Venting My parents treat me like I'm some kind of abomination

[Moroze]

My parents don't see me, they see a stain, a failure, something that never should have existed. An abomination. That's what I am to them. Not a person. Not their child. Just some twisted reflection of everything they hate.

They talk about love like it's earned. Like I have to mould myself into their version of "acceptable" just to be tolerated. But I'm not here to perform for their approval anymore. I'm sick of shrinking myself just to make them comfortable.

They raised me to believe I was wrong simply for being who I am. Every sigh, every judgmental glance, every passive-aggressive comment, that wasn't love. That was control. That was shame dressed up as concern.

I refuse to carry their disgust on my back any longer. I refuse to be their scapegoat, their disappointment, their so-called abomination.

They don't have to love me.

 

[darksouls]

I am very sorry about how your parents treat you

send you hugs and love

 

[lobsterbisque]

Same. I don't want to be reminded every day that I'm not wanted

 

[Moroze]

Same. I don't want to be reminded every day that I'm not wanted

Me neither. Just need to organise my shit and leave everyone the hell alone. Being and feeling unwanted sucks big time

 

[BimbleBob]

My parents don't see me, they see a stain, a failure, something that never should have existed. An abomination. That's what I am to them. Not a person. Not their child. Just some twisted reflection of everything they hate.

They talk about love like it's earned. Like I have to mould myself into their version of "acceptable" just to be tolerated. But I'm not here to perform for their approval anymore. I'm sick of shrinking myself just to make them comfortable.

They raised me to believe I was wrong simply for being who I am. Every sigh, every judgmental glance, every passive-aggressive comment, that wasn't love. That was control. That was shame dressed up as concern.

I refuse to carry their disgust on my back any longer. I refuse to be their scapegoat, their disappointment, their so-called abomination.

They don't have to love me.

I think a hard truth that many people are lucky enough not to confront is parental love absolutely IS conditional. I know my parents despise me and a subconscious part of them wants me to die, even if they may not be completely honest about that fact. You don't have to care or love your parents just because they're your parents. They've let you down and expect so many things of you yet are likely not at all willing to meet whatever standards you have of them. It's always a one-way street with these narcissistic pricks.

They refuse to acknowledge their flaws, and if they did, they'd find some way to pin it on you. I don't give a shit about pleasing people I despise, I just want to disappear somewhere and never talk to people I don't like again. I don't give a shit if people think I'm some asocial weirdo, I can craft my own little world and only include the people I like in it. Reality can be whatever my mind projects, I don't have to partake in the world of these souless, ignorant husks.

 

[daverd]

I think a hard truth that many people are lucky enough not to confront is parental love absolutely IS conditional. I know my parents despise me and a subconscious part of them wants me to die, even if they may not be completely honest about that fact. You don't have to care or love your parents just because they're your parents. They've let you down and expect so many things of you yet are likely not at all willing to meet whatever standards you have of them. It's always a one-way street with these narcissistic pricks.

They refuse to acknowledge their flaws, and if they did, they'd find some way to pin it on you. I don't give a shit about pleasing people I despise, I just want to disappear somewhere and never talk to people I don't like again. I don't give a shit if people think I'm some asocial weirdo, I can craft my own little world and only include the people I like in it. Reality can be whatever my mind projects, I don't have to partake in the world of these souless, ignorant husks.

Wow. I've never related to a message more. It's constantly preached to us that we have to give our parents grace, and love them unconditionally even though they don't treat us in the same regard. Parents don't get the privilege to have access to their children just because they are their parents. After being treated like trash for so long people begin to have enough and choose what's best for them. For me it means going no contact as soon as I can be completely independent of my parents. It's lonely but it's for the best.

 

[bankai]

All parents have a duty to love their child unconditionally. Any child brought into this world can come with a host of mental or physical issues. If they're not ready for that, then they shouldn't bring a child into it.I thought about this myself very carefully and decided I wouldn't have kids.My main issue is I don't want my kid growing up with the same issues I have. These things are inherited and passed down through genes.

Imagine my kid creating a sasu account 20 years from now

 

[katara]

Me neither. Just need to organise my shit and leave everyone the hell alone. Being and feeling unwanted sucks big time

I'm sorry about this, you deserve a hug being unwanted, ya I know how that feels