Need help reducing/removing need for socialization

[Scythe]

Well, self explanatory thread, and I'm just going to say if you're going to smth smth biology, herd animal instinct and I can't do anything about it. Don't bother.

I've done something similar before, so I know even if I likely cannot remove the need completely I can reduce it to a state where even if I don't get any, it doesn't bother me enough to affect my day to day life.

But I think quite a few people here has managed to do this so I thought I'd ask for advice here. If you've just adapted over the years of loneiness feel free to share your experience too. Anything helps.

 

[Celerity]

I'm going to occupy myself with videogames. I have not found a better escape hatch aside from substances, and they have their drawbacks.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I have the benefit of pretty much always enjoying time on my own. I suppose if I feel like maybe it would be good to be around other people, I remind myself of the many times it wasn't!

I usually have a lot of work demands on my time and I almost always have stuff on in the background to distract myself with. Sometimes I'll watch the most extreme examples- flatmates or partners from hell and think how lucky I've been to dodge all that.

I am just 'lucky' I suppose in that I simply don't feel the need for a lot of social interaction- not face to face anyway. That's not to say I'd cope well with none at all. Plus, it's rare I feel lonely. I wonder if being an only child has something to do with it. I got used to being alone from a young age.

Why do you want to be alone? May I ask? Have you felt let down or hurt by those in your life? I do tend to remind myself of that too. Not that people have been outright malicious in my life- apart from one early on. More that people are unreliable. They have put others or themselves first- which is fine- of course but, it taught me an important lesson not to depend on them.

 

[Scythe]

I have the benefit of pretty much always enjoying time on my own. I suppose if I feel like maybe it would be good to be around other people, I remind myself of the many times it wasn't!

I usually have a lot of work demands on my time and I almost always have stuff on in the background to distract myself with. Sometimes I'll watch the most extreme examples- flatmates or partners from hell and think how lucky I've been to dodge all that.

I am just 'lucky' I suppose in that I simply don't feel the need for a lot of social interaction- not face to face anyway. That's not to say I'd cope well with none at all. Plus, it's rare I feel lonely. I wonder if being an only child has something to do with it. I got used to being alone from a young age.

Why do you want to be alone? May I ask? Have you felt let down or hurt by those in your life? I do tend to remind myself of that too. Not that people have been outright malicious in my life- apart from one early on. More that people are unreliable. They have put others or themselves first- which is fine- of course but, it taught me an important lesson not to depend on them.

I don't really have a need for irl social life either, just never had one so I got used to it I suppose.

I got cut off by a friend recently, and I thought it's time I prepare to be truely friendless and like you said people are unreliable, I don't want to rely on hunans to be around me to function in life. I just suck at maintaining relationships I guess. Shit happens.

 

[Redacted24]

Another only child now aged human here.

I lived most of my life alone, but only occasionally lonely. I'd go to work, get my fill of people, then have a lovely evening reading, listening to music, trying to learn a language, or gaming.

If I wanted to go out and do something, I did. Concerts, plays, nice dinner, sports bar, whatever. And I could travel easily too.

I was content - nobody to interrupt my reading with some random request or demand.

I was alone but rarely lonely. Much happier times then... and if I forgot why, I'd just accept an offer to visit someone's house for a game or dinner and that would remind me why solo is better.

 

[Scythe]

Another only child now aged human here.

I lived most of my life alone, but only occasionally lonely. I'd go to work, get my fill of people, then have a lovely evening reading, listening to music, trying to learn a language, or gaming.

If I wanted to go out and do something, I did. Concerts, plays, nice dinner, sports bar, whatever. And I could travel easily too.

I was content - nobody to interrupt my reading with some random request or demand.

I was alone but rarely lonely. Much happier times then... and if I forgot why, I'd just accept an offer to visit someone's house for a game or dinner and that would remind me why solo is better.

Don't really have the luxury of doing that haha. I have no friends in real life anymore aside from family that have questionable opinions about me and the world.

 

[Scythe]

Huh, managed to do it, I suppose I knew I could do this since I've done smth similar before. It's a passing desire now, like when you want to eat at that fancy restaurant that's unaffordable again. It'd be nice but it doesn't affect me anymore.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

For me, it works like this: 100% chance of extreme pain, feeling like a disgustingly deformed monster, inevitably hurting or angering people, contradicting myself mid-sentence, losing every argument. I guess what I'm saying is, just remembering what an obnoxious misfit I am, helps me be content to be alone. I'm toxic.