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[Suicide_vampire]

Just wanted to say thanks to those individuals that I have communicated with. There are a lot of really kind genuine people here and I wish you all luck.
But I did not come here to receive derogatory comments or being judged by people who have no clue about me or my life.
As much as I have got something out of being here and hope my words have added something to the decent people, I'm not going to have my own mental health harmed by people looking to make themselves feel better by bringing people down.
So I'm just going to delete my account.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Hell don't leave the forum on one person who judged you,
I get judged a lot on this forum for my choices and my life even when people don't know me in RL, I have learned to either debate back and turn it into a fair debate, or I just ignore them,
You have to understand just because we are all here for a common theme, we will not all agree on the same thing, everyone's opinions will vary, and to be honest if we all agreed then it would get rather boring,
Yes its wrong for people to judge others, but sadly that is part of life, esp when you are on a forum with hundreds of others, there will be the odd few who pop up,
You are right they don't know you or your personal life, so they post on what they see, so either ignore or turn it into a better debate :)

 

[voyager]

What exactly happened? In my experience this community is overwhelmingly friendly, probably the nicest place on the net. So, it would be a shame if you'd let a negative experience get the better of you. There's a lot of comfort here to be found. But it's a sanctuary, not a prison, so if you want to move on, good luck and farewell.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

What exactly happened? In my experience this community is overwhelmingly friendly, probably the nicest place on the net. So, it would be a shame if you'd let a negative experience get the better of you. There's a lot of comfort here to be found. But it's a sanctuary, not a prison, so if you want to move on, good luck and farewell.

Suicide_Vampire posted a positive post about people seeking help, she explained her experiences, it was quite uplifting in some ways, she was encouraging others to reach out and do the same, bascially couldn't understand why people don't,
Some women replied lynched her accusing her of forcing pro life onto others on here and so forth!
I think SV took it a little too personally sadly, the post has now been removed from what I can see

 

[Jean4]

Just wanted to say thanks to those individuals that I have communicated with. There are a lot of really kind genuine people here and I wish you all luck.
But I did not come here to receive derogatory comments or being judged by people who have no clue about me or my life.
As much as I have got something out of being here and hope my words have added something to the decent people, I'm not going to have my own mental health harmed by people looking to make themselves feel better by bringing people down.
So I'm just going to delete my account.

I do not want you to leave, and I am very sorry you received such treatment. I apologize for not seeing it. I would have stepped in immediately.

Please stay. There is always the block button.

I am here if you want to talk, and again. Please stay.

 

[voyager]

I see, thanks. Well, that is a touchy subject around here. Am sorry you had a bad experience, but I'm sure you meant well. Thing you should try to understand though is that a lot of us around here have been paternalised our entire lives when it comes to the subject ctb. Earlier this week we had the same situation with the programme about Callie Lewis, so people are a little on edge and maybe you can see why people might have taken it the wrong way. For what it's worth though, when I first came on here I started talking about trains, another subject that doesn't go down too well, but it's fine to disagree on here. It usually stays friendly and no one here holds a grudge in my experience.

 

[Broken Chimera]

You don't have to leave just because people didn't agree with you. And if someone is giving you a problem, use the block button. If people are putting you down you don't have to tolerate that. But most of the forum isn't like that.

 

[jgm63]

Just wanted to say thanks to those individuals that I have communicated with. There are a lot of really kind genuine people here and I wish you all luck.
But I did not come here to receive derogatory comments or being judged by people who have no clue about me or my life.
As much as I have got something out of being here and hope my words have added something to the decent people, I'm not going to have my own mental health harmed by people looking to make themselves feel better by bringing people down.
So I'm just going to delete my account.

Keep in mind, there will always be some "a**hol*s", wherever you go.
There are many members on this site, so it's more or less a statistical impossibility to not run into an idiot at some point....
(However, I don't know the details of what took place, so I don't want to automatically assume the other party is an "idiot", I'm just using those terms to convey the spirit of what I'm saying).
The solution is about how you "frame it" in your mind.
That takes a lot of time to master...
There's an art to dealing with people.
Always take the higher ground.
If someone insults you, don't lower yourself by insulting back, but you can still make your view on the matter known.
You'll feel "clear" in yourself when you deal with things that way.
You can also have compassion, knowing that that person may be speaking from pain, or ignorance that might incur karma.
All of this takes years to fully get a handle on of course.....
(and I'm not saying you're not already skilled in these matters)

Anyhow, hope you'll consider staying on the site, unless you genuinely no longer have a need of it of course.....

