Venting Lost the only girl I knew and had a chance with

[shadow7891]

I am pretty much a loner. I have no luck in friendships or relationships, just like I don't have luck in almost anything else. This girl though I have been chatting with for a very long time. We really got to know each other. We talked about almost everything. We found each other attractive and I really have fallen for her. Not too long we just started seeing and after one of our dates she just decides that I am not what she is looking for and no longer wants to see me. We spent such a long time getting to know each, complementing one another, sharing our thoughts and secrets with one another, we expressed everything and then because of just one date she decides not to be with me. This is the only girl I knew and hoped I had a chance to be with. Just another event which adds to the reason why I want to catch the bus and and reminds me of two quotes which I live my life by: "expect nothing and you will never be disappointed" & "hope is a dangerous thing, hope can drive a man insane, it's got no use, get used to that"

 

[littlelady774]

That's how people are sometimes, unfortunately. I've had the same happen to me before too but it was a guy that did it.
You're not the only one

 

[asani]

Oh, I feel you. Almost the same thing happened to me but we were dating for more than one year. I have crippling depression so it was hard to be in a relationship with me but I was grateful for everything he gave me. Though three months ago he has decided to throw me away like a puppy. I tried to CTB after that but something went wrong. And still I can't find peace in myself and just want to end things.
People are like this, unfortunately... I wish I could advice something, but I have no idea. Probably nothing will make it easier.

 

[Steamm]

Same thing happened to me few months ago and I still didn't get over it. I feel your pain, it's awful.

 

[kqlysrsly]

I am pretty much a loner. I have no luck in friendships or relationships, just like I don't have luck in almost anything else. This girl though I have been chatting with for a very long time. We really got to know each other. We talked about almost everything. We found each other attractive and I really have fallen for her. Not too long we just started seeing and after one of our dates she just decides that I am not what she is looking for and no longer wants to see me. We spent such a long time getting to know each, complementing one another, sharing our thoughts and secrets with one another, we expressed everything and then because of just one date she decides not to be with me. This is the only girl I knew and hoped I had a chance to be with. Just another event which adds to the reason why I want to catch the bus and and reminds me of two quotes which I live my life by: "expect nothing and you will never be disappointed" & "hope is a dangerous thing, hope can drive a man insane, it's got no use, get used to that"

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Same thing happened to me few months ago and I still didn't get over it. I feel your pain, it's awful.

Watch my reply above.

 

[Worndown]

I am sure there are girls out there that you do not know you have a chance with. You cannot always know everything.

 

[greebo6]

I am pretty much a loner. I have no luck in friendships or relationships, just like I don't have luck in almost anything else. This girl though I have been chatting with for a very long time. We really got to know each other. We talked about almost everything. We found each other attractive and I really have fallen for her. Not too long we just started seeing and after one of our dates she just decides that I am not what she is looking for and no longer wants to see me. We spent such a long time getting to know each, complementing one another, sharing our thoughts and secrets with one another, we expressed everything and then because of just one date she decides not to be with me. This is the only girl I knew and hoped I had a chance to be with. Just another event which adds to the reason why I want to catch the bus and and reminds me of two quotes which I live my life by: "expect nothing and you will never be disappointed" & "hope is a dangerous thing, hope can drive a man insane, it's got no use, get used to that"

That is sad. I'm sorry it worked out like that. I can imagine how much that would have hurt. I agree hope is a cruel and dangerous thing and to give someone false hope can be cruel in itself , even when done with the best of intentions .

 

[nooo2]

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That guy in that video seems like a giant asshole, I really hope you don't think like that. I didn't watch the full video, but not every woman is like that. It's just how some PEOPLE are, you'll run into the same thing with some men.

 

[not4us]

Maybe try to be more persistent with her. People change their mind all the time. Sometimes girls do that to see if you are ready to fight for your relationships.

 

[kqlysrsly]

That guy in that video seems like a giant asshole, I really hope you don't think like that. I didn't watch the full video, but not every woman is like that. It's just how some PEOPLE are, you'll run into the same thing with some men.

The world is kind of built for assholes but that's not the take away from the video.
Im just trying to help these guys with the truth.

 

[Panna]

They aren't worth it mate in the long run, while men sit there after the experience and feel like they want to kill themselves, the lady just walks off and finds another guy with nothing bad to show for it. I'm like you in that sense, never been with a girl my entire life, one comes along and acts like she likes me, we hang out for almost the whole year, find out at the start of the next, that she was only befriending me to try and get me to join her catholic branch and she planned to stop talking to me afterwards regardless. They're nothing but trouble.

 

[After The End]

Sometimes girls do that to see if you are ready to fight for your relationships.

Yes I've seen this often. In other words they expect their partners to disregard their boundaries. You don't want to get involved with people like that. Not saying this is the OPs issue. Just saying that if someone tells you no, or that they're not interested take it at face value.

If they mean it, why would you want to violate their boundaries?

If they don't, and it's some kind of 'test,' they've just proven inherently untrustworthy in a context upon which the foundation of a healthy relationship is set. You're better off without them.

 

[262653]

Thanks for the link. I think it's a good idea (for oneself) to be aware that, at the end of the day, personal wants and needs come first, be it for a man, a woman, or anyone else. Other ways lead to more suffering.

 

[MartyByrde]

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Watch my reply above.

Wtf? I'm a guy, and I already hate this guy in the video. That kind of mentality has any relationship with a woman doomed from the start. Please don't listen to him unless you're trying to be alone forever.

 

[DyingAlf]

Maybe try to be more persistent with her. People change their mind all the time. Sometimes girls do that to see if you are ready to fight for your relationships.

No, don't do that!
Respect her. Respect her decision. Respect her boundaries.
Otherwise, you'll also be disrespecting yourself.

I'm sorry that happened to you OP.

 

[Meditation guide]

That's how people are sometimes, unfortunately. I've had the same happen to me before too but it was a guy that did it.

This happens all the time to lots of us. About hope: it's the only thing we have. The gates of hell say on them;ABANDON HOPE ALL YE WHO ENTER.

 

[Dragonfire]

I'm the same I can't seem to keep a relationship no matter what I do

 

[Good4Nothing]

Same thing happened to me recently.
Don't know if I should keep looking for someone, spend the rest of my life alone, or just kill myself.

 

[TheSomebody]

The more I read comments like yours, the more I convince myself that nobody cares about anyone. People only come to you out of curiosity and interests, but after they meet that need they leaves you. People are trash, don't put too much expectation on anyone.

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