My girlfriend doesn't know about my suicidal thoughts

[Depressive_Thoughts]

So, as the title says, my girlfriend knows shit about my dark thoughts. What should I do, should I try and tell her about it? I don't want to destroy her, I'm afraid she will freak out...

 

[stoiccactus]

I wouldn't tell her unless you want to end up in a 72 hour psychiatric hold

 

[Depressive_Thoughts]

lol I guess you are right on this bro

 

[soapgoat]

There's a responsible way to do it and a irresponsible way. Like if you tweak out and say you have a gallon of sn at home shell definitely call the cops. Tell her that you've had depressive thoughts lately and how you've been feeling. I wouldn't bring up suicidal thoughts immediately maybe that can come in a latter convo. Make sure she isn't having a rough day before you tell her and I'm sure you two can both grow from it.

 

[Rymrgand]

I don't know how it works in your country or how your girlfriend is, but I think you would be able to tell her without ending in a hospital. Don't tell her that you have a date or that you have already the tools (SN or a gun or whatever), but tell her that you are depressed and maybe that you have suicidal thoughts. If she loves you, she deserves to know and you deserve her support. She may freak out, but it will be way worse if you CTB and she didn't know about it.

But seriously, my "friends", my coworkers and my therapists/psychiatrist all knew about my suicidal thoughts and all that happened was that my psychiatrist told me once that I could enter a hospital if I wanted. Unless it's a really extreme case, I wouldn't worry for that.

 

[Roadrunner]

Don't tell anyone, it's too much pressure to put on someone. If you do CTB, they'll be tortured with guilt that they didn't do more to help. Keep that locked up and only share with a professional such as a doctor or therapist if your hoping not to. Imho

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

My ex boyfriend broke up with me and my friend left me because I struggle with immense trauma and socialization. I can't say whether to trust your own instincts and judgement, but you should know if you want to keep this relationship by how you feel and share little things or not as it invites people into judging you more and made that mistake more times to just not want to be around people who won't understand my circumstances and been friends with other girls who also self isolate from their traumas that also distance themselves because the fear of judgement. I am now trusting my own instincts because this world isn't worth it for me to keep pandering to being hurt anymore. Even when I was at my happiest, I still felt judged inside and hurt because once you've been hurt, there's nothing to rid of the sadness that has existed.