On the topic of goodbye threads

[EmptyBottle]

I've interacted with a few, and sometimes, when the person cancels (I feel relief on the inside, tho don't state it).. they later delete their thread, with only traces remaining in Firefox's cache or potentially hiding on the disk, never to be seen by other users.

In the unlikely event I'd CTB (ok, unlikely under standard circumstances... there are nightmarish circumstances, that.. if they occur CTB might be a to-do list item), I'd post a thread, something like "One way bus trip, goodbye?"... and if I'd cancel, I'd edit the title if possible to "One way bus trip cancelled" instead of deleting it... if not, I'd post an update ofc

I wonder, if I may ask... has anyone here posted and removed a goodbye thread, was it due to missing the bus due to error, cancelling CTB, or smth else?


(Other comments are also welcome)

Spoiler: tiniest ramble

(don't worry, I'm not going to run scripts to check for changes in thread size, tho search engine caches have long retention periods, companies use difference checking to track changes in content and learn how to change content as effectively as the highest ranked sites)

 

[Dejected 55]

For me, the point of my goodbye thread wouldn't be to say goodbye... but rather to post the details of the method I chose, so that IF successful and I don't return, people would know a method that worked and it might help them. IF I was unsuccessful for whatever reason, hopefully I would be able to come back and post an update to say why it didn't work... again, to be informative to others.

There would be no other reason for me to say "goodbye" to anyone.

 

[33K1LLM3]

Yes. I think there was one yesterday that was posted by mistake i don't know really.

When I post my goodbye, I'll know it's the right time, and you'll know I'm dead for sure if something I have timed pops up confirming it. It all revolves around how suicide can't be rushed, and if it is rushed that's when you get regrets. Other people have their own reasons of course, but that's my opinion about it.

 

[harmunee]

I've interacted with a few, and sometimes, when the person cancels (I feel relief on the inside, tho don't state it).. they later delete their thread, with only traces remaining in Firefox's cache or potentially hiding on the disk, never to be seen by other users.

In the unlikely event I'd CTB (ok, unlikely under standard circumstances... there are nightmarish circumstances, that.. if they occur CTB might be a to-do list item), I'd post a thread, something like "One way bus trip, goodbye?"... and if I'd cancel, I'd edit the title if possible to "One way bus trip cancelled" instead of deleting it... if not, I'd post an update ofc

I wonder, if I may ask... has anyone here posted and removed a goodbye thread, was it due to missing the bus due to error, cancelling CTB, or smth else?


(Other comments are also welcome)

Spoiler: tiniest ramble

(don't worry, I'm not going to run scripts to check for changes in thread size, tho search engine caches have long retention periods, companies use difference checking to track changes in content and learn how to change content as effectively as the highest ranked sites)

my bus crashed lmao, but my goodbye thread still says what i'd like it to say, so i kept it. i knew when i posted it that i was kinda unsure. that's why it says maybe.

 

[usernamesarehard]

Part of me wants to post a goodbye thread to get some emotional support before I ctb. I probably won't though. I'm a pussy and there's a pretty good chance I would wuss out, then it would look like I just posted for attention.

 

[secretghost]

lol I understand. that's why I'm currently in a "postponed" status

 

[EmptyBottle]

Part of me wants to post a goodbye thread to get some emotional support before I ctb. I probably won't though. I'm a pussy and there's a pretty good chance I would wuss out, then it would look like I just posted for attention.

there are still options for posting, like "might ctb, 30% chance" and the post

 

[Zardoz]

I suppose if someone doesn't post a goodbye message and just disappeared then people may be left wondering if they just stopped using the site, or actually did CTB.

I think people may have other people (perhaps many) that take an interest in them and their posts without them even knowing.

But it's personal choice of course.
Personally I think I would feel a bit embarrassed writing one, and wouldn't want to look foolish if I cancelled or failed to CTB. It's an incredibly personal thing to do after all (both CTB and a goodbye message).

