Moving on

[ThatStateOfMind]

I think I'm ready to finally say that I want to move on from my ex. It's only took me 7 months . It's not been a linear process, nor do I know if this feeling of "moving on" will remain. What I do know is that now, in this moment, I think I'm ready to move on.

I've always equated my value to trivial and meaningless things, and the cheating that occurred with me just made it worse. I always beat myself up for the first month and longer after the break up with "Well. Maybe I could've done this or that and she would've stayed." The truth is, if a cheater wants to cheat, I couldn't stop her. There's nothing I could do if that was her desire that could've stopped her.

Personally, at this point and time in this moment, I feel that I deserve better than her. Better than someone who cheated on me, better than someone who can't own up to their mistakes and lies. I don't deserve that bs. I deserve someone that can see through the flaws into the content of my heart and character.

This is hard because she was my first love, and I feel like my healing journey isn't finished and might even be far from finished. They always say first love hurts the most. I deserve someone good, someone who won't cheat on me. It might've only been 3 days of cheating for her, but it's led to months of inner turmoil for me.

I clinged onto hope that she may leave him and we could work everything out but that was just hope. It likely won't happen, she's been with him for going on 7 months, and I gotta cut my losses. I don't know where to go from here. I guess I'll just wait and see how life goes. Who knows, maybe I'll meet someone new some day.

 

[timf]

Finding the resolve to move on is a healthy start to a new beginning.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I clinged onto hope that she may leave him and we could work everything out but that was just hope. It likely won't happen, she's been with him for going on 7 months, and I gotta cut my losses.

Yeah, fuck that.

Who knows, maybe I'll meet someone new some day.

The odds are pretty, pretty good.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

The odds are pretty, pretty good.

I guess I meant more so someone that I clicked with as well as her and I did. Not just someone new but someone who I relate with as I did her.

Finding the resolve to move on is a healthy start to a new beginning.

Thanks, I agree and hopefully this can be my sort of "new beginning". She's been trying to pile her problems onto me and I've been shutting that shit down: I'm done being her free therapist, go vent to the guy you cheated on me with.

 

[MissLonely]

I wish you the best. It's difficult to let go, but if you feel that you deserve better, you deserve better. Always know your worth.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

I guess I meant more so someone that I clicked with as well as her and I did. Not just someone new but someone who I relate with as I did her.

I knew what you meant. You're a young guy; of course you'll find other compatible people.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

I wish you the best. It's difficult to let go, but if you feel that you deserve better, you deserve better. Always know your worth.

Thank you, I am beginning to realize that and it feels great.

I knew what you meant. You're a young guy; of course you'll find other compatible people.

Thank you, I appreciate your faith. I am also sure I'll find someone.

 

[Elle]

You'll definitely find someone, I believe in you!

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

You'll definitely find someone, I believe in you!

Thank you! Also, the cat in you PFP is so cute!!

 

[Elle]

Thank you! Also, the cat in you PFP is so cute!!

Thankyou! <3

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

I think I'm ready to finally say that I want to move on from my ex. It's only took me 7 months . It's not been a linear process, nor do I know if this feeling of "moving on" will remain. What I do know is that now, in this moment, I think I'm ready to move on.

Hell yeah man!

And don't feel bad about the time it took you. I was in a relationship where we had lived together for two years and a half, and knew each other for an year more.
It took me around 6 months to feel "95%" okay and another 6 months to feel "99%" okay. Nowadays I'm doing fine but every once in a never she pops up in my thoughts or dreams. I would never date her again but there will always be a bit of me that misses her.

Best of luck,

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

Hell yeah man!

And don't feel bad about the time it took you. I was in a relationship where we had lived together for two years and a half, and knew each other for an year more.
It took me around 6 months to feel "95%" okay and another 6 months to feel "99%" okay. Nowadays I'm doing fine but every once in a never she pops up in my thoughts or dreams. I would never date her again but there will always be a bit of me that misses her.

Best of luck,

I feel like I can relate with you more than you could even imagine.

It's taken me so long. This is gonna sound sad but I'm just gonna put it out there. Only yesterday, I managed to finally take down some posters I held up to support her at a school pep rally. I, like you did about 6 months in, feel about 90% okay. She still pops up in dreams at least once a week, normally more, which sucks.

I feel like some part of me would still want to date her. At least it wasn't like I was a few months ago where I would happily take her back no questions, which means some meter of progress.

Thank you for your reply! It helped me feel like there's someone out there that can relate with me.