"You're just lazy, you need to try new activities."
"If you expose yourself to triggering material, you won't be traumatized anymore. You just don't want to face it."
"You don't want to accept help/don't want to get better."
"You aren't physically ill, you're malingering/have a mental illness."
"You don't truly want to die, you want attention."
"One has to want to get better. You aren't trying hard enough and you're a quitter."
"The pain gets better with time, you just refuse to cope."
"You're insane. The world is good for most people and there are others with your illnesses who are happy."
"Youre entitled and want the world to bow down to you. You don't want to work hard, you want instant gratification and use your disabilities as an excuse not to work."
"Surely there are more treatments out there, you're just using your trauma as an excuse not to try them."
"Even if doctors did those things to you, you can't be judgemental and avoid them. Why are you so hateful?"
"You're manipulative and you're only telling me you're suicidal to make me feel bad for you."
"You just want to be pessimistic and not see how the world really is. Doomer."
I am so so sorry. I completely understand avoiding doctors. Newsflash to whoever claimed you were judging soulless, incompetent doctors: Medical PTSD is a real thing that exists...
I'm currently trying to avoid invasive treatments by doctors + have learned first-hand that you are just their guinea pig & if something goes wrong, they literally don't give a shit and will try to claim they didn't cause it.
Also the whole "your physical pain is in your head" response is such complete and utter bullshit. Like who in the hell would even do that?! *shakes head* Yes, I love spending my precious free time having complex medical issues dismissed and ignored by doctor after doctor.
People who are not disabled and have not experienced trauma themselves should have no say in the lives of people who actually have and keep their mouths shut. Those types of people infuriate me. They think they know everything and give unwanted shit "advice" when they have no right to speak on your specific situation and zero understanding of those types of situations to begin with. I totally empathize with your experiences and hate that you had to go through that treatment on top of the pre-existing traumas and pain in your life. I'm sorry. And I don't mean to be like "Oh, I know exactly what you're going through" because I will never fully know what you've endured and I kinda hate it sometimes when some people say that but I do relate to hearing similar types of responses re: disability, doctors and pain.
These aren't exactly stereotypes so much as microaggressions but here are some:
One time in college, a girl on my floor who I barely knew straight-up asked me "Do you have any friends?"
Being told for the first year of my disability that it was anxiety, PT warning other doctors about me before I came in so they automatically wouldn't believe me
A neurologist diagnosed me with "conversion disorder" even with abnormal nerve study results causing other PTs to discredit everything I said before and stop seeing me.
One PT: How old are you?
Me: 25
PT: said something like, "ok, you're a big girl. You can do this *referring to exercise I couldn't physically do any quicker*
Multiple people asking if I had a "trauma in my life before symptoms" implying physical problems were caused by my mental health.
PT who was upset that I came into appointments in wheelchair.
"Come on, you can walk" as I limped mincingly to room instead of using wheelchair. *PT makes upset comment about how she only has x minutes bc it takes 15 min to get to room if I try to limp.
Have severe negative reactions to steroid treatment, never had those symptoms before or after it wore off, tells doctor.
Dr: Well, x steroid doesn't cause those symptoms.
A stupid nurse claiming "the pelvis is a simple bone. You don't need to travel out of state to find a doctor who can help." The pelvis is made up of multiple bones...
D: Have you had counseling?
Me: yes, but too tired to talk on phone now.
D: you should see counselor
Me: takes all my energy just to eat and go to bathroom, getting harder and harder to go to bathroom
D: you should see counselor
Counselor: I use meditation and x therapy in my counseling
Me: ok, what type of meditation? Can you recommend a book or video?
C: you can just look up meditation videos on youtube
Me:....
Phone appt:
*Telling counselor how I'm doing everything in my power to communicate w Drs / hospitals but still having issues, frustrated*
C: *clinking dishes in background to make food or sthg, asks me question about what I just said three or four times, obviously not listening*
"What do you think you could have done differently?"
Me: !!! There was nothing I could have done differently. I have to go now
