My rejection last month has driven me to pure insanity, i cant win anymore with guys

[FireFox]

Over the summer I met a guy (nothing serious) who is 30 years old as I was finally ready to move on from the 55 year old man I was deeply in love with. He was a very tall redheaded white male from Norway. I really liked him for his personality and I genuinely was attracted to him. He works in a hemp store in my city. The shop at times had no customers and during those periods we talked to each other. I asked for his number and after he finished work I came to the store and asked him to go on a walk with me. He agreed. The area has lot of markets and we walked along the canal, we had so much fun. After our walk we regularly began talking more.

No matter what i did to show my interest and care in him he made me feel so inadequate.

1)I regularly told him that I find his hair and deep dark brown eyes beautiful. The compliments I gave where never enough for him. After complimenting him on many occasions he asked me to confirm if I find him physically attractive. I always showed interest in the things he liked and asked him about the things he likes, dislikes etc.

2)He shared with me his past relationships with women have not been healthy ie his girlfriends have had issues with addiction, one was abusive towards him and others had some kind of dysfunction. He has been a victim of sexual assault. I listened to him as he opened up to me about his sexual assault and gave him a safe space to talk.

3)His behaviour towards me at times was so disrespectful. When it came to my height his comments were so hurtful He pointed on multiple occasions how "Tiny" I was compared to him. He mentioned how his exes were "not as small as me".

He questioned how someone small like me can be attracted to man big as him. I told him I don't care about his height because "I am staring above his face and I like what I see"

I was getting fed up of him having a problem with my small height so I tried to find out why he has a problem with my height. So I asked him the following question" if we were to have sex are you scared of breaking my bones and me going to A&E[hospital]"

The man response was " yes - that was one of my initial fears " meeting you. I was absolutely disgusted because I wanted to know him as a person but he was focused on sex and whether my body break if were to have sex.

4)He has toxic traits. One of the stories he gave about his exes just didn't make any sense at all so I asked some basic questions and he gave me slient treatment because he didn't like my questions. I apologised immediately and for two weeks he didn't talk to me. I ended up begging him forgiveness in person when we met. It really hurt everyday was painful. He accepted my apology and I asked him out for coffee which he agreed

5) He even complained that I am "hard to read" even though I was honest that I liked him.

2 days before our scheduled outing he decides to reject me. He sends me a long text message saying how he is a "stranger" and says how he is not the person I think he is and didn't like the fact I follow a religion. I am Catholic whereas he is Anti Thiest. I told him already I will NEVER force my beliefs on him and I accepted him for he is but he says religion is a redline

This man even complained to me that women do not show any interest in him but I put myself on a plate for him, I really wanted him and showed geniuene interest he still rejects me. I can't win because I put so much effort and time in guys i liked but still I lose. I can't win anymore I am never good enough for anyone.

 

[mango-meridian]

It sounds like he was toxic in several ways. I hope this ordeal stops bothering you soon because I think you deserve so much better. I've seen a few of your posts and it seems like you have such a good heart and a lot to give. I think you'll find someone better soon as long as you don't give up.

 

[lastboyscout]

Hello! Im just guessing but

-seems there is an age difference that eventually doesnt help,
-looks like he is uncorfortable with the height difference. most probably he is above average size and is not very confortable with his phisical and himself
-Talking about ex girlfriends can be not the best thing to talk unless there is a considerable level of trust . also many man´s doesnt feel confortable to share with a girlfriend or the person he is dating.

It sounds like he was toxic in several ways. I hope this ordeal stops bothering you soon because I think you deserve so much better. I've seen a few of your posts and it seems like you have such a good heart and a lot to give. I think you'll find someone better soon as long as you don't give up.