 

[Epsilon0]

Things in writing often come across harsher than they are meant to be. This, coupled with the controversial nature of our topics and the fact that many of us are under psychological distress, seems to make the perfect recipe for a big bowl of hurt feelings.

I don't know which thread you are referring to, but please know that things can get heated pretty quickly and it doesn't always have to do with you personally.

I am sorry that you are so hurt and decide to leave this community. If you change your mind, please know you are welcome back any time.

 

[Jean4]

Things in writing often come across harsher than they are meant to be. This, coupled with the controversial nature of our topics and the fact that many of us are under psychological distress, seems to make the perfect recipe for a big bowl of hurt feelings.

I don't know which thread you are referring to, but please know that things can get heated pretty quickly and it doesn't always have to do with you personally.

I am sorry that you are so hurt and decide to leave this community. If you change your mind, please know you are welcome back any time.

I love you. This was perfect. Carry on.

 

[purplemoon]

When I first joined there was one member who hurt my feelings and was very hostile, even belittling my use of emojis...

at first it hurt and i even apologized out of being stunned and shocked...

I look back now and think, wow I can't believe I even let such a cruel person making themselves feel better by cutting down others even affect me like that.

Now I use more than emojis... I paste pictures often that the majority of people seem to appreciate. It's how i express feelings...

Please don't let one person stop you, it's not worth it. i respect whatever choice you make though.

You will find 98% of people on here are actually very nice...

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I commented on that thread. I respected the OP's comment and right to express it but tried to explain why I think some people behave the way they do as regards not accepting help, based purely on my own experiences. I believe everyone is entitled to express their thoughts and be listened to. The corollary of that is that you in turn have to respectfully listen back, even if you don't agree with it.
Please don't leave because someone else on the thread disagrees with you. People disagree with me all the time and I'm often wrong. I welcome that discussion.

 

[Epsilon0]

I love you. This was perfect. Carry on.

Thank you, Jean! I don't know how you always manage to say something nice, even in the most difficult threads... you seem to carry an endless well of love inside your heart. Never let it dry up! This forum needs it.

 

[Soulless_Angel]

I commented on that thread. I respected the OP's comment and right to express it but tried to explain why I think some people behave the way they do as regards not accepting help, based purely on my own experiences. I believe everyone is entitled to express their thoughts and be listened to. The corollary of that is that you in turn have to respectfully listen back, even if you don't agree with it.
Please don't leave because someone else on the thread disagrees with you. People disagree with me all the time and I'm often wrong. I welcome that discussion.

did you see the other reply, it was awful and so not called for :(

 

[Deleted member 1465]

did you see the other reply, it was awful and so not called for :(

Yeah I saw it. A shame someone leaves because of offence taken by a reply. Sometimes people have quite passionate responses because of personal experience. Its hardly surprising given what we all seem to have been through. Its just a shame.

 

[Suicide_vampire]

Thanks for all the messages of support, I have decided on reflection to not be pushed out of here by someone who in reality has no influence on my life

 

[Jean4]

Thanks for all the messages of support, I have decided on reflection to not be pushed out of here by someone who in reality has no influence on my life

I sent you a PM. Do not let people force you out. You are more than welcome here and are entitled to your opinion and feelings just like anybody else.

I am glad you have decided to stay. I am here for you.

 

[Banquo501]

I'm glad you've decided to stay too.

 

[voyager]

When I first joined there was one member who hurt my feelings and was very hostile, even belittling my use of emojis...

at first it hurt and i even apologized out of being stunned and shocked...

I look back now and think, wow I can't believe I even let such a cruel person making themselves feel better by cutting down others even affect me like that.

Now I use more than emojis... I paste pictures often that the majority of people seem to appreciate. It's how i express feelings...

Please don't let one person stop you, whoever it is they're not worth it.

You will find 98% of people on here are actually very nice...

