Never open up about Suicide

[Little_Suzy]

When discussing suicide, make it meaningful. Speak with people who have the qualifications to help you. People are not mind readers, so be specific about what you want, whether it's a listening ear, resources, or psychiatric treatment.

Regardless, if you want help but don't ask for it, you'll never get it.

It is more important to learn how to talk about suicide in the right context than to avoid discussing it at all. This is how you build a strong support system.

 

[crystal_meth97]

If you have serious plans for the immediate future, yes, don't talk about it. Someone could stop you because they're going to see it as their moral duty and it's going to fuck up all your plans. If you want help, on the other hand, then yes, do talk about it.

 

[thereisthemist]

talk about certain topics to those who you only deemed helpful, for whatever purposes.

 

[rozeske]

Never can be a strong word in this case. It highly depends on what one is looking to get out of confiding in someone.

 

[Catch-22]

For the most part it is better to keep your thoughts about CTB on here and not share it with others... unless you do have doubts and maybe would like some help.... and I say that even knowing that to get decent help with mental health is almost impossible.

If you share there might be someone that thinks that they are " saving you". And all of a sudden you'll get a welfare check. While other people might think that you are trying to get attention. I know in the last few years when I had brought it up as a humane solution because of decades of being sick. Now it is being used against me in a manipulative way.

My mother says she has not been on vacation for a couple of years because she did not want to leave me alone.. I'm a grown adult and I only live with her because of disabilities.. Now she uses it as psychological manipulation. She's abusive and when I say that I can't wait to leave and then she gets a suitcase and puts it in front of my bedroom door. If she's so worried about me CTB she wouldn't do that. Anyway I wish I had never said anything.. People that are not in such mental or physical pain will never understand why we want to go.

BUT if you really do want help then maybe reach out to a close friend that you trust.

 

[rukya]

Yeah, never do it.
Tried to talk once with my mother and she just tried to put me in a psychiatric hospital, had to do countless things to make her believe the idea wasn't in me anymore... worst period of my life.

 

[ringo99]

I cannot agree with this more. Opening up about my feelings to family is one of the worst decisions I made. Their response resulted in utter mortification and a resolve to never confide anything in them ever again

 

[sserafim]

I told my mom that I wanted to ctb before 25 and she says that I'm not serious about it because I still haven't done it yet. She said that she would give me money for euthanasia if it meant that I would leave.

I didn't tell my psychiatrist that I want to ctb though because it would just land me straight in the psych ward lol. I told him that life was pointless and meaningless, and that I wanted to be a kid again. I also told him that I didn't want to live past 25. He said that I was depressed and tried to put me on SSRIs and I declined because I don't want to take antidepressants. My depression went away by itself anyways

 

[timetodie24]

I wouldn't say *never* . Not everyone here 100% wants to die, some are unsure and want to try treatments first. You can't get the right help of you're not honest. I understand forced hospitalisation can sometimes make things worse though. So depending where people live and personal circumstances, then just be cautious and consider how much you can say and to who.
But in UK you can say a lot without being sectioned. Plenty people tell crisis teams they have a plan, intent, means and are told 'well if you want to nothing we can do'. And most people aren't sectioned even after attempts but it will depend on lots of things like your history, individual clinicians, diagnosis, whether you have regret, further plans, seriousness of attempt etc.
Being sectioned just made me feel worse and I'll make sure it never happens again. But it wasn't for just saying I was suicidal. I was constantly in and out of a&e/general hospital due to repeated severe self harm and pathetic ctb attempts. It was a long time of that and lots of failed treatments before they even considered it.
I understand in other countries it is different but here not much happens if just thoughts and not immediate plans. And a dr or therapist can just section you. You have to have a mental health act assessment with 2 drs and an AMHP agreeing you should be . Police can section under s136 without assessment if you're a danger to self/others in a public place. This is only to take you to 'place of safety' for assessment and expires after 24hrs.