Agree


For what i understand he is not very self.confident and doesnt either look a very happy person. 55 years i suppose is not an easy age to start dating ,to meet new woman for relationship. normally the plan was to be married, spending most of the time home with the family - A stable life
55 years is nore an age to be quiet home watching movies and drinking hot chocolate not to going out and drinks and parties as in 20´s or 30´s
Also heart issues doesnt hit like before

 

[FireFox]

Hello! Im just guessing but

-seems there is an age difference that eventually doesnt help,
-looks like he is uncorfortable with the height difference. most probably he is above average size and is not very confortable with his phisical and himself
-Talking about ex girlfriends can be not the best thing to talk unless there is a considerable level of trust . also many man´s doesnt feel confortable to share with a girlfriend or the person he is dating.



Agree


For what i understand he is not very self.confident and doesnt either look a very happy person. 55 years i suppose is not an easy age to start dating ,to meet new woman for relationship. normally the plan was to be married, spending most of the time home with the family - A stable life
55 years is nore an age to be quiet home watching movies and drinking hot chocolate not to going out and drinks and parties as in 20´s or 30´s
Also heart issues doesnt hit like before

@lastboyscout The guy I met over the summer is 30 years old and I am 27. After I was ready to move on from the older man I loved I began to get interested in the guy I met over the summer and I really liked him.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

For what i understand he is not very self.confident and doesnt either look a very happy person. 55 years i suppose is not an easy age to start dating ,to meet new woman for relationship. normally the plan was to be married, spending most of the time home with the family - A stable life
55 years is nore an age to be quiet home watching movies and drinking hot chocolate not to going out and drinks and parties as in 20´s or 30´s
Also heart issues doesnt hit like before

The guy who she is talking about is 30. She isn't talking about the 55-year-old guy.

 

[whydidthishappen]

Hi Firefox

"4)He has toxic traits. One of the stories he gave about his exes just didn't make any sense at all so I asked some basic questions and he gave me slient treatment because he didn't like my questions. I apologised immediately and for two weeks he didn't talk to me. I ended up begging him forgiveness in person when we met. It really hurt everyday was painful. He accepted my apology and I asked him out for coffee which he agreed"

The silent treatment he is giving you is a peek into the entire relationship you would have with him. He is confused inside and he will probably ghost you when ANY problem arises. This is not the way a healthy person should function. He also genuinely sounds miserable. I know you are showing caring interest but honestly it's better to be alone than with a man who will repeatedly hurt you. Just my two cents. You can find someone better than that.

 

[FireFox]

@lastboyscout The comments he made about my height I just found so disturbing. I was comfortable with him but he still kept finding problems with my small height.

It fucking hurt when he described himself as a "stranger" to me because he was so open with me about personal stuff and then for him to turn around and use the word stranger really was a devastating blow.

I sat there and listened to everything he said about his past but still he turns around and sees me as a stranger. Oh my god

 

[lastboyscout]

U need to understand that the height for him is an issue. I also had many times that problem because i am 187 cm and in my country most os the girls are short
And doesnt feel very confortable to be with someone with 155 cm
Not if the intention is to heart you,, its just a thing he isnt confortable . he is a person with many complexes. is easy to see


note: i have no ideia whats the height difference. I see him with 195 cm and you 165 cm

 

[FireFox]

Hi Firefox

"4)He has toxic traits. One of the stories he gave about his exes just didn't make any sense at all so I asked some basic questions and he gave me slient treatment because he didn't like my questions. I apologised immediately and for two weeks he didn't talk to me. I ended up begging him forgiveness in person when we met. It really hurt everyday was painful. He accepted my apology and I asked him out for coffee which he agreed"

The silent treatment he is giving you is a peek into the entire relationship you would have with him. He is confused inside and he will probably ghost you when ANY problem arises. This is not the way a healthy person should function. He also genuinely sounds miserable. I know you are showing caring interest but honestly it's better to be alone than with a man who will repeatedly hurt you. Just my two cents. You can find someone better than that.

@whydidthishappen The slient treatment he gave was so painful and I blamed myself everyday. I blamed myself for driving him away. The man worst of all acted like the whole thing never happened.

