistering and now leaving big red patches with white skin in the middle. my life has changed, i can't do nothing now. i wear a hoodie in the sweltering heat to hide my face with the exception of the work where people who used to kiss my ass now look down or away from me when they talk. i can't even go get a haircut because i hate the way my face looks in the mirror.

i know how to beat depression. i would go and box 4 times a week, ,just sit in nature and listen to the birds and feed the animals or spend time with an old friend from high school just talking. i can't do that anymore because i am ashamed and anxious i just go to work and spend the rest at home and in my bed.

i know my face isn't that bad and is treatable but i am having no luck and spiralling

the problem is you are wearing your problems on yoir face, you can't hide them. i talk to God everyday but i don't think he wants to listen anymore.

i don't wanna die, but i want to live.

 

[90starve]

i don't have any facial scars, but one side of my jaw is swollen due to a bone disease - so i can sympathise with you on this. my face will never be the same again, and i just can't stand looking at myself.

 

[BruceWayne]

i don't have any facial scars, but one side of my jaw is swollen due to a bone disease - so i can sympathise with you on this. my face will never be the same again, and i just can't stand looking at myself.

the worst thing is there is no support for "abnormal" people like us. i wish there was a support group where people like us could just hang out

 

[FuneralCry]

To me it's so awful how humans are so insensitive and judgemental in this world, I'm not even surprised that other people act in such a way as I personally see humans as being the worst species in general. But anyway I wish you the best, existence is just too cruel.

 

[90starve]

the worst thing is there is no support for "abnormal" people like us. i wish there was a support group where people like us could just hang out

yes, i would love to see how other people like me are dealing with insecurities surrounding the issue + such. it would be nice if we could feel included rather than treated as circus freaks.

i hate how that, just because it is our faces that are damaged, people feel as though they have a right to ridicule us - if it were my leg that was swollen (as it is most commonly in other cases of my disease) i wouldn't have had to battle anywhere near as much degradation from my peers.

 

[Torabol]

I have a lot of scarring I didn't ask for too, due to past events. You're right, it doesn't seem anyone cares, particularly if you're male.

 

[mia.wallace]

the worst thing is there is no support for "abnormal" people like us. i wish there was a support group where people like us could just hang out

In the UK, there's an organization called Changing Faces, which helps people living with all sorts of visual differences. They offer support, guidance and resources. Might be worthwhile checking out. No one should feel alone in their suffering. Hugs to you xx

 

[SoftWorries]

Wear some makeup my friend x

 

[BruceWayne]

thank you for this, but to be honest i wouldn't say it's a disfigurement like for the ones on their website. it looks like i have been slightly beaten up with a few scars from acne. i wouldn't want to make it seem like i have a problem when the people there are much worse. thank you though

In the UK, there's an organization called Changing Faces, which helps people living with all sorts of visual differences. They offer support, guidance and resources. Might be worthwhile checking out. No one should feel alone in their suffering. Hugs to you xx

I have a lot of scarring I didn't ask for too, due to past events. You're right, it doesn't seem anyone cares, particularly if you're male.

yeah it sucks. people assume that i am some meth head or something but most of my scars are from chicken pox or from damage from my time as a fireman and in the army.

i am going to try some microneedling hopefully that will help

yes, i would love to see how other people like me are dealing with insecurities surrounding the issue + such. it would be nice if we could feel included rather than treated as circus freaks.

i hate how that, just because it is our faces that are damaged, people feel as though they have a right to ridicule us - if it were my leg that was swollen (as it is most commonly in other cases of my disease) i wouldn't have had to battle anywhere near as much degradation from my peers.

yes, especially when every single person has clear skin. even the homeless and the crackheads. i get a bit of solace knowing im not alone by hearing your words.

 

[Aisley]

Have you considered a powder concealer? Even if it can mellow out 5 or 10% without being noticeable, would be something.

 

[BruceWayne]

Have you considered a powder concealer? Even if it can mellow out 5 or 10% without being noticeable, would be something.

it makes it worse. especially in the heat. isweat a lot (wearing a hoodie and being asian doesn't help either) it dries up and turns yellow and starts flaking. sudocream helps a bit though.

 

[Dmoore3232]

I have facial skin problems as well. Yeah that is tough. Is it permanent scars? You see it in some people like the coach of the San Antonio Spurs and I am just like how do you deal with that?

