(NSFW) Should i become transgender due to having a ? looking for advice. Please be nice as its a very serious issue for me.

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

So basically i have a micropenis , it affects my life in so many ways that i dont even have the energy to explain it.
Theres videos on youtube and many talks of us men with micro.
I also have no bulge in my pants what so ever.
i been mocked and bullied over it.
So i was thinking maybe i should transition to female.
then i wouldnt have to worry about my penis size plus id grow some hair back.
But its mostly due to my size that i consider it.

Now i know u think this is crazy but there is cases of men with my issue transitioning for this very reason.

Also in the past children born with a micropenis were raised as Women because the doctors understand how it would affect our lives.
I sometimes wish they did that to me.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

If you want to go from being bullied for having a micro penis, to being bullied for not passing whatsoever as a woman, yes ! It would be truly a pro gamer move. One is fairly hard to notice for most people, especially for those who don't look at your crotch, the other... well, good luck people not noticing anything on the whole entire general appearance front.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

If you want to go from being bullied for having a micro penis, to being bullied for not passing whatsoever as a woman, yes ! It would be truly a pro gamer move. One is fairly hard to notice for most people, especially for those who don't look at your crotch, the other... well, good luck people not noticing anything on the whole entire general appearance front.

well thats fine at least i get bullied for something that was my choice.

 

[Lullaby]

I agree with the advice given in the comments of those posts. Transitioning could give you dysphoria, it might make you feel a lot worse. People can't really choose to be Trans, it's a lot deeper than that.

Is being a woman something you genuinely feel and want?

 

[TheBroken]

If the choice was made because of, or in hopes of, reducing bullying then it may end up being nothing more than self mutilation directed by the choices and actions of others versus your own - and there's no specific way to assess whether anything would change afterwards. The pain of being bullied relentlessly is very real and harsh, but how many years will you be around the bullies and how far are you willing to go in an attempt to appease such people who could care less about you as a human. Will you decide to shave and go bald if teased about your hair, will you risk a lifetime of skin cancer going to tanning beds because you're too pale skinned ..... where will it stop. Not trying to make any of this seem easy because for you and others it is not, just asking questions. Sorry you're going through this pain.

 

[Oblivion Access]

If the idea of transitioning in general sounds like a good fit for you, sure, go for it. I always think that for people who really want to transition, the harm others will cause them is probably secondary to the mental agony of not transitioning. If you are otherwise reasonably satisfied with your body and identity, as earth-shattering as it must be for you, I don't think transitioning is a great idea, I doubt you'll find the relief you seek through that. Weigh the pros and cons carefully before you embark on this journey. Generally, if it isn't a hell yes, it's probably a hell no.

 

[LastBusStop]

You cannot become trans people don't choose to be trans, you'll end up giving yourself gender dysphoria. You're also assuming life will be easier as a trans woman, it might be easier in some aspects (doubt it) but trans women face unique struggles. I sympathize with you but transition doesn't seem like the solution.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

I agree with the advice given in the comments of those posts. Transitioning could give you dysphoria, it might make you feel a lot worse. People can't really choose to be Trans, it's a lot deeper than that.

Is being a woman something you genuinely feel and want?

not really no its mostly just because of my penis im considering it and i know it may seem stupid to you all but life has been difficult with this rare condition so idk what to do.

If the choice was made because of, or in hopes of, reducing bullying then it may end up being nothing more than self mutilation directed by the choices and actions of others versus your own - and there's no specific way to assess whether anything would change afterwards. The pain of being bullied relentlessly is very real and harsh, but how many years will you be around the bullies and how far are you willing to go in an attempt to appease such people who could care less about you as a human. Will you decide to shave and go bald if teased about your hair, will you risk a lifetime of skin cancer going to tanning beds because you're too pale skinned ..... where will it stop. Not trying to make any of this seem easy because for you and others it is not, just asking questions. Sorry you're going through this pain.

thanks your comments actually make good sense, keep on changing myself just to be accepted is bad.

but also remember as a user on reddit said: healthy sex life and better mental health requires that you're content with yourself and with your physique.

my sexual organ is abnormal.

 

[odradek]

No, I don't think you should... Or could even? Like others have pointed out you don't choose to be trans. And transitioning is a whole process, it's not like flipping a switch. This thread... I'd seek out something else dude.

 

[MellowAvenue]

If it's just because of your penis I'd highly advise against it. Transitioning is a very serious decision that shouldn't be taken lightly. If you feel comfortable with the idea that you were born a male, just with the misfortune of having a small penis, I don't think transitioning will help. You'll just give yourself actual gender identity issues which will likely be more harmful. As someone else said you are opening yourself up to more obvious harassment from other people and detransitioning isn't easy either. If you choose to "detrans" you basically become a minority within a minority.