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Aww, why would someone fault you about that?

^Makes me mad

Have to say, I wouldn't want this place turn into an image board per se, but I appreciate everyone's personal style of sharing their thoughts with us, and that means yours. In fact I secretly save your gifs and pics to pass them off as my own.



I know what your thinking...


but really...


...and I hope you stay as you are

 

[Mr2005]

Just wanted to say thanks to those individuals that I have communicated with. There are a lot of really kind genuine people here and I wish you all luck.
But I did not come here to receive derogatory comments or being judged by people who have no clue about me or my life.
As much as I have got something out of being here and hope my words have added something to the decent people, I'm not going to have my own mental health harmed by people looking to make themselves feel better by bringing people down.
So I'm just going to delete my account.

Don't blame you and I understand completely. You must have more self respect than me because I keep coming back. However it's people like you that keep me coming back so I hope you stay.

 

[purplemoon]

Aww, why would someone fault you about that?
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^Makes me mad

Have to say, I wouldn't want this place turn into an image board per se, but I appreciate everyone's personal style of sharing their thoughts with us, and that means yours. In fact I secretly save your gifs and pics to pass them off as my own.

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I know what your thinking...
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but really...
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...and I hope you stay as you are
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Thank you... That's very SWEET of
You!!




When i was a kid, I put a Sylvester Stallone poster on my ceiling, Lol. (wish i had Rambo to handle a creepy neighbor *sigh*)

Awww... a Shirley Temple smile to honor quirky eccentric me?! Thank you Voyager!!

You also get an A+ for witty use of gifs!

 

[Soulless_Angel]

Thanks for all the messages of support, I have decided on reflection to not be pushed out of here by someone who in reality has no influence on my life

Simply put, Thank fuck!!

 

[Lara Francis]

Thanks for all the messages of support, I have decided on reflection to not be pushed out of here by someone who in reality has no influence on my life

Great news and as other member has said.dont be afraid to use the block button.x

 

[voyager]

When i was a kid, I put a Sylvester Stallone poster on my ceiling, Lol. (wish i had Rambo to handle a creepy neighbor *sigh*)

Yeah, he was pretty cool. Who needs Rambo though when YOU could potentially have a gun. Sounds outlandish you say, maybe thinking...




I see this though...




Destroy his ass, Rambina!!

You also get an A+ for witty use of gifs!

Why ty, what can I say, I have some great mentors around here...


PS: Hope you don't regret encouraging me, don't want anyone to get a seizure. :(

 

[purplemoon]

Yeah, he was pretty cool. Who needs Rambo though when YOU could potentially have a gun. Sounds outlandish you say, maybe thinking...
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I see this though...
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Destroy his ass, Rambina!!
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Why ty, what can I say, I've had some great mentors around here...
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PS: People will get a seizure. Sorry. :(

All those are truly Fantastic!!

You're truly thoughtful Sir Voyager...

Although i never get my hands dirty...

Never mind any humorous contemplating of night vision goggles in a ninja outfit with a crossbow arrow lit on fire...

Maybe one of these Alpha male Heroes could assist me instead as they have always been so good to me... Lol



Just say No... Lol

 

[Misanthrope]

Thanks for all the messages of support, I have decided on reflection to not be pushed out of here by someone who in reality has no influence on my life

Something else to keep in mind. That there are plenty of people that simply read quietly and don't respond. Maybe your posts have value to those people? You just can't know. So with that in mind don't let anyone silence you. No one can speak on behalf of every one to begin with, differences of opinion are guaranteed. What matters though is holding on to your own integrity despite that. I am glad you get some value from here.

 

[voyager]

All those are truly Fantastic!!

You're truly thoughtful Sir Voyager...

Although i never get my hands dirty...

Never mind any humorous contemplating of night vision goggles in a ninja outfit with a crossbow arrow lit on fire...

Maybe one of these Alpha male Heroes could assist me instead as they have always been so good to me... Lol

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Just say No... Lol

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Oh, I get it, the good old damsel in distress act. Smart. Looks like you're in good hands and no need to worry about you.

Never mind any humorous contemplating of night vision goggles in a ninja outfit with a crossbow arrow lit on fire...

Aha! So you have thought about it...



