partner saying he would CTB too

[kelimackie]

what would you feel if after you tell your lover you want to die, they tell you they'd also CTB if you do that

 

[penguinl0v3s]

Happy! I wish I had a suicide partner that was that close to me. Unless they meant it threateningly??

 

[uniqueusername39]

i dont think he'd do it. he has so much more than me to live for.

 

[Exana]

The inverse was true one day, but it never went anywhere.

 

[wait.what]

I guess it would depend a lot on what I believed their intent was. Assuming you're talking about a real life situation and not a pure hypothetical, it would probably make sense to talk to the person and find out for sure what's going on in their mind. Are they entirely serious about wanting to die together? Are they making a vengeful threat in an attempt to control you through emotional manipulation? What are they trying to communicate?

 

[NeedAnEscape]

I instinctively don't want my partner to CTB. He has one of the most brilliant minds I have ever known, and the world needs people like him to stick around to make life better. I also know that he has no history with suicidal thoughts, so that sort of comment would strike me out of the blue. Perhaps, it's hypocritical for me to not want him to CTB, when that's what I desperately want. I especially wouldn't want him to CTB, as a consequence of my choice to CTB. He would be better off without me.

 

[kelimackie]

Are they making a vengeful threat in an attempt to control you through emotional manipulation?

Happy! I wish I had a suicide partner that was that close to me. Unless they meant it threateningly??

Yes, I believe that's what they're trying to convey.

I think they're trying to make me back track my own suicide, in favor of they living. I already told them it's not my problem if they do it, as it's their choice to do whatever with their lives.

 

[whateverr]

One of the reasons I don't want to get with the person I should be getting with. I'm pretty sure she values life, but what if I convince her to do it with me? I would never want to sway someone who isn't truly suicidal like that. I know that if she said she would, I probably wouldn't hesitate to do it with her. I just don't want it to reach that point.

 

[SleepySept]

I definitely won't do it then, I'm already stretching it by deciding to die already. They've opened up with times they were suicidal to me after we got comfortable enough to discuss those things, and he mentioned always being too scared to pull through.
It's a weird current situation for me. I don't want to discount their suffering either. But I don't want to discount my own. I hope they can find some other drive to live. They tell me I've been the best part of their life but they deserve something better, I've been a pretty bad partner.

I couldn't imagine dealing with their death. And I know they'll feel it worse especially without being able to end their life, and having general issues expressing their emotions and not knowing how to cry.

 

[penguinl0v3s]

Yes, I believe that's what they're trying to convey.

I think they're trying to make me back track my own suicide, in favor of they living. I already told them it's not my problem if they do it, as it's their choice to do whatever with their lives.

Ah well fuck him then, I wouldn't bow down to any threats.

 

[DT2007]

what would you feel if after you tell your lover you want to die, they tell you they'd also CTB if you do that

I would love that leaving together