Discussion Leaving a note. Do's & Don't's

[Busridin'26]

Id given up on the concept of leaving a note but like lately not too sure. Would love to hear dif perspectives tho.

Im at a point where I don't know if ots ok to leave a note that is just positive & reassuring. Been abused all my life. From infancy and on ward. By many people.

My letter wouldn't even per say be some vengeful thing but more so telling the truth about some of experiences and such

Thank people that did love and support and help.

But yeah I've realized I can't write any note and leave out nor so great things bc majority of my life has been shit. Maybe my not isn't for others at all as it is for myself and getting to tell my truth.

I dunno if this is right tho.


I dunno.

So love to hear dif perspectives


Curious to hear the communities opinions jn the context of final letters/notes and such

 

[DonLockwood]

Originally I wasn't going to leave a note but i've somewhat changed my mind about it recently. I have a note right now but its pretty barebones, it's more or less just saying thanks and sorry. I also have a journal that I have just to jot my thoughts down that isnt very positive compared to the note and kinda makes me wonder if I should somehow despose of it if I actually do go ahead with CTB. Hell, I would argue that its the main reason why I wrote down the note in the first place.

I'm not gonna pretend to know your story but maybe try just journaling your thoughts down if you aren't already. You may or may not get an idea on what to put on the note or leave out. Thats if you do want to do a note.

 

[doomedbynarrative]

I think notes can be a last kindness we can do for the people who do love us because, as I understand it, ctb does cause pain for loved ones and they will go over and over in their heads trying to figure out why and trying to understand their relationships. A note can really help answer questions and also reassure people of your love.

Notes can also be a way to finally get our truth out there. A lot of people haven't been able to say their truth or tell their story their whole lives and it is totally fine to want to do so at death. It's not revenge. Stories are important since life is temporary either way.