Venting Maybe you were right about my bf

[struggles_inc]

His moms cats were mischievous today, so I think they broke something. And my bf literally said he doesn't like animals and he wishes he would throw these cats out.

My response was that I don't trust people who dislike animals, and that I can't really trust such person with taking care of me or my kids.

To which he got extremely angry, told me to shut up and now we're not talking to each other.
Wow.

I didn't expect this to be true, but it seems you guys were right about him all along.

 

[struggles_inc]

UPD: Oh well, he apologised. I accepted the apology but the aftermath is still very painful.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Never trust a person who would throw out defenceless creatures.

If he does it with them..how about with you and maybe a future child?

Hello red flag.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

My feeling is more like the internet is always going to be brutal towards someone's partner, but real life is far from perfect. My mum for example doesn't like animals but she loves her kids a lot. Some people see animals as pests rather than companions or sentient beings also deserving of love. It doesn't make them bad people per se, but I can easily see how that could rub someone the wrong way, and how they'd hypothetically extrapolate that lack of care to other areas.

Anyway, in general I find it's best to keep your relationship to yourself. Only you can determine what's a dealbreaker or what's part of the rough and tumble of life. I've never understood these reddit posts either. "Girl, run!" It's like yeah okay, in a perfect world we'd all be in loving, perfectly reciprocal relationships, but again, life isn't a Disney movie.

Good luck to you.

 

[struggles_inc]

Anyway, in general I find it's best to keep your relationship to yourself

Thank you very much for your advice. I bet people who share relationship issues on this website would agree.

 

[Jack_Nimble]

I know it's very healthy to discuss your relationship with others. This helps us understand what's normal, what's healthy, and what's abuse. You don't have to live in a disney fairy tale to demand respect. I feel it's quite a red flag to be told to shut up for expressing your feelings. When others respond so negatively to your expression of feelings it is known to affect how or even if you choose to express your feelings in the future. Making a mistake and genuinely apologizing is human. But to make similar repeated mistakes of disrespect is abuse and should be ran from.