He gave me the slient treatment because what happened was he was telling me about his relationship history and I was a little bit suspicious of one the version of events he gave me about one of his exes. Parts of the story wasn't making any sense and I felt something was missing. I have a very inquisitive mind it's not fun to have.

He claimed one of his exes came to his workplace with a knife and tried to attack him.

I asked 2 questions which were why did she do it? He was throwing around all these mental health diagnosis ranging from severe depression to bipolar disorder, as if it was confetti.

This woman was NOT even professionally diagnosed.

Then I asked what kind of person was she before the knife incident. The way a person behaves reveals a lot about them.

He got so mad at my questioning. He said he felt "uncomfortable" and he was going to bed, we were messaging each other. I apologised immediately and he ignores me for 2 whole weeks. He stops answering my texts and stopped messaging me. It was so distressing and I blamed myself for driving him away.

I had to go see in him in person breaking down begging and apologising and explaining why I was asking questions about his relationship.

Last year i got involved with a 55 year old man he painted me as the crazy woman and himself the saint and nice guy. He turned everyone at work against me with the assistance with a older woman colleague who I thought was my friend.This man fucked me up and I blamed myself for not asking questions.

When I told the man about the old man all of sudden he now starts getting interested and wanting to know all the details. It was so disgusting because I made the effort to ask questions of all the things he liked, dislikes, favourite hobbies because I liked him for who he was and geniuenely wanted to know him more. When it came to questions for me about anything the man barley made any effort to know me.

My grandmother thinks the man was doing all the abusing and asked me " so ALL the women he got involved with were wrong and he is in the right ?"

My grandmother is a domestic violence survivor who was married to an abusive man, my grandfather for many years.

 

[lastboyscout]

@lastboyscout The guy I met over the summer is 30 years old and I am 27. After I was ready to move on from the older man I loved I began to get interested in the guy I met over the summer and I really liked him.

ah ok sorry, sorry . .

 

[whydidthishappen]

He got so mad at my questioning. He said he felt "uncomfortable" and he was going to bed, we were messaging each other. I apologised immediately and he ignores me for 2 whole weeks. He stops answering my texts and stopped messaging me. It was so distressing and I blamed myself for driving him away.

I had to go see in him in person breaking down begging and apologising and explaining why I was asking questions about his relationship.

Yeah, he sounds like a douche. Wants to divulge information but isn't ready for questioning when the story doesn't add up. Honestly sounds sketchy. Don't ever beg men, they love that. I mean, I'm guilty of it but really all it does it allow them to act in their favor. Better to tell them to fuck off for their shit behavior and watch them crawl back to you with some garbage excuses.

Last year i got involved with a 55 year old man he painted me as the crazy woman and himself the saint and nice guy. He turned everyone at work against me with the assistance with a older woman colleague who I thought was my friend.This man fucked me up and I blamed myself for not asking questions.

When I told the man about the old man all of sudden he now starts getting interested and wanting to know all the details. It was so disgusting because I made the effort to ask questions of all the things he liked, dislikes, favourite hobbies because I liked him for who he was and geniuenely wanted to know him more. When it came to questions for me about anything the man barley made any effort to know me.

My grandmother thinks the man was doing all the abusing and asked me " so ALL the women he got involved with were wrong and he is in the right ?"

My grandmother is a domestic violence survivor who was married to an abusive man, my grandfather for many years.

Oh nice, an older employee who probably is using the sexual situation to his advantage. What a scumbag. Probably is seasoned in it too. Idk about this other guy but your grandmother is probably right. If It seems like it could be true, it probably is. This guy is deflecting all his fault. There's never only one side to a story.

 

[lastboyscout]

@lastboyscout The comments he made about my height I just found so disturbing. I was comfortable with him but he still kept finding problems with my small height.

It fucking hurt when he described himself as a "stranger" to me because he was so open with me about personal stuff and then for him to turn around and use the word stranger really was a devastating blow.