Or maybe more like this?








^adorable and yet such a devious mind

 

[Xena87]

Just wanted to say thanks to those individuals that I have communicated with. There are a lot of really kind genuine people here and I wish you all luck.
But I did not come here to receive derogatory comments or being judged by people who have no clue about me or my life.
As much as I have got something out of being here and hope my words have added something to the decent people, I'm not going to have my own mental health harmed by people looking to make themselves feel better by bringing people down.
So I'm just going to delete my account.

Who cares?! Every bitch and bastard in the world is against me. People will have opinions of you, good and bad. People will say things which may upset you...but don't isolate yourself over this. This person probably didn't mean to upset you anyway. They're here after all, we're all in the same boat. Suicidal misfits.
Stop crying, you're a fucking vampire after all.

 

[purplemoon]

Hopefully the original poster @Suicide_vampire got a nice glimpse of examples of people often getting along fairly well on here...

(sorry for the distraction on your thread)

Glad you're thinking of trying to stay on SS...

Hope everyone has a good day despite serious circumstances...

Peace

Oh, I get it, the good old damsel in distress act. Smart. Looks like you're in good hands and no need to worry about you.
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Aha! So you have thought about it...
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Or maybe more like this?

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^adorable and yet such a devious mind

i forgot to mention i don't do any drugs or alcohol (headaches, ill, gross) either... for real. (not kidding)

i just liked the humor of Shirley Temple doing it as funny...

Oh, I get it, the good old damsel in distress act. Smart. Looks like you're in good hands and no need to worry about you.
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Aha! So you have thought about it...
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Or maybe more like this?

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^adorable and yet such a devious mind

i NEVER pretend distress, Ever... if i cry, it is always 100% Genuine...

i'm completely honest 99% of the time (seriously, i am)... the only time i might lie a little is if one of the following conditions exist:

(1) the person's self-esteem will be affected/feelings hurt,

or...

(2) they are a psychopath / weirdo who is possibly dangerous

In the event that i may be asked, in order to avoid lying, i simply remain evasive (if you don't speak an answer then it's not lying)... or answer the question with a question (still not a lie).

i've been called a goody-2-shoes all my life with good reason... i always operate on principles of maintaining as much goodness and peace as possible...

So what seems to be the officer, problem?

 

[voyager]

Hopefully the original poster @Suicide_vampire got a nice glimpse of examples of people often getting along fairly well on here...

(sorry for the distraction on your thread)

Glad you're thinking of trying to stay on SS...

Hope everyone has a good day despite serious circumstances...

Peace


i forgot to mention i don't do any drugs or alcohol (headaches, ill, gross) either... for real. (not kidding)

i just liked the humor of Shirley Temple doing it as funny...



i NEVER pretend distress, Ever... if i cry, it is always 100% Genuine...

i'm completely honest 99% of the time (seriously, i am)... the only time i might lie a little is if one of the following conditions exist:

(1) the person's self-esteem will be affected/feelings hurt,

or...

(2) they are a psychopath / weirdo who is possibly dangerous

In the event that i may be asked, in order to avoid lying, i simply remain evasive (if you don't speak an answer then it's not lying)... or answer the question with a question (still not a lie).

i've been called a goody-2-shoes all my life with good reason... i always operate on principles of maintaining as much goodness and peace as possible...

So what seems to be the officer, problem?


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Don't worry about it, if I thought you were anything like that I wouldn't spam you with gifs or interact with you. In fact, I wondered after putting Rambina up if it was such a swell idea considering your creep might in fact be a serious issue. So, I'm glad you didn't take it the wrong way and I'm sorry if he is. I might just be born with a foot in my mouth. I see a lot of myself in what you wrote too. Only difference is I'm not especially evasive when it comes to answering questions from people who I shouldn't be on the outside. Honesty Tourette's perhaps? Heard autistic people also suffer from this. Really though I trace this back to the mhi. I'm a terrible liar now, and even when I tell the truth I come across as one.

To me you're the grown up version of Shirley, one which just so happens to want to murder her neighbour.

Anyway, we're good.

Really.




And just reiterating all purplemoon said, glad you're staying @Suicide_vampire and hope you'll have a good time here.