Help My boyfriend ..?

[girlwitharose]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

 

[The anhedonic one]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have experienced this type of thing too. It really is devastating. I don't mean to be intrusive, but does your boyfriend know how you really feel, as regards feeling down etc ?
If it was me I would just tell him that his ghosting behaviour is hurtful and take it from there. I hope things work out for the best for you.

 

[Kittzuni]

I know you don't want to hear this but leave. Leave before it's too late. You aren't married, you aren't stuck. Right now you still have a way out.

If you stay you'll soon find yourself crying in bed next to him while he sleeps. If he ignores your cries for help now he'll also ignore you when you need him the most.

It started out like that with my husband. Now all I do is cry while he goes about his usual day. I would have never assumed he could be so cold but what you're describing now are the red flags I should have listened to.

No amount of joy or happiness when you're together is worth the pain he is causing you by deliberately going out and having fun while you're miserable and need him.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Try to have a conversation with him about how he is making you feel. How he responds will tell you all you need to know.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Try to talk to him about it. If that does not work, break up.

 

[FuneralCry]

Sounds like that person isn't worth being around, certainly not somebody that should be trusted but I just think that in general you cannot trust humans.

 

[SexyIncél]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

Needed more info, so I checked out your previous posts

You have various possible actions. Some advocate breaking up. But I don't think that solves the root cause: your parents mentally mutilated you. Break up with him or not, this same problem may repeatedly occur. (Unless you luck out by getting a rare nurturing bf)

Your bf said he's attracted to his friend, who later unfriended him. Clearly, he has utter contempt/disrespect for you. There's others who deserve your affections more. Unfortunately, while you're still in contact with your abusive parents, it'll be hard to fix your problems

 

[girlwitharose]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I have experienced this type of thing too. It really is devastating. I don't mean to be intrusive, but does your boyfriend know how you really feel, as regards feeling down etc ?
If it was me I would just tell him that his ghosting behaviour is hurtful and take it from there. I hope things work out for the best for you.

He knows. He always says he's sorry and that he'll try to be a better boyfriend but never seems to attempt.

I know you don't want to hear this but leave. Leave before it's too late. You aren't married, you aren't stuck. Right now you still have a way out.

If you stay you'll soon find yourself crying in bed next to him while he sleeps. If he ignores your cries for help now he'll also ignore you when you need him the most.

It started out like that with my husband. Now all I do is cry while he goes about his usual day. I would have never assumed he could be so cold but what you're describing now are the red flags I should have listened to.

No amount of joy or happiness when you're together is worth the pain he is causing you by deliberately going out and having fun while you're miserable and need him.

I'm sorry you're going through that, It's now Tuesday and he's contacted me twice. I haven't answered him but i've read his texts. I'm thinking of breaking up. I'll try to be braver and end things while i can. Thank you

 

[lookingforsanctuary]

Good luck, I'll be thinking of you.

 

[girlwitharose]

Needed more info, so I checked out your previous posts

You have various possible actions. Some advocate breaking up. But I don't think that solves the root cause: your parents mentally mutilated you. Break up with him or not, this same problem may repeatedly occur. (Unless you luck out by getting a rare nurturing bf)

Your bf said he's attracted to his friend, who later unfriended him. Clearly, he has utter contempt/disrespect for you. There's others who deserve your affections more. Unfortunately, while you're still in contact with your abusive parents, it'll be hard to fix your problems

So you think my parents are the root of my problems? I mean, in all the relationships I have been in, they've all been manipulative, narcissistic men. Maybe I have a habit of going towards what my parents' "love" was.

 

[FireFox]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

@girlwitharose He is an arsehole who clearly has no respect for you and doesn't care about you. This behaviour is pure cruelty.

End the relationship you deserve so much better than him.

Love
FireFox

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

Love can hurt a lot, happened to me too
Good luck

 

[Worndown]

There are other guys out there.

 

[unlucky_crow6667]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

Ghost him back and cut ties with him.
The relationships is messed up and over .
Never be taken for granted.
You are not anyone possession nor an object to be neglected ,abused nor gaslighted.

 

[SexyIncél]

So you think my parents are the root of my problems? I mean, in all the relationships I have been in, they've all been manipulative, narcissistic men. Maybe I have a habit of going towards what my parents' "love" was.

Oh definitely. Your mom's been teeing off on you, using you as her stress punching bag. Your dad's been a ghost; I don't know what's up with him, but at best he's too much of a coward to protect you. Those in romantic/erotic relations with you fail utterly at the basics of caring for you

Maybe worst of all, everyone around you is an enabler, doing nothing to intervene. If you had minimally decent parents, you might not notice this. But your parents are bozos who don't deserve you. Total shitshow

Might help to have a grim sense of humor and see how ridiculous it is -- on all levels

Ghost him back and cut ties with him.
The relationships is messed up and over .
Never be taken for granted.
You are not anyone possession nor an object to be neglected ,abused nor gaslighted.

Good point. Could be practice in self-respect, especially if it's safe to break up with a little style. A step in asserting yourself as having a greater purpose than being some shithead's punching bag

 

[Rational man]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??You

Without good reason, sounds like cowards behaviour if he can't talk openly. You deserve more that, dont you.?

 

[girlwitharose]

There are other guys out there.

He acc made me feel happy in the beginning, he's told me before he'll hurt himself if i leave. I'm scared to do that but i know it's manipulative. Ugh i should really get over it

Oh definitely. Your mom's been teeing off on you, using you as her stress punching bag. Your dad's been a ghost; I don't know what's up with him, but at best he's too much of a coward to protect you. Those in romantic/erotic relations with you fail utterly at the basics of caring for you

Maybe worst of all, everyone around you is an enabler, doing nothing to intervene. If you had minimally decent parents, you might not notice this. But your parents are bozos who don't deserve you. Total shitshow

Might help to have a grim sense of humor and see how ridiculous it is -- on all levels


Good point. Could be practice in self-respect, especially if it's safe to break up with a little style. A step in asserting yourself as having a greater purpose than being some shithead's punching bag

This comment made me laugh, don't know why. Loved the way you put it though. I guess my parents neglective and abusive ways were the only things i knew and got attracted to. I should ghost him back, true. Be totally assertive .

 

[Worndown]

One should not be forced to maintain a relationship to stop something terrible from happening. That is called being a hostage. If he hurts himself, that is really his problem. Stop making it yours!

 

[clockwork_cat]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

It's the most painful feeling, watching someone fall out of love. I'd take death in an instant..

Sorry you're experiencing it OP.

 

[lebrodude]

It's time for a new boyfriend I'd say.

Or at least dump him.

He isn't treating you well.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

My boyfriend started ghosting me. He reads my texts and let's my calls ring and answers with the automatic "I'll call you later" messages. I see him post on his snapchat stories and in his friends' stories too. He never invites me anywhere anymore. He never makes any plans. He never tries. What do i do??

RUN !!!
If someone really cares about you, they wouldn't pull that shit.