I sat there and listened to everything he said about his past but still he turns around and sees me as a stranger. Oh my god

you meet him online ? when ?

dear, we cant expect to find prince charmings online . Idk but i think u are expecting to much from him. Why u went to his house take satisfations? i understand how u feel inside but no matter waht it takes control it and try to not think him as he owes u explanations,, u shouldnt.
if he doesnt message u also shouldnt do it. The iniciative should come from the man in this case. if he didnt do not insist ..every time u are rejected u are going to suffer .. believe me i know

Yeah, he sounds like a douche. Wants to divulge information but isn't ready for questioning when the story doesn't add up. Honestly sounds sketchy. Don't ever beg men, they love that. I mean, I'm guilty of it but really all it does it allow them to act in their favor. Better to tell them to fuck off for their shit behavior and watch them crawl back to you with some garbage excuses.

yes basically thats it

 

[FireFox]

you meet him online ? when ?

dear, we cant expect to find prince charmings online . Idk but i think u are expecting to much from him. Why u went to his house take satisfations? i understand how u feel inside but no matter waht it takes control it and try to not think him as he owes u explanations,, u shouldnt.
if he doesnt message u also shouldnt do it. The iniciative should come from the man in this case. if he didnt do not insist ..every time u are rejected u are going to suffer .. believe me i know


yes basically thats it

@lastboyscout I NEVER met in him online, I found him in person. I consume hemp products and use multiple retailers. One of the CBD stores i use regularly i found the man working there in the beginning of the year. He joined last year.

While exploring CBD products the man and I ended up talking to each other. Everytime I vist the shop he smiles at me. The shop has periods where there are no customers so we just talk. The man is very intelligent when it comes to politics, he has travelled to so many countries and we bonded over that.

In July while hemp shopping this time I decided to ask for his number. He gave me his number. I asked him when he was finishing work and if he had any plans. He told me he finishes work at 7pm and has no plans. I decided to vist him at his store at 5 minutes before 7pm and I asked him if he wanted to walk with me across the area.

He agreed.

We walked along a canal and walked past many neighbourhoods. In our conversations we learnt a lot about each other.

The man later texted me at Midnight and everyday we talked to each other

 

[lastboyscout]

@lastboyscout I NEVER met in him online, I found him in person. I consume hemp products and use multiple retailers. One of the CBD stores i use regularly i found the man working there in the beginning of the year. He joined last year.

While exploring CBD products the man and I ended up talking to each other. Everytime I vist the shop he smiles at me. The shop has periods where there are no customers so we just talk. The man is very intelligent when it comes to politics, he has travelled to so many countries and we bonded over that.

In July while hemp shopping this time I decided to ask for his number. He gave me his number. I asked him when he was finishing work and if he had any plans. He told me he finishes work at 7pm and has no plans. I decided to vist him at his store at 5 minutes before 7pm and I asked him if he wanted to walk with me across the area.

He agreed.

We walked along a canal and walked past many neighbourhoods. In our conversations we learnt a lot about each other.

The man later texted me at Midnight and everyday we talked to each other

To me u look like friends , recent.
why u should worry and give such a meanning he saying u are short or tall? in the horizontal we are all with same height

Many mens love short girls .. Shakira is very short and is very hot .. she was betrayed by his last husband Pique.. Do realize how mens are stupid' ?

U dont realise , many of them until the rest of their lifes

Dont put much meanning .. i suppose he doesnt pay your bills , so i dont care about it

 

[FireFox]

Yeah, he sounds like a douche. Wants to divulge information but isn't ready for questioning when the story doesn't add up. Honestly sounds sketchy. Don't ever beg men, they love that. I mean, I'm guilty of it but really all it does it allow them to act in their favor. Better to tell them to fuck off for their shit behavior and watch them crawl back to you with some garbage excuses.