I guess if you really want to pursue it, maybe try and get a feel for what being a woman would be like for you. Style your hair the way you envision, buy and wear some feminine clothes, choose a new name, etc, just to see if it feels right to you, but absolutely don't force it. Try and keep feelings natural.

However, I'd suggest speaking with a doctor about potential treatment of the micropenis well before that. It sorta sounds like a risky bit of business based on what I've gathered from Google but I still think it never hurts to talk to an actual doctor about it.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I've got actual progamer tips for you, as someone who hates my bulge being in any way whatsoever visible for probably autistic reasons.
A: Long clothing. Self explanatory. They won't laugh at what they can see.
B: Dress trousers, worn properly. If you have the crotch seem placed properly, it's not supposed to show shit, no one's gonna question anything and it looks neat.
C: Fuck it, wear a full suit with a bold tie/scarf, who the fuck's gonna even look down if they have absolute fashion to stare at.

 

[Anxieyote]

What I'd like to do after reading this is breakdown the thought process of the people who are critical of you for this aspect of yourself.

"Your sexual organ is too small, haha. You could never please a woman in bed. You have no value as a man, because your value as a man is based on if you can dominate and pleasure a woman in bed."

You'll notice that these statements contain no compassion or sympathy. Judgment, cruelty, and malice are present in all of these observations, and no forgiveness is granted—all for an aspect of yourself that is beyond your control.

Society's judgement is fierce and unrelenting. Even those who have transitioned will face similar persecution from people without compassion or morals.

Difficult as it may be, you are going to have to find people who are capable of genuine love. Those who are capable of loving someone for their soul, and not simply worshippers of the human vessel.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

I guess if you really want to pursue it, maybe try and get a feel for what being a woman would be like for you. Style your hair the way you envision, buy and wear some feminine clothes, choose a new name, etc, just to see if it feels right to you, but absolutely don't force it. Try and keep feelings natural

thanks alot this is actually a very good idea!! im gonna give it a try maybe...

I've got actual progamer tips for you, as someone who hates my bulge being in any way whatsoever visible for probably autistic reasons.
A: Long clothing. Self explanatory. They won't laugh at what they can see.
B: Dress trousers, worn properly. If you have the crotch seem placed properly, it's not supposed to show shit, no one's gonna question anything and it looks neat.
C: Fuck it, wear a full suit with a bold tie/scarf, who the fuck's gonna even look down if they have absolute fashion to stare at.

thank you alot i appreciate this and actually want to get some long coats like a duster and trench coat

What I'd like to do after reading this is breakdown the thought process of the people who are critical of you for this aspect of yourself.

"Your sexual organ is too small, haha. You could never please a woman in bed. You have no value as a man, because your value as a man is based on if you can dominate and pleasure a woman in bed."

You'll notice that these statements contain no compassion or sympathy. Judgment, cruelty, and malice are present in all of these observations, and no forgiveness is granted—all for an aspect of yourself that is beyond your control.

Society's judgement is fierce and unrelenting. Even those who have transitioned will face similar persecution from people without compassion or morals.

Difficult as it may be, you are going to have to find people who are capable of genuine love. Those who are capable of loving someone for their soul, and not simply worshippers of the human vessel.

thank you for this reply it is great

You cannot become trans people don't choose to be trans, you'll end up giving yourself gender dysphoria. You're also assuming life will be easier as a trans woman, it might be easier in some aspects (doubt it) but trans women face unique struggles. I sympathize with you but transition doesn't seem like the solution.

yes it is indeed a big decision and thank you for your input maybe il look for other solutions.

I'd seek out something else dude.

ok thanks for the response. any suggestions?

 

[odradek]

ok thanks for the response. any suggestions?

I've got actual progamer tips for you, as someone who hates my bulge being in any way whatsoever visible for probably autistic reasons.
A: Long clothing. Self explanatory. They won't laugh at what they can see.
B: Dress trousers, worn properly. If you have the crotch seem placed properly, it's not supposed to show shit, no one's gonna question anything and it looks neat.
C: Fuck it, wear a full suit with a bold tie/scarf, who the fuck's gonna even look down if they have absolute fashion to stare at.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

yes i guess but i meant what about relationships and stuff?

like im not a complete man, i lack the most important male organ.

