Venting My kids are my only protective factor and they are horrible lately.

[Ghost2211]

My son is ADHD and oppositional defiant, and my daughter is autistic. They can be a nightmare if they want to be. My daughter will fixate on something I did or didn't do, and bring it up several dozen times. My son will do passive aggressive behaviors just to provoke me.

The only thing that keeps me going is my 2 year old. He is also autistic (non verbal), but he is so cuddly and loving. He's the sunshine between the prison bars of the prison life has become. I can't bring myself to leave him. He's like the poster child of "good baby", and keeps me balanced when the other kids are making me want to pull my hair out.

Don't get me wrong I love all 3. The older two just gave me a bad morning.

 

[stevieu]

My son is ADHD and oppositional defiant, and my daughter is autistic. They can be a nightmare if they want to be. My daughter will fixate on something I did or didn't do, and bring it up several dozen times. My son will do passive aggressive behaviors just to provoke me.

The only thing that keeps me going is my 2 year old. He is also autistic (non verbal), but he is so cuddly and loving. He's the sunshine between the prison bars of the prison life has become. I can't bring myself to leave him. He's like the poster child of "good baby", and keeps me balanced when the other kids are making me want to pull my hair out.

Don't get me wrong I love all 3. The older two just gave me a bad morning.

Hoping you can stay strong

 

[Deformationalplagio]

My son is ADHD and oppositional defiant, and my daughter is autistic. They can be a nightmare if they want to be. My daughter will fixate on something I did or didn't do, and bring it up several dozen times. My son will do passive aggressive behaviors just to provoke me.

The only thing that keeps me going is my 2 year old. He is also autistic (non verbal), but he is so cuddly and loving. He's the sunshine between the prison bars of the prison life has become. I can't bring myself to leave him. He's like the poster child of "good baby", and keeps me balanced when the other kids are making me want to pull my hair out.

Don't get me wrong I love all 3. The older two just gave me a bad morning.

I have add wich is almost the same as adhd. He doesnt do it to provoke if he got this outbursts hes clearly mad for something try talking to him and always keep in mind that yelling etc will only make matters worse try complimenting him kids with add and adhd really need that a lot

 

[Ghost2211]

I have add wich is almost the same as adhd. He doesnt do it to provoke if he got this outbursts hes clearly mad for something try talking to him and always keep in mind that yelling etc will only make matters worse try complimenting him kids with add and adhd really need that a lot

I have medical background. He is on meds now. We wanted to avoid it, but he couldn't function in school without it. I don't get mad at him for his condition, but there are a lot of times I need to politely tell him he is over stimulating me, and I need space for us to calm a bit.

The ADHD doesn't make him "bad". It's the oppositional defiant disorder that does. Im as patient as humanly possible since I know he doesn't have bad intentions, but it gets overwhelming sometimes.

 

[TheEndof]

Wow, that's so tough. I have a lot of respect for you, I don't know how I'd cope. I'm currently expecting a boy in a few months and I know based on his father and my medical history he's likely going to have some struggles with similar things as your kids. I hope I can be as patient as you seemingly are.

 

[Ghost2211]

Wow, that's so tough. I have a lot of respect for you, I don't know how I'd cope. I'm currently expecting a boy in a few months and I know based on his father and my medical history he's likely going to have some struggles with similar things as your kids. I hope I can be as patient as you seemingly are.

it takes time to learn. I made my mistakes. If you need someone to talk to I'm here.

 

[Lostandfound7]

I TOTALLY commend u in being so patient under the circumstances. Not only r u an amazing mom, but ur also wonderful to speak to n give great advice, judging from ur posts..I hope thru all of this that u r taking time out for YOU..Sending u love n strength SuperMom

 

[Ghost2211]

I TOTALLY commend u in being so patient under the circumstances. Not only r u an amazing mom, but ur also wonderful to speak to n give great advice, judging from ur posts..I hope thru all of this that u r taking time out for YOU..Sending u love n strength SuperMom

Thank you. This means a lot to me.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Your very welcome..Not sure if ur able to drink, but try to schedule some time tonight for yourself..n take a warm bath or shower, have a nice drink, n carry on..

