My last 3 weeks

[wendydong1]

I am just documenting my last 3 weeks.

This is my first week. I am concentrating on having a will and living will.

I have a group legal plan through my workplace. I just started contacting a lawyer for will planning. He has giving me a simple estate sheet. My estate is very simple now. Only about 60k left.

I have just filled out the questionnaire, and emailed him back. Told him that my main concern is to have my best friend as the go to person for all my affairs in the event I pass away.

I almost forgot to add the "in the event"... Don't want him to have any ideas.

Hopefully I can have this done in the next two weeks.

The final week would be writing farewell letters and directions.

Oh, almost forgot, will need to call the local funeral house to see if I can prepay the funeral for myself

Not sure if I am missing anything

 

[Frank]

Make sure you don't give anything away while doing all this. The rest seems pretty good maybe sort out some of your physical possesions

 

[JimFord99]

Hmm, asking a local funeral house to prepay your own funeral may cause suspicion. If you have enough money, put it away and leave it for your friend to arrange the funeral. This may sound more plausible and less suspicious. Just my opinion, though.

 

[Frank]

Hmm, asking a local funeral house to prepay your own funeral may cause suspicion. If you have enough money, put it away and leave it for your friend to arrange the funeral. This may sound more plausible and less suspicious. Just my opinion, though.

Depends some offer a preplanning to save your family the planning. They advertise it like crazy where i live

 

[wendydong1]

Make sure you don't give anything away while doing all this. The rest seems pretty good maybe sort out some of your physical possesions

Don't really have any physical possessions. Have a car that I still pay loan on. The loan is probably larger than the car value. Will tell my best friend just to ignore it in my directions to her.

I live in an apartment with used furnitures. Will tell my best friend don't even bother going through my stuff. Just let the management throw everything out.

 

[Frank]

Don't really have any physical possessions. Have a car that I still pay loan on. The loan is probably larger than the car value. Will tell my best friend just to ignore it in my directions to her.

I live in an apartment with used furnitures. Will tell my best friend don't even bother going through my stuff. Just let the management throw everything out.

It might be worthless to you but maybe your friend/family want something to remember you by. IF you care about something like that it might be worth thinking about it

 

[JWL]

Hmm, asking a local funeral house to prepay your own funeral may cause suspicion. If you have enough money, put it away and leave it for your friend to arrange the funeral. This may sound more plausible and less suspicious. Just my opinion, though.

Choose the funeral company and what you want and note this in your Will or elsewhere. Make it as easy for those left behind as possible.

 

[wendydong1]

I emailed my lawyer this morning, asking if he has finished drafting wills and stuff. He answered, yes, just waiting for the information for the Promissory note.

I can only laugh.. what can I do.. he's refused to give me his name and address, and flat out refuses to sign anything.

I can only reply, forget about the promissory note.

So my lawyer has sent me the drafts. I approve them.

I have a friday lunch with my best friend. I asked my best friend if she has time for lunch. She said Friday. Usually, she's like the same day or next day kind of gal... She's been pretty cold after I told her that I gave him one more time, after she told me not to give him any money again after the first two times.

I plan on telling her that i have done a will, and she would be my executor. Do you need to tell someone that they are your executor?

I have abandoned the idea of having one last phone call with him. Originally, i was still in love with him, and wanted to ask him to spread some of my ash in Al Ula... Now, i have given that up...

I am still angry. I still want revenge. I am not getting the money back. I just want to tell his parents what he did. Having his parents find out what he did was his biggest fear...

But I don't know how to find out the contact info, like a phone number or snapchat for his parents. Can you hire a hacker from the dark web?

I will try for some more time, and i am just gonna CTB with N. Too tired.

 

[JWL]

I plan on telling her that i have done a will, and she would be my executor. Do you need to tell someone that they are your executor?

I plan on telling her that i have done a will, and she would be my executor. Do you need to tell someone that they are your executor?

Not in the UK if I understand correctly. But then, I suppose, if you didn't get their OK they don't have to be bound by it. I didn't inform my executor because it would have triggered alarm bells, but I know the person will undoubtedly fulfill the role.

 

[wendydong1]

Who can prescribe some Xanax or sleeping pills. Every night I would wake up many times. My body would tremble, hand tremble, heart rush and cannot falls asleep again until I stare at my phone in the dark to get my eyes tired.

My life has been too much smooth sailing before. Never needed any sleeping pills. Never met any evil.

 

[wendydong1]

I'm currently taking prescribed sleeping pills from family doctor. The name is Zoplicone at 7.5mg strength. Not sure if it works for you, but it does okay for me, although not perfect, depending on your stress level, but at least better than over the counter ones, which are too weak for me. Just use it for sleeping though, don't try to CTB with it. I heard CTB with sleeping pills nowadays are pretty much impossible, you'll just end up sick, vomiting, and maybe end up visiting hospital and just go through unnecessary trouble. Also, one thing I learned from personal experience is that it is still possible to overpower the sleeping pills and not fall asleep if lots is still on your mind, then it kind of sticks with you mentally that the pills don't work, and it will affect the effectiveness. Try taking the pills when you are a bit more relaxed and less is on your mind, and train yourself to allow the sleeping pills to overpower you to make you fall asleep. If you never really took these pills before, then your tolerance level should be low, so hopefully it does the trick. If you start taking them often, it will build tolerance, and becomes very easy to become addicted. Oh, and one more thing, which I believe may vary from different persons, but sometimes a few hours after taking the pills, I would sort of wake up and find it very hard to fall back asleep again, which is annoying, but for some people, they fall into deep sleep. Probably depends on your stress level. Some doctors are hesitant to prescribe them too much or often, to prevent users from abusing them, because it could become addictive and after a while you'll just rely on them and find it difficult to fall asleep normally again without taking them, and may end up constantly needing to take more and more for the same original effect. Taking them long-term of course is not a healthy habit. Spacing it out and only take them when really necessary is recommended. Try to find your balance. Best wishes

Thank you very much for the detailed post. Things are so ironic in this world...The more problems you have, the more energy it requires to solve it