Leaving post death instructions

[Starryeyes]

I have started doing a note for my family on my laptop. I know they will hate what I'm asking, and are likely to ignore it. The main points are. Do not give me a funeral. Do not give me a wake. Do not announce my death in any paper or online. I wish to be buried in * said* cemetery with the only marker of my death as my first and last name. And so on…

this is as close to a goodbye note as they will be getting.

I know my close brother will find this particularly hard to follow, but all my life I have felt very unwanted, unappreciated and generally a ' nothing' to the world. Why should my death be any different?

will you be requesting anything that your loved ones will find hard?

 

[FuneralCry]

I certainly do not want a funeral, I just want to be cremated. However I guess it does not matter really what happens to my body after death as by that point I will be no longer existing.

 

[Beau]

I am requesting that my ashes eventually be scattered at sea. It will take some money to hire a boat and get the permits. Hopefully it won't be too windy that day - I have visions of ashes winding up in people's faces, ala the Big Lebowski.

In all honesty I don't think it really matters what happens. I will be gone and oblivious to it all.

If you were close to your brother, maybe a separate, more personal note to him would be a good idea.

 

[Cherry xoxo]

I have been contemplating this for a while now if I should leave a note or not but if I do the instructions would be that money from savings should be used for whatever funeral costs are required, I was saving up to buy a car I never thought I'd be saving up for my own death. Only the people closest to me would be allowed at the funeral (I would make a list of 10-15 people). I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread at sea.
No one should be told the cause of unless they are my immediate family.

 

[Dot]

I was saving up to buy a car I never thought I'd be saving up for my own death

Relate - Was saving for house deposit with some from grandfather inheritance.

 

[feggut]

I've thought about this for a long time, and the realization I've come to is that regardless of what your wishes are, the family will most likely choose for themselves how they wish to mourn and commemorate your memory after suicide, in a way that upholds their honor.

 

[Lady black]

Yes wearing my favourite clothes when I get buried will be hard to understand for them, as they are normally not for males...

 

[Starryeyes]

One of the big things for me was not wanting a funeral. Having organised my own mums funeral even at basic levels was a few thousand. As my close brother is my oldest he would be liable for the cost as he works full time and so couldn't get help with it such as a grant. I really don't want him to have to struggle financially for my decision

 

[Lady black]

You should mention this reason in the instruction, so that he will understand your decision

 

[Starryeyes]

You should mention this reason in the instruction, so that he will understand your decision

That's a great idea, thank you

 

[xLosthopex]

My post-death instructions

 

[Chockles]

I've written my suicide note, already deleted a lot of online social media accounts, given my parents a list of my bank details, cards & charity choices for money I have left. Told them to give any possessions to charity or bin whatever easier for them. Assuming I go through with ctb hopefully next week sometime as N now ordered just waiting to receive & I must go through with it in in torturous agony, I'm getting buried by my parents along with my gran but there will be no funeral service just my elderly parents who know how much I'm suffering, & now support my decision to need to die. They know I'm suicidal So do the local police after 2 failed attempts, they just don't know the method or when I'm going to do it.
But even they losing their only baby know its for the best now having been bed ridden 10 months in agony. Once N in my possession I will close all other online apps then i have to get myself out of this torturous existence.

 

[Passersby]

I have worked all this out, changed it, reworked it, and changed it multiple times throughout my suffering. Life is exhausting as it is but when you have prolonged suffering and distress there is no way out because problems will ebb and flow some but the core which isn't fixable stay with you. I guess thats how I know I have to CTB. It sucks. For now I want no funeral like you stated also. I want to minimize the whole thing and not even have most people know until I'm already in the ground. The thing for me is that I think my wish of a simple death with no funeral might not get fulfilled. It depends on who is alive when i die i guess. I hope things will go the way I want though. Which is no funeral, and no wake. Simple death and gone. People and society tends to go ahead ad do whatever they are going to do regardless of somebody's wishes so this leads me to believe they will do it there way and disregard the way I want it. WHo knows I guess.

Get this life over and done. It sucks and is unfortunate but what can we do right. I know a lot of people wont understand it but who cares? They dont have my suffering. I know there will be some haters and people who will talk shit but screw them. Like I said they dont have my / our suffering and they wouldn't last a month with mine/ our situations. So I will join the millions of other people who have had to CTB.

I'm also looking for a special type of somebody to give my special things too who will appreciate them so that the state doesn't come and take my shit. Work everything out. It's a good idea. Still have to work stuff out too I realized. It sucks. It's never complete. I hope things can work out for you Sue somehow. Yes these requests are hard but when you've been at it for so long it's like I just want to get on with this. I want to have things worked out , will complete, and be done. Some people wont take me seriously i guess until I'm actually dead no matter how many times Ive told them I'm going to CTB but again whatever I guess. I really wish I had N. It would be one thing in all of this situation that would make it easier.

 

[8evergo]

I hope my CTB will be this November, I will take my cell phone with me and write in what is important after my death.

 

[Starryeyes]

I hope my CTB will be this November, I will take my cell phone with me and write in what is important after my death.

Yes mines also on my phone

I have worked all this out, changed it, reworked it, and changed it multiple times throughout my suffering. Life is exhausting as it is but when you have prolonged suffering and distress there is no way out because problems will ebb and flow some but the core which isn't fixable stay with you. I guess thats how I know I have to CTB. It sucks. For now I want no funeral like you stated also. I want to minimize the whole thing and not even have most people know until I'm already in the ground. The thing for me is that I think my wish of a simple death with no funeral might not get fulfilled. It depends on who is alive when i die i guess. I hope things will go the way I want though. Which is no funeral, and no wake. Simple death and gone. People and society tends to go ahead ad do whatever they are going to do regardless of somebody's wishes so this leads me to believe they will do it there way and disregard the way I want it. WHo knows I guess.

Get this life over and done. It sucks and is unfortunate but what can we do right. I know a lot of people wont understand it but who cares? They dont have my suffering. I know there will be some haters and people who will talk shit but screw them. Like I said they dont have my / our suffering and they wouldn't last a month with mine/ our situations. So I will join the millions of other people who have had to CTB.

I'm also looking for a special type of somebody to give my special things too who will appreciate them so that the state doesn't come and take my shit. Work everything out. It's a good idea. Still have to work stuff out too I realized. It sucks. It's never complete. I hope things can work out for you Sue somehow. Yes these requests are hard but when you've been at it for so long it's like I just want to get on with this. I want to have things worked out , will complete, and be done. Some people wont take me seriously i guess until I'm actually dead no matter how many times Ive told them I'm going to CTB but again whatever I guess. I really wish I had N. It would be one thing in all of this situation that would make it easier.

Thank you Frank, you also. I like the sound of that.. ' simple death and gone'
I hope our families listen to our requests

 

[ChobaniFlipSmores]

I'm basically writing up 2 sets of plans. The plans for what I would want to happen and a set of plans that I believe people would want. To be honest, I'll be dead and they have to deal with my death. I'm not wanting to make it any harder for them than necessary.