 

[Niko66]

Gender dysphoria is a whole all too common reason to want to commit suicide. I can almost ascertain that it's a terrible idea. Also while having a micro penis might be a topic of insensitive jokes, judgment and social limitation.

So is being transgender and a bulge won't be your only worry in public, you'd be prone not just to weird looks but harassment and potentially assault too. I think you would just be doubling down on your problems. Trans people are some of the most miserably harrassed and shunned populations in our current society.

I am not comfortable with my gender precisely, never have been and have had similar thoughts but this is definitely no solution. Changing someone's gender when their issue is not dysphoria would barbaric and cruel. Consider too on the other hand that there's a great deal of trans men who haven't gone through bottom surgery. There's more to being a man, relationships and intimacy than this. And likewise, as a trans woman you won't be "a complete woman" due to your anatomy (this is not my view at all but I am just saying that you might encounter the same issue all over of feeling bad about your body because it's not as society desires)

From your threads I assume you are suicidal but have some desire for life, just not the one you have been given, I'd like to believe modest changes are how we start. You can't change what you are born with but you can change other aspects of your overall life even if I can't pretend we can all arrive to acceptance of ourselves and our situations, nor that every situation is bearable, it is the most "reasonable" way.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

Gender dysphoria is a whole all too common reason to want to commit suicide. I can almost ascertain that it's a terrible idea. Also while having a micro penis might be a topic of insensitive jokes, judgment and social limitation.

So is being transgender and a bulge won't be your only worry in public, you'd be prone not just to weird looks but harassment and potentially assault too. I think you would just be doubling down on your problems. Trans people are some of the most miserably harrassed and shunned populations in our current society.

I am not comfortable with my gender precisely, never have been and have had similar thoughts but this is definitely no solution. Changing someone's gender when their issue is not dysphoria would barbaric and cruel. Consider too on the other hand that there's a great deal of trans men who haven't gone through bottom surgery. There's more to being a man, relationships and intimacy than this. And likewise, as a trans woman you won't be "a complete woman" due to your anatomy (this is not my view at all but I am just saying that you might encounter the same issue all over of feeling bad about your body because it's not as society desires)

From your threads I assume you are suicidal but have some desire for life, just not the one you have been given, I'd like to believe modest changes are how we start. You can't change what you are born with but you can change other aspects of your overall life even if I can't pretend we can all arrive to acceptance of ourselves and our situations, nor that every situation is bearable, it is the most "reasonable" way.

yes i agree with all you said.
It seems id be abused and shunned especially in my third world country .
I wish there was a good penis surgery/prostethic penis and id go that way instead.

 

[Symbiote]

Bad Dragon makes a penis prosthetic or sheath that you can wear to appear bigger, it increases the girth and length in realistic proportions compared to their dildo counterparts which are gargantuan. You can also use those during sex since it acts like a strap-on.

 

[Niko66]

yes i agree with all you said.
It seems id be abused and shunned especially in my third world country .
I wish there was a good penis surgery/prostethic penis and id go that way instead.

I wish so too. We are still to early to see so many issues solved sadly.

In a relationship do you believe you could be content if you could please your partner and receive love and attention back? If your hypothetical partner was happy with who you are?

I know it sucks to hear this. We want to be normal and "adequate" not be told to thread around the issue and be at disadvantage but there's plenty of other ways to please a woman sexually, it just takes two open minds and an empathetic loving partner. Which is on itself too a very difficult task but it is possible more so than changing the body you are born with in drastic ways.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

Bad Dragon makes a penis prosthetic or sheath that you can wear to appear bigger, it increases the girth and length in realistic proportions compared to their dildo counterparts which are gargantuan. You can also use those during sex since it acts like a strap-on.

thanks! but id also like to wear something that gives me a bulge and makes me feel comfortable when going out in public not only for sex.
There are penis packers i saw, but idk how that would work with already having a micropenis and testicles.

In a relationship do you believe you could be content if you could please your partner and receive love and attention back? If your hypothetical partner was happy with who you are?

Yes !

 

[Symbiote]

It'll give you a bulge, but do you really want to be the guy that looks like he has a hard on in public everywhere he goes? And in South Asia out of all places where you get beaten for having it in the wrong situations?

You can also wear a jock strap, it works two-fold, makes you appear to have a rounded bulge and protects you from people kicking you in the nuts.

 

[Niko66]

thanks! but id also like to wear something that gives me a bulge and makes me feel comfortable when going out in public not only for sex.
There are penis packers i saw, but idk how that would work with already having a micropenis and testicles.

Yes !

