ThePriceOfExistence

ThePriceOfExistence

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Mar 21, 2023
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been watching porn since i was 12, lost my first girlfriend because she got disturbed when she found out about my porn consumption.
When i'm not in the presence of other people i just can't stop consuming that dogshit. My whole perception of love is already fucking skewed because of my narcissistic parents
i can't focus on school and can't even watch a full fucking youtube video anymore, all of these degenerate motherfuckers that make this shit know exactly what they're fucking doing to teenager's minds
 
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7@vuse99

7@vuse99

Too tired to care.
Mar 9, 2023
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I understand what you mean... It fucks life up.
 
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Linda

Linda

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The Ancient Greeks had a very wise saying. "Pan metron ariston". It means "All things in moderation". Don't overdo the porn. But don't worry if you use it now and again.
 
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ctb7767

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The old standard was you needed to be 18 to buy a porn magazine. I'm all for a free and open internet but something is wrong now.
 
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d.va

d.va

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Apr 5, 2023
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I agree. Porn in moderation is one thing, back in the day you had to hope your friend had a porn magazine or maybe one dirty vhs. Now the internet gives unregulated access to anyone, including children. I have to imagine that that has an effect on the brain. Consuming it moderation with the knowledge it is not representative of real sex is key.
 
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ThePriceOfExistence

ThePriceOfExistence

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The Ancient Greeks had a very wise saying. "Pan metron ariston". It means "All things in moderation". Don't overdo the porn. But don't worry if you use it now and again.
As a teenager you have no idea of the damage it could cause to your life. For me as a kid it felt like the best drug ever, no one judged me using it since i was "exploring my sexuality" and i could use it anytime i wanted as long as i was alone and i had an internet connection. There should be actual ways to verify that a person is 18 before they can watch porn like having to show your ID card or drivers license which youtube is already doing but coincidentally the whole online porn industry doesnt. To me it seems they are actively preying on young peoples minds, just like how the tobacco industry popularised vaping.
 
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Linda

Linda

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They probably are "actively preying" on people. Welcome to the Real World. You can't change what has happened in the past but you can - and, I think, should - greatly reduce your use of porn in the future. Habits can be broken, if you really want tp break them. Your experiences may have made you feel rather messed up at the moment, but my guess is that will fade over time.
 
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Dot

Info abt typng styl on prfle.
Sep 26, 2021
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been watching porn since i was 12, lost my first girlfriend because she got disturbed when she found out about my porn consumption.
When i'm not in the presence of other people i just can't stop consuming that dogshit. My whole perception of love is already fucking skewed because of my narcissistic parents
i can't focus on school and can't even watch a full fucking youtube video anymore, all of these degenerate motherfuckers that make this shit know exactly what they're fucking doing to teenager's minds

12 = defntly v yng 2 start b-ing xposed 2 smethng lke tht

Am srry tht rlatnshps hve alrdy bn affectd

Hw old r u nw
 
KuroiSH

KuroiSH

bus tickets are expensive
Mar 29, 2023
281
Some schools start using computers as early as 3rd grade. This means that if a kid is crafty enough and their school's blockers are lazy, they could quite literally be exposed to porn at, what, 8-9 years old? That's a crazy age to discover something like that. Or even worse, gore.
 
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Himalayan

Himalayan

"Wake up to reality, nothing ever goes as planned"
Sep 30, 2022
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This guy wants to fight your addiction
 
LookAway

LookAway

Student
Mar 19, 2023
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No shit. It's the quickest way to drain all of your sexual energy/prana/chi. It's a perfect way to lower your vibration and essentially drag yourself to hell. If one is not disciplined enough they will fall into their carnal nature and lose their soul in the process.
 
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Csmith8827

Csmith8827

Don't you listen to your heart? (Listen to it...)
Oct 26, 2019
851
I got exposed to porn at younger that 12 but 12 was a meaningful age with regards to it. It's pretty jacked up...we all have life stories...I don't know what advice to give you...I don't believe people should be able to access it underage but it happens everyday and has been happening... welcome to our wacky little planet...
 
borderline-feline

borderline-feline

Constantly Sleepy Catgirl
Dec 28, 2022
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There's nothing inherently wrong with porn. I think the big issue that's a trend in this thread is people being exposed to sexual material at an age where they weren't old enough to handle it. Porn can actually be extremely therapeutic for people who've had issues with sexuality in their lives.
 