Maybe you want to rebuild the collagen with vitamin C.

I use flavonoids for my skin like quercetin, hespiridin, rutin which you need to eat with fat like yogurt. I think some rebuild collagen as well.

 

[BruceWayne]

his ones look like acne scars. i have a similar long from being some damage a few years ago. but i also have coloured ones which stick out and look worse. personally his ones are easy to treat to look less noticeable. my ones are complicated and time/money consuming.

I have facial skin problems as well. Yeah that is tough. Is it permanent scars? You see it in some people like the coach of the San Antonio Spurs and I am just like how do you deal with that?

Maybe you want to rebuild the collagen with vitamin C.

 

[Dmoore3232]

his ones look like acne scars. i have a similar long from being some damage a few years ago. but i also have coloured ones which stick out and look worse. personally his ones are easy to treat to look less noticeable. my ones are complicated and time/money consuming.

Yeah I dropped out of high school because of my skin, and wore makeup in high school, and wrecked like every relationship I have had from it. Yeah I am not sure what his are from. Well you should see a dermatologist if you have not yet.

 

[BruceWayne]

Yeah I dropped out of high school because of my skin, and wore makeup in high school, and wrecked like every relationship I have had from it. Yeah I am not sure what his are from. Well you should see a dermatologist if you have not yet.

i have, the problem is their treatments make it worse. they treat the scar and left broken red veins all oved my face. treating the red veins left me with more red veins and greyish scars that i can't find anyone on google ever having this before. also they do treatments that take several weeks to a month to heal and i have a 9-5 job.

 

[Dmoore3232]

i have, the problem is their treatments make it worse. they treat the scar and left broken red veins all oved my face. treating the red veins left me with more red veins and greyish scars that i can't find anyone on google ever having this before. also they do treatments that take several weeks to a month to heal and i have a 9-5 job.

That is true, yeah the field of dermatology is hit or miss. You can send me a DM if you want and I can see if I can help you out. It could not be as bad as you say also. Sometimes we criticize ourselves too much. Ya I have never really had a job during the day my whole life, I work at night.

 

[Elliana Berriana]

That must be terrible to deal with, and no one should judge you like that. But unfortunately, in the world we live in, people have disgusting views and behaviours. To conceal the scarring, you could try make up that's specifically designed to hide scars, or you could use silicone gel or sheets. You can probably find these at a pharmacy. I hope things will get better for you, and you won't have to deal with people who don't respect just because you look different. I wish you the best.

 

[bunn1bel]

I don't have scarring, but my face had really bad discoloration and peeling problems (sometimes blistering) because I was having a bad eczema flare up that lasted 3 years. You really don't realize how important being able to be looked in the face is to making you feel like a person. I wore a mask 24/7 for years, not even pulling it down to take a sip from my drink instead opting to put the straw under the mask. Coworkers always wondered what I looked like and I always said they'd never know. I refused to show my face to anyone, refused to be intimate with someone. I felt so isolated and alone, almost inhuman. Why did everyone else have such pretty faces and I looked like I had elephant skin?

It took years of treatment, but eventually my skin started to clear up and I got better with makeup to hide the stubborn parts. It burned and it stung, but slowly over time I was able to show my face. Now people look at me and I still feel anxious, but I'm really happy I was able to become comfortable with my face again.

All this to say, don't give up.. I know it feels impossible to feel human when people can't look you in the face, when you can't even look yourself in the face. When you just want to hide. But like you said, it's treatable and it might take some time. You want to live, and in due time you'll clear up as much as possible and you'll meet people who don't make you feel freakish for skin deformities.

I wish you the best of luck, keep going.

 

[90starve]

i get a bit of solace knowing im not alone by hearing your words.

glad i could help you out a little <3

I wore a mask 24/7

this is a good idea - i wear my mask constantly, anywhere that i am likely to be recognised.

although, it may make acne/ skin problems worse by clogging pores + such.

 

[todienomore]

might look into red light therapy for skin, also enzymes like serrapeptase that break down scar tissue. flush niacin builds up the dermal fat layer. Theres info on ordering red light devices from china direct from the factory, isnt too bad. Youll find a way to beat the issue just do some digging, just try and learn about life from the experience in the meantime. Only thing you have to lose is illusions you cling to.