A bit of a search makes it seem so there are options, perhaps not from the site I am sharing as it's all different in every region but there's prosthetic bulges, usually designed for trans men but I am sure there's options you could you get your hands on something that if nothing else might at least give you some relief and comfort in public.

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And well... know that it's possible. Yes many women will find it a deal breaker but that's not everyone. What you do have is the most important organ any human has and that's your brain, the ability to think, empathize, grow, love.
For pleasing a woman you have your tongue, your hands, there's so many toys nowadays, if a partner is accepting of your body you absolutely could be able to please someone sexually. Just takes open minds from both parties.

 

[TheBroken]

yes i agree with all you said.
It seems id be abused and shunned especially in my third world country .
I wish there was a good penis surgery/prostethic penis and id go that way instead.

Silicone implants
This type of surgery involves the insertion of a crescent-shaped piece of medical grade silicone under the penile skin to make the penis longer and wider.

Currently, the Penuma procedure is the only penis enlargement surgery that the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) have cleared for commercial use under the 510(k) regulation. A surgeon first makes an incision above the penis and then inserts a silicone slip through it onto the shaft of the penis. They will shape the silicone implant to ensure that it fits the size and shape of the penis.

Fat transfer
During a fat transfer procedure, the surgeon will remove fat cells from a fatty area of the body and inject them into the shaft of the penis. They do so by making small incisions into the sides of the penis and injecting purified fat cells into these areas.

Suspensory ligament division
Suspensory ligament division surgery, or ligamentolysis, offers a way to make the flaccid penis appear longer by cutting the suspensory ligament. This ligament attaches the penis to the pubic bone. During the procedure, the surgeon will sever this ligament and move skin from the abdomen to the shaft of the penis. Although this may make the flaccid penis hang further down, it does not actually increase its size. The surgeon may also recommend other procedures, such as removing fat from the area surrounding the penis. Doing so may make the penis appear larger, but again, it does not actually change its length.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

It'll give you a bulge, but do you really want to be the guy that looks like he has a hard on in public everywhere he goes? And in South Asia out of all places where you get beaten for having it in the wrong situations?

You can also wear a jock strap, it works two-fold, makes you appear to have a rounded bulge and protects you from people kicking you in the nuts.

a jock strap would really do that?

During a fat transfer procedure, the surgeon will remove fat cells from a fatty area of the body and inject them into the shaft of the penis. They do so by making small incisions into the sides of the penis and injecting purified fat cells into these areas.

so would the fat always remain there?

Currently, the Penuma procedure is the only penis enlargement surgery that the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) have cleared for commercial use under the 510(k) regulation. A surgeon first makes an incision above the penis and then inserts a silicone slip through it onto the shaft of the penis. They will shape the silicone implant to ensure that it fits the size and shape of the penis.

i heard of this id like to try it one day .

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I think as others said, you'd just be replacing one type of negative stigma with another, which is probably not worth it if you aren't actually trans. Especially considering where you live. Would being a woman really make it easier for you to attract a sexual partner of your choice? If you're willing to have sex with men then why take this step that you're unsure of? If you're willing to, wouldn't it be easier to become gay? Does it really matter to you if you do it as a man with a micro penis or as a trans woman?

 

[fangface]

please don't transition based purely on this.

i can understand your reasoning but as a trans man myself, being trans is not a choice whatsoever. presenting as female, using a female name + pronouns and possibly medically transitioning could give you dysphoria if you don't really have a desire to do live as a woman. bullying you have faced because of a medical condition may be causing you immense discomfort and pain but i need you to understand that it is not comparable to the things trans people have to go through.

my only advice is that, at this point, you need to embrace your condition. there are intersex people out there - people born with sex characteristics that don't match the "typical" cis male or female characteristics - and their community is built on empowering themselves based on the fact that yes, their bodies are "abnormal". but they are still bodies. you are still a man regardless of what your genitals happen to look like. your genitals do not define you nor do they define the fact that you are still a man regardless of their appearance.

 

[hungry_ghost]

Speaking from experience, screwing with your gender identity can really negatively impact your psychological health, if you aren't actually gender dysphoric.

Especially if you know you aren't going to pass.