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Undertow Mermaid

Undertow Mermaid

Human Centipede is a tour de force
Feb 5, 2023
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There's nothing inherently wrong with porn. I think the big issue that's a trend in this thread is people being exposed to sexual material at an age where they weren't old enough to handle it. Porn can actually be extremely therapeutic for people who've had issues with sexuality in their lives.
Agree. I was molested by my dads drunk friends when I was a toddler to until I decided to become fat when I was 9, suddenly no one wanted to touch the fat girl (thank fuck). However I can no longer have normal sexual relationships, but when I use porn I can just let myself be okay with being sexual by myself. If another person is involved I suddenly just turn off into a robot and no one wants to fuck a dead fish (well... maybe not no one). I still enjoy being fat due to men having almost 0 interest in me in person, they look right past me--I don't exist.

Without porn I would never have amazing O's 🙏
 
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TheDizzenter

TheDizzenter

Words that are alive, but a body rotting as well.
Feb 21, 2023
24
I know how It's.
Good I didn't get any vicious at this. I rarely show interest at all.
But just because It doesn't affect me directly, It doesn't mean It can't affect of any other way.
People sometimes have a serious nasty perturbing mind, and this is enough to make me disgusted.
People are crazy as savage animals trying to rut.
Porn is just a way to even give more desire to these.

Porn technically sucks. Let's be honest.
 
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itsallpointless

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Feb 9, 2023
213
I agree. It's a waste of sexual energy. You should be fucking, not getting off watching other people fuck
 
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Csmith8827

Csmith8827

Don't you listen to your heart? (Listen to it...)
Oct 26, 2019
851
Looking at images is so pointless/time consuming as well. But it's also highly addictive and fun...

I dunno. I'm a huge fan/lover of pornography though that industry has scarred/detrimentally damaged my life/myself...

I just don't fit in anywhere else/relate to anything else.

Life is so complicated. 😔
 
Danyyyyy

Danyyyyy

Yippee
Mar 19, 2023
72
for me porn was I guess a coping mechanism (dum asf) and so instead of rhythm games I would get off all the time, and it got rlly bad to where like I ALMOST did it in public :((( Luckily i've tried to go clean for a month and it was def difficult but i did it and it was strange, but definitely helped with the addiction I had since I first saw it around 10 y/o :PP
 
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SoftWorries

Specialist
Feb 22, 2023
334
Some people are more likely to get addicted to porn than others. I know multiple people myself included with very addictive personalities (alcohol, food, drugs, love) that haven't had issues with porn.

Despite looking at porn often I haven't found any negative change in my life from it. I think it's like how some people can eat junk food or drink alcohol without it becoming an addiction. Probably you're not addicted to everything that could be considered addictive and porn is what gives you the most intense thrill.

Perhaps you should try to move away from hardcore pornography to give your brain a reset.
 
SHpr0

SHpr0

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Apr 13, 2023
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i was exposed to pornography at a young age, maybe 10. i fell down the rabbit hole and it seriously warped my mind
 
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BruhXDDDDD

BruhXDDDDD

Student
Feb 18, 2022
166
I wish I could tell my younger self about my current standards so that I wouldn't have to feel bad about what I used to jack off to.

Just being able to tell myself basic standards I'd eventually develop, such as -

That comic's plot seems too rapey to be comfortable
or
if it seems too fucked up to be fully comfortable with it, don't stroke your dick to it.
 
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macrocosm

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Apr 3, 2023
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been watching porn since i was 12, lost my first girlfriend because she got disturbed when she found out about my porn consumption.
When i'm not in the presence of other people i just can't stop consuming that dogshit. My whole perception of love is already fucking skewed because of my narcissistic parents
i can't focus on school and can't even watch a full fucking youtube video anymore, all of these degenerate motherfuckers that make this shit know exactly what they're fucking doing to teenager's minds
Porn/public display of sex has existed for most human history. But I agree and I get that today it's very easily accessible, and it really should be regulated a lot more to avoid people too young from accessing it. Still, porn itself is not good or evil (subjective)

Just like anything else in the world, some people like it, some don't, some are impartial, some are addicted, and so on.

But man, having narcissistic parents is really tough. Don't know what to say to that.

