Over 40, Single, and Childless?

[itsamadworld]

Not sure what you mean here....i have also been confused with how these threads are set up. So i certainly am not one to come after you on that.....I didn't mean to insult you. I thought we were having a good dialog....I am not a stoic type of person.( nothing wrong with it, it just isn't me)...i found a comment funny and my apologies (if that was the confusion ?) that it was misinterpreted.

I apologize if I insulted you, honestly that wasn't my intention. I'm new to forums, I thought we were having a nice discussion. I'm not smart enough or articulate enough to have a discussion with you. I could've swore you made fun of my username. I'm not 100% what is even going on now. I will stop responding. Sorry

I am not at all insulted....i actually respect your comments, and i felt you were stating your truth as was i. I am glad we corresponded, and feel free to respond to....i never intended to insult you, and i am not insulted.....noone needs negative vibes when most of us are depressed already, im trying to realize this.......

 

[itsamadworld]

@IWTD - since you refuse to respond to your mistake and my attempt to clarify and apologize (which i should not have, thinking on it), i will just say.....it SEEMS like a typical breeder thing to do....to blame everyone else for your mistakes, and take no responsibility AT ALL.,,(?) idk? but ..have a nice life.

 

[felix]

I keep narrowing the parameters of who I want to talk to. Both my parents committed suicide, so if you are considering leaving children behind, please do not contact me. I don't mean to be judgmental, but you cannot fathom the effect this decision will have on your children. This is how cycles get started.
Is there anyone out there who I can talk to who is actually single, childless, and over 40?

How'd your parents do it?

 

[IWTD]

@IWTD - since you refuse to respond to your mistake and my attempt to clarify and apologize (which i should not have, thinking on it), i will just say.....it seems like a typical breeder thing to do....to blame everyone else for your mistakes, and take no responsibility AT ALL...have a nice life.

That's what you would take from it. I'm not blaming you, I'm blame myself you are to difficult for me to communicate with. I can't keep up, the messages are mixed up for me, and I'm not understanding you. It appeared to me you were making fun and or messing with me. Example my user name. You keep calling me a breeder, I feel like you are trying to treat me like an animal or less than human. I don't want to argue on here I came on here to try and get some help. I'm beginning to wish I didn't. I can not clear my head reading your comments. I don't want to feel worse. I said I was sorry a half of dozen times. At this point it's like you are trying to get to me
I just read your comments, I wasn't not responding, I went for a bike ride to try and clear my head, it's a wreck everyday even when smiling I saw your last comment first. I would like to start over. I am sorry and I accept your apology. I honesty need friends and people to talk to. I cannot afford any hostility with no outlet, I'm at a breaking point. I reread the dialogue and do believe what I said was wrong and over text wasn't interpreted the way it would've came over in person. I am sorry.

 

[Fedrea]

I never wanted kids because even before I was suicidal due to my health issues I knew life was shit and not a gift. Also I'm not single but wish I was because all I've done is ruined someone else's life who feel too guilty to let me go because I'm so pathetic. I'm close to your age requirement. I totally understand how women without children are viewed by society. We are seen as useful for our ability to be incubators and to have youth and beauty. When any chance for that is gone it feels we are worthless to society

Yes there's an element of that. I was often told I was pretty as a youngster, and was clear eyed enough to see the status that can give you in society can help make up for the havoc physical health issues wrecked on my youth.

But, really, what matters in life isn't society's view of our worth. Apart from the practical reality of not being able to have children beyond a certain age, that's just shallow society bullshit. What really really matters in life is how we view ourselves. And you can value yourself as a person as a 25-year-old woman or a 55 year-old woman. I didn't realise that till I lost my mental health. A 55 year old woman who has inner peace and pride in herself and her personal integrity is better off than a beautiful 25 year old suffering from depression and a damaged sense of self.

Having said that, getting to middle-age doesn't do much for the self-esteem of somebody who is already depressed, especially if female. We are all somewhat vulnerable to society's judgement of us

 

[ugly_loser2008]

me

 

[itsamadworld]

That's what you would take from it. I'm not blaming you, I'm blame myself you are to difficult for me to communicate with. I can't keep up, the messages are mixed up for me, and I'm not understanding you. It appeared to me you were making fun and or messing with me. Example my user name. You keep calling me a breeder, I feel like you are trying to treat me like an animal or less than human. I don't want to argue on here I came on here to try and get some help. I'm beginning to wish I didn't. I can not clear my head reading your comments. I don't want to feel worse. I said I was sorry a half of dozen times. At this point it's like you are trying to get to me
I just read your comments, I wasn't not responding, I went for a bike ride to try and clear my head, it's a wreck everyday even when smiling I saw your last comment first. I would like to start over. I am sorry and I accept your apology. I honesty need friends and people to talk to. I cannot afford any hostility with no outlet, I'm at a breaking point. I reread the dialogue and do believe what I said was wrong and over text wasn't interpreted the way it would've came over in person. I am sorry.