Oh nice, an older employee who probably is using the sexual situation to his advantage. What a scumbag. Probably is seasoned in it too. Idk about this other guy but your grandmother is probably right. If It seems like it could be true, it probably is. This guy is deflecting all his fault. There's never only one side to a story.

@whydidthishappen I just sick and tired of always being that girl now woman who never ever gets picked. All I have ever known is male rejection I just wish for once someone chooses me.

I have never been a man's crush, never been a girl or woman who a guy really wanted. Guys see other women as something special while guys just see nothing special in me god its so fucking painful. Other women get picked while I get rejected, humiliated and disrespected and never appreciated.

In my teens while the girls at school were having boys noticing them and having boyfriends the boys at school builled me. I had the confidence to talk to boys, contributed a lot to class discussions, spoke in school assemblies, stood up for myself against builles but still the boys thought I was a weird.

I even experienced boys pretending to like me as a cruel "joke" or "dare" for their friends.

The last boy I feel in love with at school I loved him because I thought he was different from all the boys at school. We used talk a lot in the sixth form common room during break then people in the school started to gossip about us then he started to push me away but I couldn't understand why.It turned out he was like everyone else in the school who was thought I was the werid girl and didn't want to be associated with me. He humiliated me at school too.

The arsehole lied to me about being gay so I will no longer be interested in him anymore. Worst of all he got his friends in the school to assist him and because I believed it he was finding it hilarious and laughing at me behind my back. When it came out publicly he lied people in the school found it funny I was so upset.

Every guys just sees me as a friend or a work colleague or a student but NEVER ever anything else.

Now I have reached a stage where I am desperate to settle because I am sick of being alone. Everyone else I grew up with is now settled and married and here is me who keeps failing with men.

To me u look like friends , recent.
why u should worry and give such a meanning he saying u are short or tall? in the horizontal we are all with same height

Many mens love short girls .. Shakira is very short and is very hot .. she was betrayed by his last husband Pique.. Do realize how mens are stupid' ?

U dont realise , many of them until the rest of their lifes

Dont put much meanning .. i suppose he doesnt pay your bills , so i dont care

@lastboyscout I just don't understand anymore why i am always that woman who never ever gets picked while everyone does. I am sick of always being rejected

I put enormous effort in putting myself out there, talking to men and making the effort to know all thier hobbies, likes, dislikes, caring about everything that is happening in their lives but no man ever does the same for me

Appearance wise I am small, slim, clear skin and so feminine but still men want another woman never ever me

I am just sick of this bullshit. I take all rejection personally because its a reminder I am NOT enough for any man.

Being 27, never had a boyfriend and always getting rejected ie the reason why I am depressed right now because everyone else in my life is settled with a partner and here is me who can't get a man.

 

[AuroraB]

Silent treatment hurts like hell. And now you know what he's capable of. Doesn't sound like he has the capacity or willingness to be a real friend.

 

[FireFox]

Silent treatment hurts like hell. And now you know what he's capable of. Doesn't sound like he has the capacity or willingness to be a real friend.

@AuroraB When he gave me the slient treatment I felt like the worst person in the world and blamed myself for everything. 2 weeks everyday I felt like he hated me and I absolutely terrified I was going to lose him. I

Only rescently I read about the slient treatment and over and over again relationship websites keep saying the slient treatment is a unhealthy way of communication and is a form of emotional abuse.

When I met him in person I was begging for his forgiveness because of all the distress I felt in those 2 weeks he gave me the slient treatment.

He acted like the whole thing never happened and downplayed his actions.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I doubt the height thing is really an issue.

With romance there are usually many layers involved and several of them are typically unspoken or underlying. So when someone says something that seems a bit surface-level, it's safe to assume there's more at play, the most obvious being that they're simply not attracted to you.

I tend to think romantic attachments develop quickly and organically and if they don't, there's something fundamentally lacking. You can get bogged down by the intricacies of who said what and why, but if someone wants something with you, they'll find a way to make it happen.

