My abuser managing to always find my Facebook Account?

[Zeus35]

Abit of a strange one. Although I have had to delete each of my Facebook accounts over the years because my abuser always finds them (even though I never use my real name and keep changing the names). It cant be because my abuser knows people who might know my Facebook account details. This is because I have never added anyone to my Facebook account and I have never told anyone abput each Facebook account. I go on Facebook mainly for ideas and DiY help. I don't actually go on it to socialize post my life or add anyone. Im anonymous on each account. Yet my abuser always finds my Facebook account. Whenever I type my number or email into the find my accoint section on Facebook it shows the profile picture and name. Im thinking is it that? How can a stalker repeatedly find an anonymous Facebook account? It make no sense given the fact no one else knows about my Facebook account each tome I make one. I don't live in tje same house or city as the person. It's creepy

 

[codedarchaeologist]

Facebook matches you with people whose phone numbers (and maybe emails) you have saved. So if you're using your real phone number or email, Facebook is just going to hand your abuser your accounts on a silver platter. There might be privacy options to disable this, but I don't know which ones work.

 

[Zeus35]

Facebook matches you with people whose phone numbers (and maybe emails) you have saved. So if you're using your real phone number or email, Facebook is just going to hand your abuser your accounts on a silver platter. There might be privacy options to disable this, but I don't know which ones work.

Thank you. The problem is I don't have my abusers number saved or email saved. Infact when I left the abusive situation years ago I bought a new phone and used a new email address. I have never emailed my abuser of that email address and I haven't got my abuser saved as a contact in my phone and never have with the number. I used to buy cheap burner phones just to put a new sim in and use those details. I did used to give the number out to professionals(Dentist) and my abuser was always an to then get my number. The person used to ring up pretending to be me and then get my details. That's why I suspect it has something to do with the person finding out my personal email address and numbers and then tryping those into the "find my account" section on Facebook where you forget up password. If you put in a number or email address ir can she someone's profile picture and Facebook name. That's the only logical explanation because my abuser isn't a contact of mine in my phone or emails. I've never cpntacted my abuser of my email or number when I left. No one else knows abput the accounts either because I don't tell anyone when I create an account. If i create a Facebook account today called James Butler for example. Tell no ome about it, it doesnt hage my real name or any profole picture. My abuser will find it still. Its creepy. Im also not in contact with anyone who in my abuser. I left my entire life behind when I escaped the abuse.

 

[bijou]

this must be so unsettling and leave u feeling so unsafe i'm so sorry you have to go through this :(

i wish i could give u advice, but it sounds like total cyberstalking at this point. i would suggest getting authorities involved, but that can just be a totally retraumatizing situation…u don't deserve that crap at all…i would suggest serial blocking, but that just gives them an excuse to make another account…

do they keep finding you from new accounts? or the same one?

 

[Zeus35]

this must be so unsettling and leave u feeling so unsafe i'm so sorry you have to go through this :(

i wish i could give u advice, but it sounds like total cyberstalking at this point. i would suggest getting authorities involved, but that can just be a totally retraumatizing situation…u don't deserve that crap at all…i would suggest serial blocking, but that just gives them an excuse to make another account…

do they keep finding you from new accounts? or the same one?

The person keeps finding me from new accounts. I make an account and then I delete it because I've been found. I make another account said thing happens. Its been going on for years. This person sexually abused me as a child and facilitated another close relationship sexually abusing me to. At the point I think Im going to quit Facebook. Im not safe on it clearly and I dont like the idea of bad people being able o feel their stalking desire. I feel like by the person finding my new accounts and the contacting the I'm feeding thr stalking obsession. If I dont have a Facebook account they cant keep track of me.

 

[Againstthewind]

It would be best to either create a whole new email address for your account, so all all details are linked to that email if he does try to find your details through the find my account page or phone number. Of course, it may be better to come off Facebook altogether, but you can report him for harassment abuse through the Facebook service., whether they do anything about it is another questionnaire they don't have a great history with trying to nip bullying and harassment in the bud.

Do you have a restraining order against him?

 

[Zeus35]

It would be best to either create a whole new email address for your account, so all all details are linked to that email if he does try to find your details through the find my account page or phone number. Of course, it may be better to come off Facebook altogether, but you can report him for harassment abuse through the Facebook service., whether they do anything about it is another questionnaire they don't have a great history with trying to nip bullying and harassment in the bud.

Do you have a restraining order against him?

I've created new emails but the person has managed to still be my be Facebook name. Its stranfe and creepy. I tho its about control too. Trying to make me always look I've my should and feel unsafe.

 

[Sakura94]

I think its the" would you like this friend" notifications. Algorithm may see you go to old haunts and other family members ect. Then may recommend this new blank profile to him.
Not sure, but possible,

 

[Zeus35]

Well of the new accounts I have sometimes searched family members name and looks at pictures of the children. I've never contacted the relatives though

I think its the" would you like this friend" notifications. Algorithm may see you go to old haunts and other family members ect. Then may recommend this new blank profile to him.
Not sure, but possible,

 

[bijou]

The person keeps finding me from new accounts. I make an account and then I delete it because I've been found. I make another account said thing happens. Its been going on for years. This person sexually abused me as a child and facilitated another close relationship sexually abusing me to. At the point I think Im going to quit Facebook. Im not safe on it clearly and I dont like the idea of bad people being able o feel their stalking desire. I feel like by the person finding my new accounts and the contacting the I'm feeding thr stalking obsession. If I dont have a Facebook account they cant keep track of me.

this really is garbage…im lucky in the fact my childhoood abuser has left me alone, but i can't fathom the idea of them coming back…you deserve better. it sucks especially bc ur using fb for good hobbies too :(

i wish u the absolute best <3 stay safe and well pls!!!

 

[Pluto]

That sounds dreadful. I'd consider getting rid of Facebook if I were you. I rarely use it myself. I do use YouTube a lot for information. Maybe certain forums are good if you have any particular areas of interest.