 

[Ghost2211]

Your very welcome..Not sure if ur able to drink, but try to schedule some time tonight for yourself..n take a warm bath or shower, have a nice drink, n carry on..

Marijuana candies. They get me stoned, but still fully functional. I'm such a lightweight with alcohol. Even one drink I'm all giggly and sleepy. Its embarrassingly silly lol.

 

[Lostandfound7]

Marijuana candies. They get me stoned, but still fully functional. I'm such a lightweight with alcohol. Even one drink I'm all giggly and sleepy. Its embarrassingly silly lol.

Lmbo!!Ahhhhhhh...well there u go! That sounds fun!Have a "STONED" night!..

 

[gnomeboy17]

I'm really proud of you that you've kept going! Sounds like a difficult situation, but at the end of the day your kids love you and need you, I can't imagine losing my mum, even if I was younger. Stay strong and best wishes x

 

[exhausted]

I have been around someone with oppositional defiance disorder and it is really difficult, so well done to you for coping with it as best as you can. Hope you are feeling better.

 

[S1mpleme]

My son is ADHD and oppositional defiant, and my daughter is autistic. They can be a nightmare if they want to be. My daughter will fixate on something I did or didn't do, and bring it up several dozen times. My son will do passive aggressive behaviors just to provoke me.

The only thing that keeps me going is my 2 year old. He is also autistic (non verbal), but he is so cuddly and loving. He's the sunshine between the prison bars of the prison life has become. I can't bring myself to leave him. He's like the poster child of "good baby", and keeps me balanced when the other kids are making me want to pull my hair out.

Don't get me wrong I love all 3. The older two just gave me a bad morning.

You have answered yourself. This is something that makes feelings inside.

 

[Ghost2211]

I have been around someone with oppositional defiance disorder and it is really difficult, so well done to you for coping with it as best as you can. Hope you are feeling better.

Yeah thank goodness for marijuana. I have a high tolerance so I'm still functional I'm just happier and a bit more hungry. Waiting for my little blessings to go to bed so I can have mommy happy rest time.

 

[Anon2662]

I'm a trained primary school teacher and have taught children with ADHD, autism and ODD in the few short years I was able to teach. I found it hard enough in a classroom, especially with the child with ODD. They were lovely don't get me wrong, but challenging to say the least! I did have a huge soft spot for them though. I have nothing but respect for you as I can only imagine how hard it is dealing with all this at the same time.. your children sound very lucky to have you :)

 

[Esc9434]

@RoseyBird please PM when you get a chance. I have a few questions.

 

[Ghost2211]

@RoseyBird please PM when you get a chance. I have a few questions.

I tried to it said I can't.

 

[Esc9434]

I tried to it said I can't.

Yeah I just signed up today, so restrictions probably exist on my account.

I was going to ask you some personal health questions. Also, recommend some things to lighten your load.

 

[Ghost2211]

Yeah I just signed up today, so restrictions probably exist on my account.

I was going to ask you some personal health questions. Also, recommend some things to lighten your load.

Feel free to message me when able :)

 

[TheSuicidalEccentric]

That is very loving and empathetic. I think it would kill your children if you committed suicide on them, so understandable that they are keeping you alive

 

[Ghost2211]

That is very loving and empathetic. I think it would kill your children if you committed suicide on them, so understandable that they are keeping you alive

My 8 year old is suicidal from early bullying. He came to me other day and said "mommy I know you want to die. I know because I want to die, so I know what it looks like when people feel that way" we talked It out but it came down to we made an agreement neither of us gets to die so we can help each other. I died inside from that conversation. I'm trapped in this life. I know I'm trapped by love, but I still wish I had the luxury of dying

Ex leaving effecting him a lot too.

 

[TheSuicidalEccentric]

My 8 year old is suicidal from early bullying. He came to me other day and said "mommy I know you want to die. I know because I want to die, so I know what it looks like when people feel that way" we talked It out but it came down to we made an agreement neither of us gets to die so we can help each other". I died inside from there conversation. I'm trapped in this life. I know I'm trapped by love, but I still wish I had the luxury of dying

Ex leaving effecting him a lot too.

That's very painful. Very painful. Life is so weird like wtf

 

[Deleted member 14386]

That sounds really rough, sending hugs and good vibes, you're doing the best you can and sound like a fantastic mother!