You can't be terrified of loss in the courtship phase because it indicates a scarcity mindset which is unattractive. But that's the catch 22 - when you're lonely and lack experience, you can't really come off like you have options. I think that's why a lot of incels etc get caught in a type of cyclical death spiral when it comes to finding someone. It's a problem that builds on itself.

I'm sorry it didn't work out. Hopefully you can have it be more of a balanced playing field with the next person.

 

[Praying 4 a Miracle]

Lots of guys love short women, even if they are taller. Don't sweat it, I'm sure there are many who are attracted to your height, along with your many other great qualities!

 

[Ozzyno]

@whydidthishappen I just sick and tired of always being that girl now woman who never ever gets picked. All I have ever known is male rejection I just wish for once someone chooses me.

I have never been a man's crush, never been a girl or woman who a guy really wanted. Guys see other women as something special while guys just see nothing special in me god its so fucking painful. Other women get picked while I get rejected, humiliated and disrespected and never appreciated.

In my teens while the girls at school were having boys noticing them and having boyfriends the boys at school builled me. I had the confidence to talk to boys, contributed a lot to class discussions, spoke in school assemblies, stood up for myself against builles but still the boys thought I was a weird.

I even experienced boys pretending to like me as a cruel "joke" or "dare" for their friends.

The last boy I feel in love with at school I loved him because I thought he was different from all the boys at school. We used talk a lot in the sixth form common room during break then people in the school started to gossip about us then he started to push me away but I couldn't understand why.It turned out he was like everyone else in the school who was thought I was the werid girl and didn't want to be associated with me. He humiliated me at school too.

The arsehole lied to me about being gay so I will no longer be interested in him anymore. Worst of all he got his friends in the school to assist him and because I believed it he was finding it hilarious and laughing at me behind my back. When it came out publicly he lied people in the school found it funny I was so upset.

Every guys just sees me as a friend or a work colleague or a student but NEVER ever anything else.

Now I have reached a stage where I am desperate to settle because I am sick of being alone. Everyone else I grew up with is now settled and married and here is me who keeps failing with men.


@lastboyscout I just don't understand anymore why i am always that woman who never ever gets picked while everyone does. I am sick of always being rejected

I put enormous effort in putting myself out there, talking to men and making the effort to know all thier hobbies, likes, dislikes, caring about everything that is happening in their lives but no man ever does the same for me

Appearance wise I am small, slim, clear skin and so feminine but still men want another woman never ever me

I am just sick of this bullshit. I take all rejection personally because its a reminder I am NOT enough for any man.

Being 27, never had a boyfriend and always getting rejected ie the reason why I am depressed right now because everyone else in my life is settled with a partner and here is me who can't get a man.

Just seems like you are living my love life except I am a male. Never in my life anyone ever told me I look bad, I got complimented a lot of time by women. I've had one serious relationship but I can understand your frustration: I am 26 and my relatives always tell me 'you are a catch how come you are still single?' and I am there like 'I don't know' ahahahah…

This Norwegian guy doesn't seem like the right guy for you. You seem like a giving person (you really want a connection with someone else) so you would need someone that would take from you this love you can give and turn it into love to give back to you. This guy doesn't appreciate your kindness and interest you have for him.

You seem like a nice woman, I would date you if I met you. I think the height difference could be an issue for some men. More than 30cm difference is a lot, we don't know what kind of difference you were talking about.

 

[CatLvr]

Nobody is worth all that drama. Move on and don't look back. He is NOT the one for you and he is TELLING YOU THAT in a hundred different ways.

 

[Ozzyno]

Nobody is worth all that drama. Move on and don't look back. He is NOT the one for you and he is TELLING YOU THAT in a hundred different ways.

Couldn't phrase that better myself

 

[Unspoken7612]

While it's possible there's some understandable reason for his behaviour, you're not under any obligation to give him the benefit of the doubt. The thing to remember is that none of this reflects upon you. It sounds to me like you didn't do anything seriously wrong. Maybe this just wasn't meant to be.

