Discussion Resenting parents

[Hunter2005]

Do you guys resent your parents for having you? I hate mine for bringing me into poverty and being dumbasses.

 

[KillingPain267]

Yes. More and more I am mad at my parents for making me. I could have been spared all this suffering. They should have known the risks they put a person through by bringing them into this sick world.

 

[FuneralCry]

I just wish they didn't that is all. Procreation truly is such a horrific crime, it's criminal to impose decades of meaningless suffering onto people even know nobody can be harmed by never existing at all, more than anything I wish I never existed. The fact that this human species hasn't gone voluntarily extinct yet is beyond tragic.

 

[Forveleth]

I don't resent my parents for having me, but I do resent them for leaving me messed up for life. I genuinely think I could have had a very good life had they not been so unbelievably controlling and steered my life in a direction I never wanted it to go. I resent them for that.

 

[divinemistress36]

Yes , even though I have good parents I can't help but feel that way

 

[silas0]

Yeah I'm totally against procreation. Takes an average IQ to realise going through all this shitshow ain't even worth it. The vast majority of life is discomfort if not pain and suffering. Discomfort as in work, school, college, maintaining human body etc etc all stuck in an endless loop with little joy in between. One should be dumb enough to pass on this futile existence to another poor soul.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

You know it. My mother had no fucking business being a mother. And my father should have done his due diligence better.

At least I don't have to worry about hurting poor little old mommy like most people here...

 

[vadim]

I do. I resent them for bringing me into existence. I'm an antinatalist because I take the position that suffering is inherently bad and life contains suffering, therefore to inflict suffering on someone without their consent (i.e. giving birth) is wrong, because I also believe there is no inherent goodness is in creating human life so there's no justification for subjecting someone to a potentially miserable life and then not letting them have the option of opting out. If you find yourself not liking it here, tough shit because you're essentially condemned to a life of suffering.

I resent my parents because I know if I tried to ctb and fail they'd frame it as me being selfish, how could I do that to them, etc. It doesn't matter how miserable I am, I can't end my life because it would hurt them. They think they have a right to my existence. Idc if I sound like a horrible, ungrateful person for this: parental love doesn't mean shit to me. Maybe people without loving parents might object and say they'd love to have what I have, but I'm essentially not viewed as a person by them. Being unable to make friends or form relationships feels worse when your parents love you because they're biologically wired to, if they don't it means there's something wrong with them. It just emphasises how unlikable you are when nobody can love you conditionally because of the person you are.

I don't think anyone has a right to have children. I feel especially repulsed by rich people who go through multiple rounds of ivf and complain about it not being fair they can't conceive, or exploit a poor woman as a surrogate, rather than adopt (I am pro-adoption because it alleviates suffering rather than creating it.). I think it's disgusting how they think the have a right to pass on their genes. I don't believe anybody has that right.

 

[LastBusHome]

Not necessarily, no. I understand now as an adult that they did their best with what they had. Plus I'm already carrying enough in my heart. The weight of resentment is just more than I can bear. More than anything I resent myself and the poor choices I made up to this point in my life. I had no control over my parents or the circumstances I was born into but my life choices are on me.

 

[Yuina]

Not necessarily, no. I understand now as an adult that they did their best with what they had. Plus I'm already carrying enough in my heart. The weight of resentment is just more than I can bear. More than anything I resent myself and the poor choices I made up to this point in my life. I had no control over my parents or the circumstances I was born into but my life choices are on me.

I agree with you 100%. I don't resent my parents, only myself.

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

Idc if I sound like a horrible, ungrateful person for this: parental love doesn't mean shit to me. Maybe people without loving parents might object and say they'd love to have what I have, but I'm essentially not viewed as a person by them. Being unable to make friends or form relationships feels worse when your parents love you because they're biologically wired to, if they don't it means there's something wrong with them. It just emphasises how unlikable you are when nobody can love you conditionally because of the person you are.

I relate to this a lot, I've always wondered whether there's something wrong with me because of my devaluation of parental love despite having overall good parents.

 

[vadim]

I relate to this a lot, I've always wondered whether there's something wrong with me because of my devaluation of parental love despite having overall good parents.

I've often wondered if there's something wrong with me, as in some wires not connecting in my brain, so to speak. There probably is something wrong with me, but I don't think feeling the way I do is immoral, if that makes sense. I didn't choose to be here or be this way.