My daydream makes me anxious and nervous.

[Parnate]

am gay, male ,31 . But in my daydream I am a straight man. I daydream o f my cheating on me and I confronting her. All this is making me very anxious, nervous , uneasy and sad, when infact none of it is real.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Interesting. Sometimes I wonder if we run these scenarios in our minds in order to either release our pent up emotions- a kind of catharsis- is there anyone you're feeling angry with? Or, maybe to prepare ourselves for the things we fear the most- like being cheated on. Do you find it easier to feel annoyed with women's behaviours in general? I don't know. It's not like I'm a psychiatrist. Maybe it isn't all that significant that you're straight in this scenario.

I sometimes daydream about how I'd respond to abuse- mainly male abuse or, terrorist attacks. I fantasize that I would react violently. Maybe it's a hope that I would be able to cope in a stressful situation and react bravely. It could be a repressed hatred for certain types of men though- violent, bullying ones. I don't think I want to be violent as such but, I hate bullies. So, it's probably a subconscious way to feel empowered over things I hate. The reality of it would likely be different though.

 

[Parnate]

am gay, male ,31 . But in my daydream I am a straight man. I daydream o f my cheating on me and I confronting her. All this is making me very anxious, nervous , uneasy and sad, when infact none of it is real.

I mean my wife cheating on me.

Interesting. Sometimes I wonder if we run these scenarios in our minds in order to either release our pent up emotions- a kind of catharsis- is there anyone you're feeling angry with? Or, maybe to prepare ourselves for the things we fear the most- like being cheated on. Do you find it easier to feel annoyed with women's behaviours in general? I don't know. It's not like I'm a psychiatrist. Maybe it isn't all that significant that you're straight in this scenario.

I sometimes daydream about how I'd respond to abuse- mainly male abuse or, terrorist attacks. I fantasize that I would react violently. Maybe it's a hope that I would be able to cope in a stressful situation and react bravely. It could be a repressed hatred for certain types of men though- violent, bullying ones. I don't think I want to be violent as such but, I hate bullies. So, it's probably a subconscious way to feel empowered over things I hate. The reality of it would likely be different though.

I have lots of insecurities and most importantly this feeling of not being man enough.