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[unbelievablydead]

Hi! I'm new here, and I'm kind of in a sticky situation. I am privy to some information and want to do the right thing and tell someone that their partner is cheating and lying to them. Looking back on our interactions, there are also signs of emotional abuse. I really want to tell them, but I'm scared that the information may not be received well. Would really appreciate your opinions or any advice. Thank you and take care <3

 

[whybother2002]

Be careful. I don't know the situation, but a lot of times the couple gets back together and you end as the bad person, even if you did the right thing. Is it immediate family?

 

[Off_Switch]

Depends on how close the friend is. If you're very close, then its your duty to tell him IMO.

 

[elenaboo25]

I am kind of in that situation right now. My partner is showing signs of emotional abuse, and a friend has made me aware of that, although I did also notice it myself. I am still with that partner, as I literally cannot imagine life without them anymore. The friend is also still my friend and we are in regular contact. I think that might be because we are both quite mature on that topic and experienced with abusive relationships, not only in the romantic sense. My friend does not judge me for wanting to give my partner another chance, and I think that's the important part. The person in question may not react like you want them to. You probably want them to leave the abusive partner. But they may be unwilling or unable to do that. If you still want to be a good friend to them, and don't end up on their "bad" side, I suggest you try to be as supportive as you can, even if they make decisions that might seem unwise.

 

[unbelievablydead]

I am kind of in that situation right now. My partner is showing signs of emotional abuse, and a friend has made me aware of that, although I did also notice it myself. I am still with that partner, as I literally cannot imagine life without them anymore. The friend is also still my friend and we are in regular contact. I think that might be because we are both quite mature on that topic and experienced with abusive relationships, not only in the romantic sense. My friend does not judge me for wanting to give my partner another chance, and I think that's the important part. The person in question may not react like you want them to. You probably want them to leave the abusive partner. But they may be unwilling or unable to do that. If you still want to be a good friend to them, and don't end up on their "bad" side, I suggest you try to be as supportive as you can, even if they make decisions that might seem unwise.

I'm so sorry to hear you are in that situation. It's amazing that you are aware that it's happening and have a good friend that's supporting you through it. I think my friend deserves the truth even if they may not see it right away or it may be hurtful. I just don't want to feel like an enabler or bystander. I think I would want to know as well, regardless of happens, I'd appreciate their candor because I think it shows they care.

Be careful. I don't know the situation, but a lot of times the couple gets back together and you end as the bad person, even if you did the right thing. Is it immediate family?

it's not, it's a friend. It's more so that I want to do the right thing even if the person stays with them.

 

[callousedhope]

Hi! I'm new here, and I'm kind of in a sticky situation. I am privy to some information and want to do the right thing and tell someone that their partner is cheating and lying to them. Looking back on our interactions, there are also signs of emotional abuse. I really want to tell them, but I'm scared that the information may not be received well. Would really appreciate your opinions or any advice. Thank you and take care <3

I think if you care enough to tell someone, then you should. Sometimes doing the right thing doesn't benefit you. You'll likely be saving them a lot more unhappiness and dissatisfaction in the future, and that's enough.

Maybe one day they'll reach out and thank you, even if they put you off initially. Life is long and you never know the impact you can bring, however delayed.