maladaptive daydreaming about socialising

[blood-orange]

Do any other lonely people constantly maladaptive daydream about scenarios where they are in a social group?
Like today i have just spent hours fantasising about having friends, and just in general being accepted for who i am in a group.
It is so sad, you'd think this would drive me to socialize more because a lack of social interaction is obivously driving me to daydream like this. However it doesn't and i just continue to daydream instead. I just wish i could get out of my own head.

 

[Dejected 55]

Not about groups. I don't care about belonging. I daydream about having a girlfriend or a wife, maybe kids. I don't do it as much anymore, but I would daydream about that.

 

[trying ungracefully]

Yeah and it gets bad where I'll zone out and start whispering to myself and even gesturing like I was talking to a person in real life. It's been happening since I was a kid but when I was a kid it was like a fanfic in my head for a show I loved.

 

[eggsausagerice]

i love sleeping and having my brain generate stuff about hanging around with friends, sleepovers, and watching tv together. it hurts more when the dream ends and i want to go back to it. when i try to daydream it ends up becoming me napping.

 

[soon4good]

Not about groups. I don't care about belonging. I daydream about having a girlfriend or a wife, maybe kids. I don't do it as much anymore, but I would daydream about that.

Same when I used to daydream, now I just feel a total inability to daydream for some reason and it's making me feel even more hopeless.

 

[Quietist]

I maladaptive daydream that I'm either 2003 era Travis Fimmel fucking my ex-art teacher, or that I'm a hotter version of myself in a position of power in a criminal organization.

And no, I'm not trolling - I'm just that weird, lol.

Edit: I should have clarified for relevance, that there are social aspects to those fantasies, the first one being that I get to "exist" in the body I want, in a romance I want, and the second being a fantasy of being in power and having loyal underlings, I guess, to make up for the fact that IRL I'm totally powerless and lonely.

 

[concession]

I maladaptive daydream that I'm either 2003 era Travis Fimmel fucking my ex-art teacher

Hell yeah

 

[Lookingtoflyfree]

Do any other lonely people constantly maladaptive daydream about scenarios where they are in a social group?
Like today i have just spent hours fantasising about having friends, and just in general being accepted for who i am in a group.
It is so sad, you'd think this would drive me to socialize more because a lack of social interaction is obivously driving me to daydream like this. However it doesn't and i just continue to daydream instead. I just wish i could get out of my own head.

yup - it's not only having acceptance but in the daydreams I can communicate well and I'm confident. It's safer to be in the dreams than real life.

 

[Celerity]

Yes, particularly when I long for attention or approval from someone I love or admire.

 

[notthistime]

Yeah. I didn't realize other people also do things like this. My day dreams are more so about being able to move in my body without pain.

 

[SailorBlue]

I've suffered from maladaptive daydreaming since I was very young.

It was a response to the loneliness I felt. I had a lot of trouble making friends at school because I had to be the adult at home, so I was too mature for my age and was no longer able to play like other children.
I always imagined friends with whom I could discuss things that interested me.

Right now, I feel like depression is stifling my imagination, and I can't dream anymore. There are times when I want to escape reality, but I can't because it catches up with me.

 

[Someplace_nice]

I spent 5 months in a constant maladaptive day dream, I never left my bed and everytime I'd wake up I'd wake up in my day dream, it got so real that coming back to reality hurt so much. I had friends, a husband, and 3 little ones, I went from almost 270 pounds to 234 pounds in that time bc I stopped eating for close to 3 days. It took me so long to get used to reality to the point that it drove me to this forum, I attempted CTB so many times to stay in that dream forever, I could not handle reality at all. Anytime I'd stay out for too long I'd have withdrawals really bad. I'd get sweaty, shaky, I couldn't hold still, I'd be anxious/irritable, and it would be the only thing on my mind. I try sometimes to go back into it but I can't and it feels weird when I try again, when I met my husband is when I forced myself to stop and it was the hardest thing ever.