lowkey feel like having a boyfriend would solve all my problems

[Valhala]

Thats totally not obessive and entitled at all. Why put all your validation onto one person? Habits like that are reasons people stray away. To put the responsibility of life and death onto one person just ruins any authenticity you'd expect from things happening naturally.

I get being obsessed with other people, but to make it take over your life like this will just make both parties miserable.

Happy late birthday tho.

Thank you for the congratulations on my birthday. It is not about the responsibility of anyone or about the validation of life and death, it is about my personal feelings which are as they are. I am aware that everyone makes their own decisions and chooses their own path, so this rule applies and on myself. She has nothing to do in terms of any responsibility for my feelings or decisions, all I wanted was to be honest and write how I feel on my birthday.

 

[Eventually_An_Angel]

I get this. I really, really do. Being an ill, terrified and lost woman in this world- all I want is just someone to take my hand and show me what it feels like to be protected and loved, even if it's just for a tiny bit of time. Even if it lasts for a month, I want it.
I have so much love in me too, and it seems like nobody wants it or gives a shit. I want to love and care but I am too ugly and stupid.
I'll proudly admit that I am not a strong and independent woman. I survived 28 years alone without any help but I am tired of it. Give me a farm, a house, I'll take care of everything just let me live far away from society. I don't know anymore...

sighs u get me i understand i just. thats all i could ever want. if i could just have that i dont need anything else. but obviously i never will

 

[tiredash]

Found this post and its the same for me... It would not solve all my problems, but would give me strength to keep living through the pain. And half of the pain its the loneliness, the lack of affection, the nobody loving me... My life would have been very different if i had someone when i was young...

 

[needthebus]

how old are you? you give off the vibe of being incredibly young

have you tried dating sites? meetup.com? going to places where guys are around?

 

[Gangrel]

void filler indeed, been shite my whole life, got bf, not good enough lol

 

[Echofox7]

I want to get some insight here from others that with more life experience. Im in my early to mid 30's and i been single for 13 years. In those 13 years about 2-3 years i didn't want a relationship but the last 10-11 years i always yearned for a relationship but for some reason its been so difficult and i tried everything here in the UK as a male. I faced many many rejections and thought i gotta do something different so i did some travelling around Africa and met this girl that i dated for few months but i ended it because i felt like she was not right for me and i did not want to deal with the whole applying and immigration. Now im back in square one and i feel so hopeless and i avoid going out in public places because all i see is guys hanging out with their girlfriends/partners and this causes deep pain inside me. The other day i saw this girl at the supermarket that i thought was cute and i came home felt emotional pain and upset because i just wished that that girl i saw i dated and i know it may never last and we are not entitled to girls. I know trying to meet a girl here in the UK is over its just impossible and i have no chance, and i dont think im bad looking, i workout been lifting weights for 10 years with good shape. I also dont like working, its just such a drag the whole day working dealing with many customers on the phone in the renewals department, i don't have any hope to get any other job and i just accepted that im just going to be below average my whole life because im never been good enough compared to the other guys out there. I dont know how long i can cope being single like this.

 

[yousaidimsweet]

sounds fun while it lasts but the thing is that relationships don't last. people always come and go. i fear you might also be setting yourself up for a codependent relationship, and when those go south it can bring you right back to square one with your mental health.

 

[DeadEndRoad]

Don't let these people tell you what you need. YOU know what you need. They're right in the sense that picking the wrong person COULD make things worse but thats a given.



Because of the way I grew up, money has never really mattered to me, nor status. I don't have a dream job or any lifelong goals. I don't want a big house or an expensive car. The one thing I wanted in life was love, yet it's the one thing I can't just go and grab. I can't work for it. Someone else needs to offer it. And the world tells me that the solution is to stop caring about the one thing I want, and focus on all the things I don't even care about.

 

[iwishiwishiwish]

Even after getting the sweetest, most loving boyfriend anyone could ask for, it didn't change the overwhelming hatred I felt towards myself, so I would say you should probably work on yourself before getting into a relationship. Or, you can just date around and experiment if you want temporary validation, but this can ultimately screw with your self-esteem , so proceed with caution!

 

[taysontheory]

I will speak very logically, since humans are social beings they need a lover, and since love or a relationship is not always continuous and the divorce rate is high, then you must be careful as well. In short, love yourself, no one cares about you more than you ..