TBH, i don't like to talk with people who have children for any length of time. Especially regarding my views of anyone who could bring a child into this hell, to ME it's an act of cruelty., becuz my parents were cruel to me. For a while there, i believed all people who have children are sociopaths, because they lack empathy. Even though, me being childfree, i was repeatedly the target of people who had or wanted to have children, being called selfish or i'm gonna miss out on this great thing-even though my parents regretted this "great thing called parenthood" Seems split minded to me....

Breeder is not just used for non-human animals anymore, btw...but from this point on, I will use the term 'parents.' So sorry for using that term as i guess i could see how it could be offensive, because many people think the human species is the best, so we wouldn't want to insult the superiority of that....hence why animals are killed and brutally treated in mass numbers every day.. But it's not like 'Parents' ever cared if i was offended or the animals. I guess that's why i retracted my apology, because it's not only 'parents' that are offended in this world, it's childfree people who should be more and non-human animals too, when i have to pay it out in my taxes, and non-human animals get milked too!

I have trouble following your posts too, and emotionally, i don't do well with many people in general, thanks to crappy parents and repeated forced compliance in the workplace. All of these lead to anger and bitterness, which i am not proud of.... And the friends i have are mainly childfree, so we don't argue on this...the ones i consider true...

I am forced to be in this world, not only in birth, but i can't even commit suicide, not very easily! I tried,.....When i am forced to work in their systems, which i no longer want to be part of.....That's when i will pretend to respect people with children...But i was forced into this life, and the fact that online it is so easy for me just to let out my pain, and for others to let out their pain....whereas in 'polite society' most have to be forced into silence, if they want don't suffer more

Anyways, ...so it's better to part ways. Take care...

 

[Alejandro17]

I keep narrowing the parameters of who I want to talk to. Both my parents committed suicide, so if you are considering leaving children behind, please do not contact me. I don't mean to be judgmental, but you cannot fathom the effect this decision will have on your children. This is how cycles get started.
Is there anyone out there who I can talk to who is actually single, childless, and over 40?

That would be me. And my father committed suicide. How do we talk off this platform?

 

[IWTD]

TBH, i don't like to talk with people who have children for any length of time. Especially regarding my views of anyone who could bring a child into this hell, to ME it's an act of cruelty., becuz my parents were cruel to me. For a while there, i believed all people who have children are sociopaths, because they lack empathy. Even though, me being childfree, i was repeatedly the target of people who had or wanted to have children, being called selfish or i'm gonna miss out on this great thing-even though my parents regretted this "great thing called parenthood" Seems split minded to me....

Breeder is not just used for non-human animals anymore, btw...but from this point on, I will use the term 'parents.' So sorry for using that term as i guess i could see how it could be offensive, because many people think the human species is the best, so we wouldn't want to insult the superiority of that....hence why animals are killed and brutally treated in mass numbers every day.. But it's not like 'Parents' ever cared if i was offended or the animals. I guess that's why i retracted my apology, because it's not only 'parents' that are offended in this world, it's childfree people who should be more and non-human animals too, when i have to pay it out in my taxes, and non-human animals get milked too!

I have trouble following your posts too, and emotionally, i don't do well with many people in general, thanks to crappy parents and repeated forced compliance in the workplace. All of these lead to anger and bitterness, which i am not proud of.... And the friends i have are mainly childfree, so we don't argue on this...the ones i consider true...

I am forced to be in this world, not only in birth, but i can't even commit suicide, not very easily! I tried,.....When i am forced to work in their systems, which i no longer want to be part of.....That's when i will pretend to respect people with children...But i was forced into this life, and the fact that online it is so easy for me just to let out my pain, and for others to let out their pain....whereas in 'polite society' most have to be forced into silence, if they want don't suffer more

Anyways, ...so it's better to part ways. Take care...

Take care

 

[suffering]

TBH, i don't like to talk with people who have children for any length of time. Especially regarding my views of anyone who could bring a child into this hell, to ME it's an act of cruelty

100% agree.

 

[coldeyes]

And we really have problems

 

[NorthernStar]

In the process of divorce. 47. Female. Childfree.