 

[PlasticFace]

100% agree. I blew half my face off as a kid and everything changed. The last time I went to a job interview they basically told me i'd have to work from home to keep from startling customers/coworkers. "It'd be in the companies best interest to have you work remotely." or some shit.

It's so frustrating because I feel like most people don't understand how different facial scars are from any other type of scarring. Not only physically but emotionally and socially.

Over the years, I've become extremely agoraphobic and it's killing me. All because of a split second decision I made! First impressions are met with either pity or disgust, no in-between.

I'm blind and deaf on one side and when people figure that out they tend to talk about me as if I can't hear them. My close friends used to make jokes about not leaving me alone and shit, acting like I was a bomb ready to go off.

When the result of an event/s become so prominent that they can't be ignored, people tend to forget everything else they know about you and focus in on that one thing. We get treated like animals in a zoo!

 

[BruceWayne]

might look into red light therapy for skin, also enzymes like serrapeptase that break down scar tissue. flush niacin builds up the dermal fat layer. Theres info on ordering red light devices from china direct from the factory, isnt too bad. Youll find a way to beat the issue just do some digging, just try and learn about life from the experience in the meantime. Only thing you have to lose is illusions you cling to.

thanks for that.

im glad you mentioned red light therapy, i was doing it for a while for my bones and eczema. the frustrating thing is that its all gone to waste because of these scars. its really disheartening but thanks for your words. i will research the other 2 and perservere as much as i can.

100% agree. I blew half my face off as a kid and everything changed. The last time I went to a job interview they basically told me i'd have to work from home to keep from startling customers/coworkers. "It'd be in the companies best interest to have you work remotely." or some shit.

It's so frustrating because I feel like most people don't understand how different facial scars are from any other type of scarring. Not only physically but emotionally and socially.

Over the years, I've become extremely agoraphobic and it's killing me. All because of a split second decision I made! First impressions are met with either pity or disgust, no in-between.

I'm blind and deaf on one side and when people figure that out they tend to talk about me as if I can't hear them. My close friends used to make jokes about not leaving me alone and shit, acting like I was a bomb ready to go off.

When the result of an event/s become so prominent that they can't be ignored, people tend to forget everything else they know about you and focus in on that one thing. We get treated like animals in a zoo!

im sorry to hear that my man. just know even it feels like there is noone experiencing what you feel, that there is some of us in the world. wish we could meet up and kick back and feel like normal humans for once.

 

[todienomore]

just a few links ive seen lately that might be relevant, lead you down the rabbit hole

The Best Full Body Red Light Therapy Panels on Alibaba! SGROW, SAIDI, Butterfly Island Tested!

We have gathered some of best full body red light therapy panels available on Alibaba! Not only do they offer some of the lowest prices on the market (because they are literally factory-direct prices), but these full-body panels are high intensity and even have “next generation” features that...

gembared.com

apparently its not hard to find the main chinese manufacturers on alibaba/aliexpress like this

https://m.alibaba.com/product/62490...l_offer.d_title.5f7061e6aqUqH0&s=p&redirect=1

random red light skin study that impressed me, https://sci-hub.se/https://doi.org/10.1089/pho.2009.2547

some clickbait about niacin analogs. In my limited understanding flush niacin has the same benefits without the profit margin of stuff like nmn, nad supplements for grifters

Tech Millionaire Bryan Johnson Takes NAD⁺ Boosters to Become 16 Again

Both the most popular NAD+ boosting supplements — nicotinamide mononucleotide (NMN) and nicotinamide riboside (NR) — reverse the age of anti-aging guru Bryan Johnson by 26 years.

www.nad.com

 

[bedhead_baby]

I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, despite brands using different bodies and people claiming to love everyone, it isn't really true.

I don't have scarring, but I have large pores, a strawberry nose, a fat face and am not conventionally attractive. I don't think I'm ugly, but I know the rolls and the deep stretch marks and the discoloration and the hair would put pretty much everyone off, even though all of that is normal. I have a body I've seen people my age say they'd rather die than have, so that's awkward (and dramatic).

Your body works and it carries you to your goals and does what it can to care for you in this life. You're beautiful, no matter what shallow losers want to make you believe. We'll all be ashes or corpses one day, or become old and no longer look like the babies society pretends we'll always be. I don't know why so much emphasis is put on looks, but I hope you keep striving for the things you want in life