 

[usernamesarehard]

there are still options for posting, like "might ctb, 30% chance" and the post

That's not a bad idea. Right now I'm pretty depressed and I just want to spend my last month drinking and sleeping, maybe I'll do a little reading. I'll see how it goes. If I go full blown alcoholic next month I'll make a goodbye thread. If I don't, there's a pretty high chance I'll pussy out and not ctb, no point in posting, I'll just end up changing the date again.

I suppose if someone doesn't post a goodbye message and just disappeared then people may be left wondering if they just stopped using the site, or actually did CTB.

I think people may have other people (perhaps many) that take an interest in them and their posts without them even knowing.

But it's personal choice of course.
Personally I think I would feel a bit embarrassed writing one, and wouldn't want to look foolish if I cancelled or failed to CTB. It's an incredibly personal thing to do after all (both CTB and a goodbye message).

Yeah, I guess this is one reason to make a goodbye thread. Or at least a 'might ctb, might not, if I'm not online for a few months, I'm probably dead' post.

I actually had a conversation with another user in a different thread about something similar to this. I mentioned very few people would miss me and they mentioned that there are people, unknown to me, who would notice my disappearance and look to see when was the last time I was active. I haven't made too many posts and I doubt that there would be a lot of people who would inquire on why I suddenly disappeared from the site, but if there's even one person who would care, maybe I owe them a little closure.

 

[Zardoz]

That's not a bad idea. Right now I'm pretty depressed and I just want to spend my last month drinking and sleeping, maybe I'll do a little reading. I'll see how it goes. If I go full blown alcoholic next month I'll make a goodbye thread. If I don't, there's a pretty high chance I'll pussy out and not ctb, no point in posting, I'll just end up changing the date again.

Yeah, I guess this is one reason to make a goodbye thread. Or at least a 'might ctb, might not, if I'm not online for a few months, I'm probably dead' post.

I actually had a conversation with another user in a different thread about something similar to this. I mentioned very few people would miss me and they mentioned that there are people, unknown to me, who would notice my disappearance and look to see when was the last time I was active. I haven't made too many posts and I doubt that there would be a lot of people who would inquire on why I suddenly disappeared from the site, but if there's even one person who would care, maybe I owe them a little closure.

I think many, many people get a huge amount from using this site.
(Just reading a separate thread on why people visit it. Very heartfelt responses). There's a real and genuine sense of community here. I think a lot of people would feel the same about wanting to provide closure to that and not leave things unknown, if only as a courtesy perhaps if nothing more.

 

[hedezev4]

Well, I had something similar, and I couldn't go to the hotel for SN ctb. Back then, I made this post - https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...i-dont-think-i-can-do-it.210634/#post-3061214

This is not a goodbye post, just a post where I explained what happened and why I think I couldn't do it at that moment.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm not sure you can edit posts after a certain time. I guess you could ask a mod to.

I can understand why people do want to delete them though. I think some almost feel embarassed- not that they should be. But, they may not like the fuss/ drama of people worrying and then gushing they are so happy they are still alive.

Personally, I'm more likely to create a scheduled message- so I can hopefully cancel it if I abort it or, fail. The support of a live message would be nice but then really, what can people even say? We just end up saying the same old: 'Hope you find peace, see you on the other side, Godspeed' stuff.

I've largely stopped commenting on them because I don't know what to say that doesn't sound like encouragement.

I still think it's good to leave one though. It's been almost more distressing in a way when members have just disappeared.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I'm not sure you can edit posts after a certain time. I guess you could ask a mod to.

I can understand why people do want to delete them though. I think some almost feel embarassed- not that they should be. But, they may not like the fuss/ drama of people worrying and then gushing they are so happy they are still alive.

Personally, I'm more likely to create a scheduled message- so I can hopefully cancel it if I abort it or, fail. The support of a live message would be nice but then really, what can people even say? We just end up saying the same old: 'Hope you find peace, see you on the other side, Godspeed' stuff.

I've largely stopped commenting on them because I don't know what to say that doesn't sound like encouragement.

