Venting Relationships

[TessB]

What's funny is it just goes to show they know nothing of the situation and yet still insist on judging me on it. In the sense that I have 2 people that care about me they're right however I'm not fucking both of them and the situation I'm in is mentally and emotionally impossible because there is no right desision and very stressful for me. I really don't need this bs lol.

I think they deleted some of their own posts from the start of the thread so perhaps they are having a rethink! Obviously you can still see what they originally wrote from the quotes below..

 

[Life_and_Death]

I think they deleted some of their own posts from the start of the thread so perhaps they are having a rethink! Obviously you can still see what they originally wrote from the quotes below..

Difficult to say. I reported them and asked to have some stuff deleted so I couldn't reread it and feel worse.

 

[summers]

@Life_and_Death all you wanted to do was vent, and maybe get some advice. You didn't do anything wrong at all, and there is nothing wrong with your situation. Seems like one member has some kind of a grudge against you, and attacked you for no reason. He doesn't know all the details, and had no right to say the things he did.

It would be nice if people read the op before commenting.

 

[Life_and_Death]

@Life_and_Death all you wanted to do was vent, and maybe get some advice. You didn't do anything wrong at all, and there is nothing wrong with your situation. Seems like one member has some kind of a grudge against you, and attacked you for no reason. He doesn't know all the details, and had no right to say the things he did.

It would be nice if people read the op before commenting.

Unless they know me from some where's else I wouldn't say grudge. If I'm reading right it's just a biased 'been there done that' opinion, which I have no problem with however that doesn't mean one can disrespect me. One can have an opinion without being hateful about it.

 

[Mentalmick]

Unless they know me from some where's else I wouldn't say grudge. If I'm reading right it's just a biased 'been there done that' opinion, which I have no problem with however that doesn't mean one can disrespect me. One can have an opinion without being hateful about it.

You haven't arrived in this world until you have a few people with inexplicable grudges against you. I've got thousands of them. They hold conventions and everything. I sometimes speak at them.

 

[Life_and_Death]

They hold conventions and everything. I sometimes speak at them.

"Ok what's the plan of torture today?"

 

[UterEntonaur]

all you wanted to do was vent...

I know, right? If only there was some way to convey that OP just wanted to vent, get the frustration out, and feel a little better. Maybe there should be a tag or something that's shown beside the title or..... oh, nvm

 

[Life_and_Death]

NGL it depends on the execution but you're not wrong either. Either way. Whatever this "friends" intentions are & however the people disagreeing with me feel, understand this. This situation is obviously putting a strain on OPs relationship & further complicating issues with their mental health. I'm failing to see how this friend is "supportive" in anyway when they're the cause of this thread being born to begin with whether they're aware of it or not.

We can all choose to hide our head in the sand, offer our additional support until her relationship breaks down under the obvious strain of this situation until OP shows up back here in an even worse position than she is now. Or, she can be honest with her partner & this other person. They're causing problems. Whatever their intention is, doesn't matter. This thread wasn't made for no reason. My original advice stands regardless, as much as she may not like hearing it, as much as it may come off as offensive or derisive. She should save/cherish her relationship & mental health because we're not all so blessed. Drop the friend.

just thought id respond to this because im just seeing it considering i have you on ignore.
anyway, maybe hes more help to me with us still talking. just saying

 

[Life_and_Death]

Hi, I am so sorry how people commented on your post with such ignorance. I am new here but I hoped most people here are pro-choice not just in regard to suicide. Nonmonogamy in its many forms is a very valid form of relationships that many people have, and that totally works for people. I recommend the book Polysecure Attachment Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern. Essential is that you also have a support system that beliefs in you and in your ways so that you dont get more isolated over being nonmonogamous. Anyway, what you describe is so valid and haters gonna hate. I wish you be well.

I recommend this web comic by Tikva Wolf too to feel less alone maybe: https://kimchicuddles.com/

i liked this one thank you