Venting People don't care

[whiningdog]

I don't think people actually care about someone else when their going through something normally. And I feel like it's just so rare to actually find someone who gives two shits about you other than them just getting uncomfortable. Me personally I have two people in my life that I actually value and believe they (somewhat) value me too, however it is abundantly clear to me how big of discrepancy there is between how much I care about them and how much they care about me.

I don't want to undermine their feelings and say they don't care at all but one of them is literally my girlfriend whom I have shared almost everything with- including one of my attempts, and recently they have been hiding things from me, not speaking to me for days on end, and show zero regard when I don't speak for over a week when I have told them that's something I do when I feel upset. It feels like I don't even matter to them and they are the only people who I knew for a fact gave some shits about me. This isn't something new in my life- in fact almost every person I've met who I've shared personal things about myself with have seemed to care less. Is this just something all people do or is it a problem with me?

 

[LostHighway]

I don't think people actually care about someone else when their going through something normally. And I feel like it's just so rare to actually find someone who gives two shits about you other than them just getting uncomfortable. Me personally I have two people in my life that I actually value and believe they (somewhat) value me too, however it is abundantly clear to me how big of discrepancy there is between how much I care about them and how much they care about me.

I don't want to undermine their feelings and say they don't care at all but one of them is literally my girlfriend whom I have shared almost everything with- including one of my attempts, and recently they have been hiding things from me, not speaking to me for days on end, and show zero regard when I don't speak for over a week when I have told them that's something I do when I feel upset. It feels like I don't even matter to them and they are the only people who I knew for a fact gave some shits about me. This isn't something new in my life- in fact almost every person I've met who I've shared personal things about myself with have seemed to care less. Is this just something all people do or is it a problem with me?

You've chosen someone who sounds like she's emotionally unavailable. She ghosts you for days on end, and doesn't read your silence as a plea for help (even though you should be able to reach out to her when you need her, rather than giving her he silent treatment). I say for you to work hard on yourself, to be really vulnerable only with people you trust with your life, to surround yourself with emotionally healthy, warm friends who adore you for who you are. I say this every time: We teach people how to treat us. (Maya Angelou)