I still think it's good to leave one though. It's been almost more distressing in a way when members have just disappeared.

ooo yes, think 4 hours for forum posts, 30 mins for conversations, and 3 mins for chat messages.

mmm true, removing, or better... editing out the keyword "goodbye", makes statistics easier, however, posts like "saying goodbye to my childhood" artificially raise the "goodbye" keyword count and posts like "time to finalise my existence" don't have that searchable word.

True, I'm not sure what to say on them either, and yep, leaving one provides some closure

 

[Abyss Dweller]

I'm not sure you can edit posts after a certain time. I guess you could ask a mod to.

I can understand why people do want to delete them though. I think some almost feel embarassed- not that they should be. But, they may not like the fuss/ drama of people worrying and then gushing they are so happy they are still alive.

Personally, I'm more likely to create a scheduled message- so I can hopefully cancel it if I abort it or, fail. The support of a live message would be nice but then really, what can people even say? We just end up saying the same old: 'Hope you find peace, see you on the other side, Godspeed' stuff.

I've largely stopped commenting on them because I don't know what to say that doesn't sound like encouragement.

I still think it's good to leave one though. It's been almost more distressing in a way when members have just disappeared.

It does feel near impossible to say something neutral. Read a few and 95% of it at least to me either comes across as encouragement or discouragement.

 

[EmptyBottle]

It does feel near impossible to say something neutral. Read a few and 95% of it at least to me either comes across as encouragement or discouragement.

The only neutral thing I can think of is the falling duck gif

 

[Forever Sleep]

It does feel near impossible to say something neutral. Read a few and 95% of it at least to me either comes across as encouragement or discouragement.

I suppose: 'I hope you find peace' could also mean- if you decide to not go through with it, I hope you make peace with that decision and, life itself.

I imagine we all want the best for one another here- no matter what that looks like. But yeah, I mean in a way, it's kind of shitty we feel obliged to hide it.

If a person is struggling immensely and can't find a way to stop it- of course I want their suffering to end. It would be cruel not to.

 

[Abyss Dweller]

The only neutral thing I can think of is the falling duck gif

I don't know brother that makes me laugh and it would discourage me personally :D

I suppose: 'I hope you find peace' could also mean- if you decide to not go through with it, I hope you make peace with that decision and, life itself.

I imagine we all want the best for one another here- no matter what that looks like. But yeah, I mean in a way, it's kind of shitty we feel obliged to hide it.

If a person is struggling immensely and can't find a way to stop it- of course I want their suffering to end. It would be cruel not to.

I guess it is just a really subjective thing.. and largely depends on the person reading and their current situation. Right now in the case of "you ok if you do, you ok if you don't" I'd probably focus on the "its ok if you don't" part because currently I'm still hanging on to some hope.

But unfortunately I believe it's possible to reach a point where you are on autopilot and it simly doesn't matter.

 

[bankai]

I've interacted with a few, and sometimes, when the person cancels (I feel relief on the inside, tho don't state it).. they later delete their thread, with only traces remaining in Firefox's cache or potentially hiding on the disk, never to be seen by other users.

In the unlikely event I'd CTB (ok, unlikely under standard circumstances... there are nightmarish circumstances, that.. if they occur CTB might be a to-do list item), I'd post a thread, something like "One way bus trip, goodbye?"... and if I'd cancel, I'd edit the title if possible to "One way bus trip cancelled" instead of deleting it... if not, I'd post an update ofc

I wonder, if I may ask... has anyone here posted and removed a goodbye thread, was it due to missing the bus due to error, cancelling CTB, or smth else?


(Other comments are also welcome)

Spoiler: tiniest ramble

(don't worry, I'm not going to run scripts to check for changes in thread size, tho search engine caches have long retention periods, companies use difference checking to track changes in content and learn how to change content as effectively as the highest ranked sites)

Yes. I think there was one yesterday that was posted by mistake i don't know really.

When I post my goodbye, I'll know it's the right time, and you'll know I'm dead for sure if something I have timed pops up confirming it. It all revolves around how suicide can't be rushed, and if it is rushed that's when you get regrets. Other people have their own reasons of course, but that's my opinion about it.