You should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there, even if it didn't work.

 

[AuroraB]

@AuroraB When he gave me the slient treatment I felt like the worst person in the world and blamed myself for everything. 2 weeks everyday I felt like he hated me and I absolutely terrified I was going to lose him. I

Only rescently I read about the slient treatment and over and over again relationship websites keep saying the slient treatment is a unhealthy way of communication and is a form of emotional abuse.

When I met him in person I was begging for his forgiveness because of all the distress I felt in those 2 weeks he gave me the slient treatment.

He acted like the whole thing never happened and downplayed his actions.

Please go on youtube and listen to a video on The Silent Treatment by "The Little Shaman" and then listen to more of her videos. He's gaslighting you also. This is a guy to stay away from.

 

[FireFox]

Just seems like you are living my love life except I am a male. Never in my life anyone ever told me I look bad, I got complimented a lot of time by women. I've had one serious relationship but I can understand your frustration: I am 26 and my relatives always tell me 'you are a catch how come you are still single?' and I am there like 'I don't know' ahahahah…

This Norwegian guy doesn't seem like the right guy for you. You seem like a giving person (you really want a connection with someone else) so you would need someone that would take from you this love you can give and turn it into love to give back to you. This guy doesn't appreciate your kindness and interest you have for him.

You seem like a nice woman, I would date you if I met you. I think the height difference could be an issue for some men. More than 30cm difference is a lot, we don't know what kind of difference you were talking about.

@Ozzyno People think it's so easy to meet someone majority of people DO NOT UNDERSTAND how it feels to constantly be that person who never ever gets picked and the psychological damage of going through your whole life always being rejected and overlooked.

I wish you well

Nobody is worth all that drama. Move on and don't look back. He is NOT the one for you and he is TELLING YOU THAT in a hundred different ways.

@CatLvr Everyone else I grew up with is now married and here is me failing with men. The more and I see other women now married the more I feel like I am feel like I am running out of time. Everyone is taken that's how I feel everyday and theere is no one more for me

While it's possible there's some understandable reason for his behaviour, you're not under any obligation to give him the benefit of the doubt. The thing to remember is that none of this reflects upon you. It sounds to me like you didn't do anything seriously wrong. Maybe this just wasn't meant to be.

You should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there, even if it didn't work.

@Unspoken7612 I can't win anymore what the fuck do modern men want ???? Men are impossible to please

Every time I ask a man out they dump me at the last minute. I can't win anymore when comes to men. I make all the fucking effort, take a geniuene interest in the things the man likes and remember everything the man tells me about himself but men never do the same for me.

While it's possible there's some understandable reason for his behaviour, you're not under any obligation to give him the benefit of the doubt. The thing to remember is that none of this reflects upon you. It sounds to me like you didn't do anything seriously wrong. Maybe this just wasn't meant to be.

You should be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there, even if it didn't work.

@Unspoken7612 I can't win anymore what the fuck do modern men want ???? Men are impossible to please

Every time I ask a man out they dump me at the last minute. I can't win anymore when comes to men. I make all the fucking effort, take a geniuene interest in the things the man likes and remember everything the man tells me about himself but men never do the same for me.

 

[cloudyskye]

Honestly it sounds like he just wanted you to stroke his ego. Truthfully desperation isn't attractive. A lot of men are gun shy these days because a lot of women are horrid. Trite as it sounds give it time get comfortable with yourself w/o a man.

 

[FireFox]

Honestly it sounds like he just wanted you to stroke his ego. Truthfully desperation isn't attractive. A lot of men are gun shy these days because a lot of women are horrid. Trite as it sounds give it time get comfortable with yourself w/o a man.

@cloudskye Since turning 27 and seeing everyone else getting married has me so depressed because all my life I have always been that person who never ever gets picked.

I am now at that stage where I am desperate for any relationship so I can no longer be single. I admit if a man is possessive I will end up staying with him because I have had never been loved by a man and can't see another man ever wanting me.