 

[wait.what]

OP, I seem to recall you saying you lived somewhere in Southeast Asia, and It's my understanding that laws and customs there can be very different than in the West. Like are you talking about becoming a hijra or something similar, or are you considering living as a trans woman in the Western sense, like Caitlyn Jenner, Janet Mock, MJ Rodriguez, and so on? I'm not from SE Asia and can't give much advice about it, but in all the Western countries I know of, being a trans woman is way, way more dangerous than being a cis man with a small penis. This is particularly true if people judge your femme-presenting self to be "non-passing," which is to say you look as if you've had a testosterone-fueled puberty at one point in your life. Many trans women choose to undergo years of painful and expensive treatments in order to undo or blunt the effects of their first puberty. (Testosterone is a hell of a drug.) Some get things like laser hair removal and breast augmentation to deal with gender dysphoria, but others just want to pass for cis so they won't get murdered on the subway. It happens: some whackjob gets a hard-on looking at a trans woman, and now he feels compelled to kill her because she "gave him the gay" or whatever.

Why would anyone "want" to be a Western trans person? I am one, and I have no idea. In my experience, it's not really a "want" kind of thing. It's the kind of thing you find out that you are, whether you like it or not. In my case, transitioning did not make me one crumb less depressed, but it does allow me to feel more authentic. This is me, the crazy old trans dude, and I don't feel like I have anything to prove about it. This situation is way, way better than constantly apologizing for all the ways I "failed" at trying to be a cis woman.

You might consider getting some inexpensive secondhand women's or unisex clothes that appeal to you. If you have any privacy at home, try wearing them there. Don't linger in front of a mirror tying to figure out if you look "good enough." Wear the outfit around the house doing the things you normally do. How does dressing in a more feminine or nonbinary way make you feel? Better? Worse? No change? You may not suddenly find the solutions to all your problems this way, but at least you might get some indication as to whether some kind of gender transition would be helpful for you.

By the way, the website transguysupply.com has a lot of packing gear in it (stuff to put down your pants to get a bigger bulge). You'll need to copy & paste that URL. I didn't make it a hotlink because the page it goes to has a lot of prosthetic dicks on it, and you don't necessarily want to explain prosthetic dicks to your 8-year-old cousin who's hanging over your shoulder, you know?

(For the record: I am a guy and my pronouns are "he" and "him." Trans men do exist, and I am one.)

 

[Sakura94]

Micropenis can be treated with dihydrotestosterone applied topically according to some doctors.
I cannot provide links to where to get this as I only deal in transfem stuff.
I'd be interested btw of hearing about the culture where you're from. In the west transwomen are basically treated as dirt.

 

[MicropBaldCurrycel]

please don't transition based purely on this.

i can understand your reasoning but as a trans man myself, being trans is not a choice whatsoever. presenting as female, using a female name + pronouns and possibly medically transitioning could give you dysphoria if you don't really have a desire to do live as a woman. bullying you have faced because of a medical condition may be causing you immense discomfort and pain but i need you to understand that it is not comparable to the things trans people have to go through.

my only advice is that, at this point, you need to embrace your condition. there are intersex people out there - people born with sex characteristics that don't match the "typical" cis male or female characteristics - and their community is built on empowering themselves based on the fact that yes, their bodies are "abnormal". but they are still bodies. you are still a man regardless of what your genitals happen to look like. your genitals do not define you nor do they define the fact that you are still a man regardless of their appearance.

thank you so much Bro❤

Speaking from experience, screwing with your gender identity can really negatively impact your psychological health, if you aren't actually gender dysphoric.

Especially if you know you aren't going to pass.

yes true i realized i was just desperate and looking to change the fact that my penis size wouldnt matter so as a woman id have a better chance since id have breasts and a neovagina to offer rather than nothing.

You might consider getting some inexpensive secondhand women's or unisex clothes that appeal to you. If you have any privacy at home, try wearing them there. Don't linger in front of a mirror tying to figure out if you look "good enough." Wear the outfit around the house doing the things you normally do. How does dressing in a more feminine or nonbinary way make you feel? Better? Worse? No change? You may not suddenly find the solutions to all your problems this way, but at least you might get some indication as to whether some kind of gender transition would be helpful for you.

yes i do want to try this thank you.

By the way, the website transguysupply.com has a lot of packing gear in it (stuff to put down your pants to get a bigger bulge). You'll need to copy & paste that URL. I didn't make it a hotlink because the page it goes to has a lot of prosthetic dicks on it, and you don't necessarily want to explain prosthetic dicks to your 8-year-old cousin who's hanging over your shoulder, you know?

lol thanks il check it out when i have more privacy.

Micropenis can be treated with dihydrotestosterone applied topically according to some doctors.

yes ive tried this and it didnt help, I waited to late after puberty to seek help but i was always so ashamed because when id see my GP he would just brush me off and say"its all in your head women dont care " " Its because you are fat lose weight and it will show more" ( it didnt, i got very thin when i was younger)

even another gp just looked at it and said "theres nothing we can do about it"

so i gave up.