Part of me wants to post a goodbye thread to get some emotional support before I ctb. I probably won't though. I'm a pussy and there's a pretty good chance I would wuss out, then it would look like I just posted for attention.

lol I understand. that's why I'm currently in a "postponed" status

For what it's worth, you can always schedule your threads. Just hit the now button under the reply option. This will let you schedule your post for whatever time or date you want. So if you don't go through with it or if it fails, you can just cancel the post. No harm done.

And if you want to post a separate thread for support, you can just do that in a separate thread and say that you're considering catching the bus. Discuss your method etc.

 

[EmptyBottle]

For what it's worth, you can always schedule your threads. Just hit the now button under the reply option. This will let you schedule your post for whatever time or date you want. So if you don't go through with it or if it fails, you can just cancel the post. No harm done.

And if you want to post a separate thread for support, you can just do that in a separate thread and say that you're considering catching the bus. Discuss your method etc.


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Did you know you can queue to around the year 2050 or so?

I wonder if the forum will post this in 2038 .... I guess users can post from beyond the grave/account by scheduling a handful of posts on different days after either their CTB or last login

And yes, I'll leave this post queued, with only a grammar fix :3

 

[Forveleth]

I had scheduled my goodbye post and when I did not die I deleted it because I am practical and I just plain did not want anybody to think I was dead.

 

[EmptyBottle]

I had scheduled my goodbye post and when I did not die I deleted it because I am practical and I just plain did not want anybody to think I was dead.

mmm, deleting a scheduled post is better than posting live and deleting... which removes other's posts too

I wish that when an OP removes their thread, it says smth like "deleted thread 200200" by "Unknown user"... and the replies stay... if there is only 1 user who then deletes their reply, then the thread can just say "not found" (similar to how reddit handles deletions)

 

[Forveleth]

Well, I had something similar, and I couldn't go to the hotel for SN ctb. Back then, I made this post - https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...i-dont-think-i-can-do-it.210634/#post-3061214

This is not a goodbye post, just a post where I explained what happened and why I think I couldn't do it at that moment.

Hey man, thanks for posting things like this. I think a lot of people feel really dumb or stupid or shameful or guilty when they cannot go through with it or, related to the topic of this thread, when they make a goodbye thread and then do not go through with their attempt or fail. It is important for other people to share those experiences and help to show that it happens to a lot of us here.

I suppose: 'I hope you find peace' could also mean- if you decide to not go through with it, I hope you make peace with that decision and, life itself.

I usually say something along these lines because really in the end I think that is why we are all here. We are all distressed people just looking to find peace in whatever way we can.

mmm, deleting a scheduled post is better than posting live and deleting... which removes other's posts too

I wish that when an OP removes their thread, it says smth like "deleted thread 200200" by "Unknown user"... and the replies stay... if there is only 1 user who then deletes their reply, then the thread can just say "not found" (similar to how reddit handles deletions)

I get really annoyed at how Reddit handles this. A lot of times you need the context of the original post to understand the replies. If you delete that post and then leave just the replies, it is pretty meaningless, in my opinion.

 

[bankai]

Did you know you can queue to around the year 2050 or so?

I wonder if the forum will post this in 2038 .... I guess users can post from beyond the grave/account by scheduling a handful of posts on different days after either their CTB or last login

And yes, I'll leave this post queued, with only a grammar fix :3

Yeah, but that would be crazy for two reasons. Who knows if this forum exists in 2050? And secondly, I don't think any of the users at that time are going to recognize us. There won't be a single reply to our goodbye thread,bottle

 

[EmptyBottle]

Yeah, but that would be crazy for two reasons. Who knows if this forum exists in 2050? And secondly, I don't think any of the users at that time are going to recognize us. There won't be a single reply to our goodbye thread bottle

oh yes true (was only testing out of curiousity)... it feels a bit unlikely it will post, nor will anyone I've chatted to in 2025 likely see the post go live.

Goodbye threads... as well as most other scheduled threads will likely be scheduled within a month of their creation.

And yes, that post was scheduled for the CTB discussion forum coz that forum is popular... instead of offtopic.