It seems like you're self-aware of how all this has affected you. Means you're smart and you have good intentions and you can probably work on the damage it's caused you.

Have you done or considered talk therapy?
 
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Leagueofgentlemen

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Apr 19, 2023
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Porn has really distorted the minds of young men given them an entitled and messed up view of sex and women. Thinking you can order a pizza and end up having sex with the server and thinking that jabbing the clitoris like a keyboard is going to be comfortable, because porn orgasms are always fake. I had a friend that thought the whole world was an orgy and that everyone was trying to have sex with each other all the time because he spent all his time watching porn at home, and he was in his 60s!
 
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LittleJem

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Jul 3, 2019
2,511
There is a difference between using porn and porn addiction. And porn addiction is an issue for a percentage of children and teenagers (I forget the percentage, but Childline did a survey and found the percentage).OP here are some useful articles:

- https://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-an-Addiction-to-Porn-As-a-Teenager
- https://www.quora.com/How-can-I-stop-my-addiction-to-porn-as-a-teenager
- https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/
- https://compliance.handsam.educatio...fects-of-pornography-on-the-developing-child/

I have personally watched hours of porn, mainly cos my ex-husband was watching it for hours, so I did just because he was and because we were not having sex. Now I realise it was mental illness affecting our sex life so badly - mine. I watched it because I was annoyed with him. Why do I watch it? It's sometimes a distraction from mental illness and anxiety for me. I also find pleasure generally quite hard due to my mental health and depression.

I also think that my own feminism protects me from it, like if women are called sluts and bitches, that is not something I agree with in real life, but I can watch it for distraction or curiosity. But I am an adult...and this was not what I saw about sex during my teenage years. I read books on fantasies that were fun such as Nancy Friday 'My Secret Garden'. https://fivebooks.com/book/my-secret-garden-by-nancy-friday/

In my day, there was a book called 'The Joy of Sex' which is just infinitely better sex education than porn. It's probably still published (hopefully!). Also, porn magazines back in the day were better. At least they had some kind of storyline sometimes and sex was seen as something fun, rather than mechanical fucking. If only teenagers could have access to that as part of their sex education. Maybe led by slightly older teenagers rather than parents or teachers.

I have never seen a woman have an orgasm in any of the porn I watched. I have seen so many videos where women get called 'sluts' and bitches and harmful videos where men f--k their step sisters (in reality sexual abuse is higher in step families). I have never seen the actors - and they are actors - communicate during sex or get to know each others bodies better. What about sex as pleasure. what about the G-spot. What about how I actually prefer sometimes having a foot massage or my tummy rubbed, rather than the ABC of one base to another which is kind of boring. I have also very rarely seen the amount of foreplay that is optimal for women to orgasm (and the statistics on women orgasming during sex show that women are definitely in general having less pleasure from sex than men, to the point where lots of young women are giving up sex even).

I have written essays on porn - one against and one for - and nowadays, I am entirely against it for children and teenagers, and I also think it has detrimentally influenced my sexual relationships and male attitudes towards sex even as an adult in my late 40s. I absolutely think it objectifies women. It also makes me think less of men, that porn in such tacky scenarios is targeted at the male brain. I'm not saying that there are not women who enjoy it, but really what do the videos available on YouPorn and PornHub say about men?
ps OP sorry about your parents. Sucks to shitty parents.

In all seriousness, try anything that gets you outside, like the boy Scouts. If you have good leaders and role models, that might help mitigate your parents a little.

From what I've read, porn blockers are one of the best ways to treat your porn addiction. It's also really good that you are aware it is detrimental for you, so I hope you find a way to free yourself from it.
 
Csmith8827

Csmith8827

Don't you listen to your heart? (Listen to it...)
Oct 26, 2019
851
I grew up in that industry and am a product of it and honestly all I have to say is *GO PORNOGRAPHY* . I'M Sorry but I support it...
 
LONE WOLF.

LONE WOLF.

PUNISHER.
Nov 4, 2020
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Everytime l glance through a 1980's classic Ford's magazine l just have to rush off to the bathroom, l mean the 'Capri 2.8i' 👀😍🙄 Wait l said that out loud didn't l 😳 oops
 
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Georg

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Agreed, and I am pretty sure the actors (professional or amateur) are making fun of all the losers watching their vids when camera is off
 

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