Naming people in a suicide note?

[Rue89]

I'm looking for opinions about whether it's okay to put names of people to blame in a suicide note.

 

[Musketeer]

depends on how they treated you if it was an abuse situation or you don't mind the person suffering why not?

 

[killedbypsychiatry]

I have a draft of my note and I do mention names. Because this people directly destroyed me. They killed me. But there's also others who subtly contributed like my mom. She contributed a lot actually. And I did mention it a lot but I may remove it or put it more subtle because I really don't want her to suffer, even if she contributed. The other people who did contributed severely I will not remove at all and the sad truth is probably they'll never read it or care.

 

[catch99]

I have thought about this as well but what good would really come from it? What do you want the person who reads the note to do with that information?

 

[WornOutLife]

That's up to you.

Personally, I won't do it because all those who hurt me, (my ex classmates, especially) won't give a damn. It's a waste of time.

I just want to leave this world at peace. No time for hatred, resentment and envy.

 

[Rue89]

I have thought about this as well but what good would really come from it? What do you want the person who reads the note to do with that information?

The person won't care. Actually they'll be happy I'm dead. It would be more for my family, especially my mom, giving them more reassurance that they are not to blame. I hope that it would help ease their guilt. If I don't mention the person my mom will completely blame herself because she knows about my mental health struggles. She'll assume that was the only reason. If I don't name the person I'm afraid it will be harder on them, forever wondering who it was.

 

[catch99]

The person won't care. Actually they'll be happy I'm dead. It would be more for my family, especially my mom, giving them more reassurance that they are not to blame. I hope that it would help ease their guilt. If I don't mention the person my mom will completely blame herself because she knows about my mental health struggles. She'll assume that was the only reason. If I don't name the person I'm afraid it will be harder on them, forever wondering who it was.

Wow. You actually make a really good argument. I now feel like I have to rethink what I'm going to write.

I also would like my parents to not have to live with the guilt but at the same time I don't want them to attack the person that I blame though. I sometimes think it would be a lot better to just leave no note at all

 

[LastFlowers]

Do what you will, a lot of people contributed to my suffering and made the torture worse, but the core issue is its own beast (versus the aftermath/contributing factors), still not my fault and technically it is the cause of others, being born into shit and all, but naming names really doesn't do anything for you in the end.
People will just become angry that you named them if it's in any unsavory or "fuck you" type of way.
They will use that to funnel their own sympathy from the situation and trust me, no matter how guilty they are, the living always absolve each other of sins concerning the dead.
It's infuriating, but that's what happens.

 

[Last chance]

Ive written 3,one for my family,one for my best friend and one for my ex.

 

[Rue89]

Do what you will, a lot of people contributed to my suffering and made the torture worse, but the core issue is its own beast (versus the aftermath/contributing factors), still not my fault and technically it is the cause of others, being born into shit and all, but naming names really doesn't do anything for you in the end.
People will just become angry that you named them if it's in any unsavory or "fuck you" type of way.
They will use that to funnel their own sympathy from the situation and trust me, no matter how guilty they are, the living always absolve each other of sins concerning the dead.
It's infuriating, but that's what happens.

You're right, it doesn't do anything for me in the end. It would be for my family, a way to let them know they're not to blame in any way. Especially my mom who will blame herself for not seeing or just assuming that I'm suicidal since she knows about my mental health problems. I hope that letting her know that it's not the only reason, that there is someone else to blame will help ease her guilt. I just don't know if I should name the person or just say "someone."

 

[StateOfMind]

I've got a tone of people, organizations and institutions on my shit-list.
Shining a light on those cockroaches.
I don't think much will come of it realistically because I've been officially labled as mentally ill.. but it still feels good to - just maybe - leave a historic imprint.
Over 200 people, organizations, journalists and activists will be receiving my note including a few of the people I blame for my suicide.
About 5 or 6 members of SS will also receive the note.