Venting my boyfriend told me he doesn't know if he can stop me ftom ctbing

[höstdepressioner]

he doesn't want me to apparently, but he's not trying to stop me anymore. i feel he just wants me to do it so he can move on and it hurts so bad and is just driving me closer to doing it

 

[Dying Knight]

he doesn't want me to apparently, but he's not trying to stop me anymore.

Maybe he doesn't know what kind of help he could offer to you, especially if you make accent on your suicidal thoughts rather than depressive feelings when talking to him.

 

[ThisUnrest]

If he used to try to you stop you before and you say youre still feeling that way, maybe he's just trying something different, thinking it will be better. I'm sure he loves you and doesn't want to lose you. It's hard for partners to know what to do.

 

[Suicidal Ideation]

communicate please

 

[Worndown]

Did he give up?

 

[höstdepressioner]

Maybe he doesn't know what kind of help he could offer to you, especially if you make accent on your suicidal thoughts rather than depressive feelings when talking to him.

I usually don't, but last night was different and i did communicate both sides but it still feels a little bad :(

If he used to try to you stop you before and you say youre still feeling that way, maybe he's just trying something different, thinking it will be better. I'm sure he loves you and doesn't want to lose you. It's hard for partners to know what to do.

Yeah, i see what you mean and you're probably right about it. thank you

communicate please

I do and have been, please don't assume that because of this vent i do not communicate with him. We've spent today talking about what could help more and why him saying what he did hurt me slightly.

 

[sylvey]

The dilemma your boyfriend is facing is one I face on a daily basis.

Nearly every one of my friends at my school has suicidal intentions and I know them all. I have never had such loyal friends in my whole life, and I wouldn't want to lose any of them, but when I think of my own suicidal thoughts, I wonder if I should let them do as they like.

Now, I have never had the luxury of attempting what I will try to explain as best as I can, but I will try to convene it. If you have ever considered having a serious sit-down with your boyfriend about the DIRECT reason, or if there are several, the MOST DIRECT reasons as to why you feel death is the only solution, and I believe that without any restrictions whatsoever on the words you say (as opposed to the irritating scenario that talking to a psychiatrist about the sme topic entails) that maybe you could find a way to make life even a little more bearable, bit by bit.

But if you still feel as if you only want to die, I can't offer any opinions on that side of it, lest I be hypocritical.

Much love.

 

[deathxo]

I personally do not think it is anybody's responsibility or business to try and keep another alive.
Life is not easy on anybody, it takes a lot of mental effort to get through each day, every day.
I am usually so overwhelmed, dealing with my own shit that being confronted with another person's problems (especislly someone close to me) absolutely exhausts me.
Just because they are not trying to stop you anymore doesn't automatically mean they want you to go ahead with it now. They might just be tired of trying. Just like dealing with suicidal ideation is far from the easiest thing, I cannot imagine what being with someone actively & openly suicidal be like.

Being suicidal is the extremist one can be no not, I'm gonna get addicted to drugs, or be promiscuos or some other societally unacceptable thing, oh no. Life & death baby. Either I am, or I ain't.

Thinking from the perspective of your bf, who might be having to grapple with imagining a reality where his loved one might not just be dead, but actually have planned to kill themselves...... I cannot begin to describe how fucked up that is. No one is equipped to deal with that kinda shit man.
Especially someone who might not be actively suicidal, or dealt with that kinda stuff longterm & still be trying to cling onto all the good in life, to continue.

I hope I don't come off as mean or inconsiderate & I honestly do not know much about your situation, I've just always had this bad habit of being the devil's advocate, I hope I'm not taking the side of someone who's just an uncaring asshole

 

[ToniFoxGirl!!]

My boyfriend knows about my depression and suicidal thoughts, and he really wants to help, but doesn't know how. I feel bad, because if there was something he could do to help, I'd tell him, but there's nothing he can do or say.

 

[höstdepressioner]

The dilemma your boyfriend is facing is one I face on a daily basis.

Nearly every one of my friends at my school has suicidal intentions and I know them all. I have never had such loyal friends in my whole life, and I wouldn't want to lose any of them, but when I think of my own suicidal thoughts, I wonder if I should let them do as they like.

Now, I have never had the luxury of attempting what I will try to explain as best as I can, but I will try to convene it. If you have ever considered having a serious sit-down with your boyfriend about the DIRECT reason, or if there are several, the MOST DIRECT reasons as to why you feel death is the only solution, and I believe that without any restrictions whatsoever on the words you say (as opposed to the irritating scenario that talking to a psychiatrist about the sme topic entails) that maybe you could find a way to make life even a little more bearable, bit by bit.

But if you still feel as if you only want to die, I can't offer any opinions on that side of it, lest I be hypocritical.

Much love.

I will try to, thank you.

I personally do not think it is anybody's responsibility or business to try and keep another alive.
Life is not easy on anybody, it takes a lot of mental effort to get through each day, every day.
I am usually so overwhelmed, dealing with my own shit that being confronted with another person's problems (especislly someone close to me) absolutely exhausts me.
Just because they are not trying to stop you anymore doesn't automatically mean they want you to go ahead with it now. They might just be tired of trying. Just like dealing with suicidal ideation is far from the easiest thing, I cannot imagine what being with someone actively & openly suicidal be like.

Being suicidal is the extremist one can be no not, I'm gonna get addicted to drugs, or be promiscuos or some other societally unacceptable thing, oh no. Life & death baby. Either I am, or I ain't.

Thinking from the perspective of your bf, who might be having to grapple with imagining a reality where his loved one might not just be dead, but actually have planned to kill themselves...... I cannot begin to describe how fucked up that is. No one is equipped to deal with that kinda shit man.
Especially someone who might not be actively suicidal, or dealt with that kinda stuff longterm & still be trying to cling onto all the good in life, to continue.

I hope I don't come off as mean or inconsiderate & I honestly do not know much about your situation, I've just always had this bad habit of being the devil's advocate, I hope I'm not taking the side of someone who's just an uncaring asshole

No, you haven't come off that way at all. You're completely right, I just realize now I was completely clouded by emotions making this post haha :) probably not a good look for me

 

[sylvey]

I will try to, thank you.

No, you haven't come off that way at all. You're completely right, I just realize now I was completely clouded by emotions making this post haha :) probably not a good look for me

Anytime, you're very welcome. Make sure that you try to plan out what you would like to say (it [planning it out] should work, even I know it does even though I forget what I planned to say because my ADHD moment/remaining braincell count is deplorable)

And if there's anything you feel like you wouldn't be able to sufficiently explain, please feel free to ask for help

 

[deathxo]

No, you haven't come off that way at all. You're completely right, I just realize now I was completely clouded by emotions making this post haha :) probably not a good look for me

Phew I'm glad!
Actually I really relate to what you felt. Wanting to ctb has kinda become my default mode, where I feel as though anything unpleasant, or unwanted in life is just all the more reason to off myself.

And honestly, regarding the good look, who gives a shit man! I'm so tired of the normal pretense I have to keep up all the time for the sake of those around me, I just appreciate this place where I can just be whatever, unfiltered, uncensored, just honest me.