Question for other ugly men

[that_guy2611]

Does anyone have a way to cope with their appearance ? like, what do you say to yourself unironically ? how do you kill the false hope that sometimes arises ?

 

[Symbiote]

I make dark jokes about my appearance and end up being pleasantly funny around other people. Too bad they don't know I actually feel that way at times.

 

[JaiLuLesCGU]

I wish I knew how to deal with ugliness. I don't know how to cope but I noticed that the more ugly I feel the more I tend to hate people.
But most of the time I avoid leaving my home

 

[la fin de tout]

I force myself to the gym every day, lately I torture myself eating lean foods and steamed vegetables, hoping maybe my physique will impact my face in some ways. I also tell myself unironically "just need to save up around $5000 for liposuction and plastic surgery."

 

[Klophy]

Usually just cope with dark humour, that and I rarely interact with other people.

 

[Un-]

I don't. I let the false hope rise if it ever does (scarce). What I DO do is prevent myself from ever being interested in another person. Because I'm disconnected from ever loving a person (and because I know damn well that I'll never attract a person), I never have to remind myself I'm ugly. I'm alone. I'm alone because I'm hideous. So a constant reminder doesn't matter. It's better to get used to loneliness than it is to get entangled with someone else's shit.. Eventually, one day, they'll hurt me. I can't deal with that anymore.

 

[Interloper]

I hung a towel in front of my bathroom mirror and I put some black tape over my phone's front facing camera, that way I'm not reminded of it and thus don't have to cope.

 

[picklemick]

Now obviously some people are more physically attractive then others. But if that's all that's getting you down, you have a lot of control over your appearance and attractiveness. Being in shape, eating well, proper grooming, get a good haircut, pay attention to fashion. Wear things that fit well. Hell, take steroids if it will make you feel better about yourself.

 

[Superdeterminist]

I don't know how ugly I am in the eyes of others, but I feel ugly. I feel the need to be complimented and admired but I never receive that kind of thing which depresses me.

 

[come to dust]

Whenever I get a bit too cocky about my appearance I look at videos of myself to remind me how hideous I look in real live motion.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

Having been bullied for my looks since school and even occasionally by my parents, I guess it doesn't sting me much now. I don't take any pics of myself and have no social life so others dont either. But sometimes I happen to look at myself through a 3rd party view, like a cctv cam and that causes me to cringe sharply lol.

I also, as a cope, continue to wear a mask even when others in my area aren't. Helps hide the worst of my face and hence less anxiety when I go out.

I tried gymming for more than a year to at least gain a good frame and body but didn't gain shit. Crappy genetics all the way I guess.

 

[Rocinante]

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[come to dust]

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ffs you literally look like a slayer model

 

[Julgran]

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You look a bit like a young Kurt Russel. Is your real name Snake Plissken, perchance..?

 

[Rocinante]

ffs you literally look like a slayer model

Never had relationships at 24

You look a bit like a young Kurt Russel. Is your real name Snake Plissken, perchance..?

Mogs me. I do not k kw Snake Plissken, I do not feel comfortable given out my name. Sorry.

 

[Blondi]

Never had relationships at 24

What is your height ?

 

[Rocinante]

What is your height ?

5'8"

 

[come to dust]

Never had relationships at 24

I feel like this is a mental illness problem and not a looks problem. I would kill to look half as good as you.

 

[whatevs]

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I didn't respond to your strange private message but you're definitely good looking.

5'8"

Yes, this is it. You are short, not ugly. But you aren't a dwarf either. Not CTB material.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Does anyone have a way to cope with their appearance ? like, what do you say to yourself unironically ? how do you kill the false hope that sometimes arises ?

I have killed any thought of getting into a relationship with anybody because that sure as hell is never going to happen. This probably won't help you but it's helping me so far.

 

[Rocinante]

I didn't respond to your strange private message but you're definitely good looking.

Yes, this is it. You are short, not ugly. But you aren't a dwarf either. Not CTB material.

Yes, that is why I need to looksmax to compensate for height.

 

[akirat9]

Being Japanese I am considering ugly to gays. But I don't care what matters to me is ファイナルキズメットー not guys.

 

[Disappointered]

Short men are routinely subjected to all manner of microaggressions and various forms of conscious or unconscious disrespect. They are generally spat upon with hateful glee by the majority of women. They earn less and get promoted less for equivalent work product. Tall men, all other factors equal, grow up feeling confident and overvaluing their abilities, along with most people around them. They consequently reach more of their potential in areas generally not associated with physicality or appearance. It's true that it is never just looks. But that other part that isn't looks is in large part determined by...looks. And sure, a lot of short men have okay lives. But if they were tall they'd be superstars.

If there's a way to predict how tall a male newborn will grow to be, it should be used to identify the short male newborns and snuff them out painlessly to save them the trouble of an almost certainly miserable existence, They are guaranteed an inferior quality of life, just like certain women who don't have the right beauty genes for their time and place. There absolutely are tall and/or hot people who have serious problems and suffer greatly but the shorter and uglier someone is, the greater the likelihood that they will be miserable merely because of their substandard embodiment.

How many people actually like to be challenged in life? Not just given some stimuli that they know they'll win at after having dispensed some energy toward conquering it, following which they'll be rewarded in society, but truly challenged to the point of losing more often than they win. Some people are developmentally challenged. How many people would want to be developmentally challenged? I mean some might wonder if it's an easier happier life because you might be too "challenged" to realize why you would normally be miserable but I don't think that's a gamble most people would actually take.

Most humans do need more than just other tall, hot & conceited people - who will therefore do well in the job market - living a vapid life of beer commercials and porn scenes...once they've lived that life and are approaching forty. The few who want to and are able to surpass that early on will still be happier and more successful if tall and good-looking.

 

[Csmith8827]

I haven't read the thread all the way...but dude...try ANYTHING. Physical appearance is such a huge deal in society/period. Try hats, hair styles, clothes, bandanas (they frame your face miraculously well, I've found) just try anything that gives you confidence when you look in the mirror. Hell, booze helped me for years but thankfully I'm past that. And to think I started out handsome. Hahaha :/

 

[come to dust]

Being Japanese I am considering ugly to gays. But I don't care what matters to me is ファイナルキズメットー not guys.

Interesting, as a brown persin I once went to japan and looked on the gay apps. Not one person replied to me. That's usual for me because I'm ugly, but I had a feeling that in Japan they didn't like my race. Probably wanted light skin.

 

[Line]

I wish society didn't care about appearance so much, I don't. It sadden me to see so much on the internet where people are insecure about their appearance and even get suicidal because of it, as if beauty is the meaning of life.

 

[callme]

I wish society didn't care about appearance so much, I don't. It sadden me to see so much on the internet where people are insecure about their appearance and even get suicidal because of it, as if beauty is the meaning of life.

It kinda is, along with money and power

 

[SFB123]

I didn't respond to your strange private message but you're definitely good looking.

Yes, this is it. You are short, not ugly. But you aren't a dwarf either. Not CTB material.

He's a very attractive guy imo. This is coming from a very unattractive male who could only dream to look as good as that :(

 

[Blue_mist]

I'm below average looking gay guy, it's harder in LGBTQ community not to be sexy and attractive ;however, I feel confident in myself and I don't give a shit about people. Every time i feel down about my appearance, i tell myself ( fuck the whole world) they never been helpful or supportive why should I care about what they think or say, why would I let them ruin my life more than they have. Love yourself and leave the world behind

 

[Misery99]

Not a man but I think that I'm f*cking ugly. But it's something that can be fixed but I'm broke so no hope. It sucks.