 

[razorblade_sky]

I'm sorry that you're experiencing this, I am in a similar situation, although I have a few years on you (36). It's tiring seeing everyone around me find partners, buy houses, start families and be successful. I just want you to know that you're not alone in being alone, I really hope things get better for you.

 

[Intoxicated]

No matter what i did to show my interest and care in him he made me feel so inadequate.

1)I regularly told him that I find his hair and deep dark brown eyes beautiful. The compliments I gave where never enough for him. After complimenting him on many occasions he asked me to confirm if I find him physically attractive.

I'd find physical contacts (gentle touches, hugs) way more pleasant than 1000 kind words, not to mention more intimate things like heavy petting and intercourse. If you didn't get more far than exchanging compliments after several meetings, I can imagine what the guy's impression was.

3)His behaviour towards me at times was so disrespectful. When it came to my height his comments were so hurtful He pointed on multiple occasions how "Tiny" I was compared to him. He mentioned how his exes were "not as small as me".

Sometimes people try to be honest but can't find polite ways to express their thoughts. Would you rather prefer not to know that he likes tall women more instead of hearing the truth expressed in some awkward way like that?

I was getting fed up of him having a problem with my small height so I tried to find out why he has a problem with my height. So I asked him the following question" if we were to have sex are you scared of breaking my bones and me going to A&E[hospital]"

The man response was " yes - that was one of my initial fears " meeting you. I was absolutely disgusted because I wanted to know him as a person but he was focused on sex and whether my body break if were to have sex.

Focusing on sex is typical for men who have good potency and sexual desire. It would be interesting to look at a man with a well-functioning "apparatus" who'd seek for a female partner just to have interesting conversations with her from time to time and be happy with "satisfying" his sexual urges solely by jerking off ))

You probably know that a man can find other man for interesting talks and mutual support. Hence if you exclude intimacy from relationships, there is a little to no advantage in having a partner specifically of the opposite gender.

Breaking the body during sex looks like a joke, I can imagine other inconveniences like difficulty with hugs while staying. As far as I understand, you two didn't go beyond compliments, so he might assume that you're just cold, since you didn't show signs of wanting intimacy despite being single for a long time (that can be interpreted as a sign of low libido). This may be not a sole reason for rejection, but a contributing factor.

4)He has toxic traits. One of the stories he gave about his exes just didn't make any sense at all so I asked some basic questions and he gave me slient treatment because he didn't like my questions. I apologised immediately and for two weeks he didn't talk to me.

I presume, he just didn't find talks with you so interesting/entertaining as you did. Note that a well-developed person always has something to fill their free time with besides engaging in relationships with someone. If you were not important for him, he could rather prefer spending time on his hobbies without thinking about this as a sort of punishment as you perceived it.

5) He even complained that I am "hard to read" even though I was honest that I liked him.

Liking is kinda vague thing. Liking in what sense? As if "I would like to be your friend / lover / wife / mother of our common children"? Based on abstract "liking" it's hard to determine how far your expectations go.

I am Catholic whereas he is Anti Thiest. I told him already I will NEVER force my beliefs on him and I accepted him for he is but he says religion is a redline

I can understand him. I hate religion of any kind and I often find it difficult to communicate with believers due to their specific patterns of thinking on subjects outside of religion. Resolving disagreements with such people is a pain, because my arguments typically sound unconvincing for them and their arguments sound like a total bullshit for me. Sometimes I feel like we're just people from different universes. Not dealing with believers looks like a good way to stay in comfort for me, and maybe that guy shares similar views.

This man even complained to me that women do not show any interest in him

It's likely that "women he finds attractive" is implicitly implied.

I can't win because I put so much effort and time in guys i liked but still I lose. I can't win anymore I am never good enough for anyone.

How many guys didn't respond well to your charm so far? If the number is below 20, your odds aren't bad, I think.